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Very good question, focused on real and useful problem. Mind generates aversion when things go contrary to what it believes is "right". This belief is called "attachment". For example you believe that only certain weather is good and that it should be that same weather most of the time. So the first technique is to remember this as soon ...


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Case 57 of the Blue Rock Collection I alone am holy Case A monastic said to Zhaozhou, "It is said, 'The Great Way is not difficult. It only abhors choice and attachment.' Now, what are nonchoice and nonattachment?" Zhaozhou said, "I alone am holy throughout heaven and earth." The monastic said, "It is still choice and attachment.&...


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But one drug that always bothered me since I was young was cocaine. I used to feel that way about alcohol. :-) Not only that, but when somebody close to me talks about it in a nonchalant way, ... Yes unfortunately it can be massively insidious. IMO it's a bit like smoking cigarettes but more so -- addictive, people who try it like it, and IMO their liking ...


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Both fear and disliking are unskillful as they are forms of aversion. However there is a mental state which appears as fear or disliking, but it is a form of wisdom that understands the danger of something. Ex: if you have the knowledge that a hot iron will burn your hand if touched directly, you are not going to touch it directly. But you do not have a ...


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It's not accurate that the suttas do not address aversion (dosa) and the antidote for it. For example, in the Nakulapita Sutta, the Buddha advises householder Nakulapita with regards to his aversion to old age and disease: Then the householder Nakulapita went to the Blessed One and on arrival, having bowed down to him, sat to one side. As he was ...


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Firstly one should know how to handle experiances. This is what Vipassana teaches you. Judging or reacting to sensation can lead to negative latent tendencies: (1) the latent tendency to lust reinforced by being attached to pleasant feelings; (2) the latent tendency to aversion reinforced by rejecting painful feelings; (3) the latent tendency ...


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Like desire (and aversion is just the other side of the same issue=tanha & avijja), aversion is required for the path. The matter is just for what desire, for what aversion. Nyom has a lot of aversion to listen, since this question was similar raised some times ago... What, if I hold on, will be for may long term benefit...? and vici versa. As long as ...


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Yes, it is sometimes said in Mahayana that "hinayana" is the basic foundation, and that its primary focus is to learn to be satisfied with little, to control one's desire for entertainment, lust for sensual pleasures, and impulse to grasp after objects of the world. The end goal of this phase is an image of someone like a warrior or an ascetic: cool, ...


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Good householder, Without life, a good birth, how could, would one practice the path out. As the lokuttara-depending co-arising counts: birth/stand/life(jati) is condition for Dukkha, Dukkha reason for Saddha (conviction),... liberation. So "gati, gati, paragati, parasamgati Bodhisvaha", good housholder. Getting better, better, over-good becoming, ...


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If you have come to Buddhism out of a desire to no longer suffer, that desire itself may lead to more suffering for you, if you do not succeed, for whatever reason. Buddhism provides ways to end your own suffering, but not by developing an aversion to life, but rather, by training your mind so that you do not crave things you do not have, nor desire things ...


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Craving for existence and craving for non existence , both are undesirable. We should see birth, life and death as dependently originated. Dependent Origination is the Dhamma. Dependent on birth comes life. Dependent on attachment comes birth. Dependent on craving comes the attachment. Craving of any kind leads to rebirth. For example craving for food or no ...


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"Come, bite your botty" sometimes help quick if telling angy children, or to "force" them looking, or need to look, into a mirror. Try it, when ever aversion arises.


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The rain is cold. With too much rain we can die of exposure. Knowing a body is cold, we can shield it or take it to a dry place. The thought "I am cold" or "I am averse to cold" can be replaced with the simple thought, "there is wet. there is cold." Further thoughts can address the situation with "this is bearable" or &...


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You reflect aversion is harmful to yourself & others; it causes stress to yourself & can even lead to physical disease, such as cancer. If you get angry at the other person in the wrong way or place, you can lose your job, etc, or get suspended by politically correct authorities. You also reflect the Buddha taught the foundational element of the ...


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Not sure whether it is a Buddhist perspective, i would like to share few things which may be of some sense to you. Please excuse my immature writing skills. There are two streams of thoughts/ideas/concepts/feelings we are put up with in any life situation. In present case, first stream is the feeling/idea of aversion. Please don't assume i am denouncing that ...


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OP: My question is how do I think or train mind to not have either desire or aversion towards life? There are plenty of reasons to not be afflicted by craving, and at the same time maintain happiness in your life. Here are a few reasons from the Dhammapada: Happy indeed we live, friendly amidst the hostile. Amidst hostile men we dwell free from hatred. ...


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Now this has led me to other end of thought spectrum of aversion towards life. As I learnt and understood 'craving for non existance' is also a craving and should be avoided. But how can one think otherwise. This is a very common misconception that I see very frequently. Yes it is true that ‘craving for non-existence’ is a form of craving that we wish to be ...


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My question is how do I think or train mind to not have either desire or aversion towards life? The danger of craving for non-existence is that it is a fatal obsession. Some with this wrong view have committed suicide. SN54.9:4.2: “Ānanda, why does the mendicant Saṅgha seem so diminished?” Because of this danger, the Buddha taught mindfulness of breathing ...


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'craving for non existance' That is a craving based on a notion of an existent being that ceases to exist. The verbalization of this craving is; 'I am', there being 'I am' there comes to be 'I exist', there being 'I exist' there comes to be 'I am bad because i exist', there being 'I am bad because i exist' there comes to be 'May I not be bad', there being '...


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That's your prejudice and as any prejudice it has deeply emotional roots. The right way to deal with it would be to work on it in meditation, by focusing on the emotion it triggers in you and going through the entire chain of secondary associations, until you see the root. The root will be some very basic formula, once you clearly see it you can undo it.


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Yes, as long as this would boost the desire to abandon what is unwholesome and undertake what is wholesome. these two bright qualities guard the world. Which two? Shame & compunction. If these two bright qualities did not guard the world, there would be no recognition of ‘mother’ here, no recognition of ‘mother’s sister,’ ‘uncle’s wife,’ ‘teacher’s wife,...


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Maybe if it's people that cares about you and your spiritual progress. Good friendship with good advices/criticism is a treasure to be protected. In the Dhammapada, we see that: Should one a man of wisdom meet who points out faults and gives reproof, who lays a hidden treasure bare, with such a sage should one consort. Consorting so is one ...


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Tryin to project one's self-image into the minds of others is a source of suffering1. So one should look inwardly and constraint oneself with the precepts and also develop the Brahavihara and be benevolent. This protects others also oneself. Beyond this worrying about what others think will create misery as this is not in one's control and one's ego is ...


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The nature of aversion is the hidden energy that lives in human's subconscious mind. There are some low-frequency energies, tendencies, desires in each human's subconscious mind that causes aversion, stress, unhappiness, anger, fear, restlessness, boredom and even the desire for sensuality. The root of these emotions, feelings and desires are not seperate ...


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There's some doctrine about the three poisons, which is quite neat: i.e. desire on the one hand, aversion on the other -- a pleasant symmetry. (I think these two, might be the two 'mice' in the zen story of the tiger and the strawberry). I wouldn't be surprised if "the three poisons" feature in the Pali canon, even so I think that in the suttas &...


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Is aversion strictly about anger, and irritation? Does it have nothing to do with avoidance (though the English term somewhat suggests this)? No, desire and aversion should both be understood in an abstract sense, sort of like the magnet's attract and repel forces. Aversion includes avoidance as well as an overall negative attitude towards something. Of ...


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