As my teacher explained, the reason we are needy and clingy is because we have not discovered how to be our own source of "energy". We are like babies depending on mothers' tits for nutrition, in this case emotional/psychosomatic nutrition.
In order to become independent, we must learn to obtain energy by ourselves. The entire Buddhist path can be seen as a ...
Well, technically boredom is a form of tanha, craving. We crave for excitement, for fun, for an external source of energy. And according to principle of "this-that conditionality" craving is also a form of aversion -- meaning, when we are bored we have an inner conflict against "this". For some reason we think that "this", "here", "now" is not good enough.
As my teacher explained, living with the feeling of wrongness is the very essence of samsara.
This constant feeling that you don't like your work, don't want to do it, and are forced to endure it only for survival - is NOT a normal condition. You should not force yourself to live like this year after year after year.
When you have inner conflict, you don't ...
The Buddha did not ask venerable Ananda to invite him to extend his life. He only hinted that it is possible for him to do so.
And when the Venerable Ananda had gone away, Mara, the Evil One, approached the Blessed One. And standing at one side he spoke to the
Blessed One, saying: "Now, O Lord, let the Blessed One come to his
In Buddha's time the life span is said to have been 100 years and there were several theras who touched even 120 years e.g. Ananda and Maha Kassapa. In fact Bakkula thera is said to have lived 160 years, he had ordained when he was 80. But we rarely hear anyone passing 100 at present.
A well-respected monk in Sri Lanka (late Ven. Nauyane Ariyadhamma) has ...
OP: To be man we have to compete, obtain resources and protect our families. Could it be all achieved reasonably and with compassion?
Could a man following Dhamma be a real, good man?
What you describe here is basically known as a householder or the head of a household in old times, and maybe even today.
The Sigalovada Sutta has plenty of good advice:
I think that in the Pali suttas:
"The deathless" is a synonym for nibanna (see this answer).
Samsara is conditioned and has no construable beginning (which, I think, means 'perpetual' but 'without an original creator')
Nibanna is (in contrast) unconditioned
I don't think there is (I don't know of any) doctrine which explains how/why conditioned existence ...
So this raises a dilemma. Continue being gentle and compassionate with loving kindness, and get eaten. Or react harshly when necessary and risk darkening ourselves. Or, is there a proper middle path?
I hope this is a false dilemma.
Some of the Buddhist principles that might help you to prosper (rather than "to be eaten") include:
Right livelihood (work ...
Generally, a calm & happy person is not inclined to commit suicide. Generally, a person thinks about committing suicide because they are unhappy & suffering from emotional pain.
In the Pali suttas, only enlightened beings are reported to have ended life. This occurred in at least two situations:
Terminal illness with totally disabling pain (e.g. ...
I could not find any commentaries with a detailed explanation on this.
I'll use the Bodhi translation of MN 12:
What is egg-born generation? There are these beings born by breaking
out of the shell of an egg; this is called egg-born generation. What
is womb-born generation? There are these beings born by breaking out
from the caul; this is called ...
Case 57 of the Blue Rock Collection I alone am holy
Case A monastic said to Zhaozhou, "It is said, 'The Great Way is not difficult. It only abhors choice and attachment.' Now, what are
nonchoice and nonattachment?" Zhaozhou said, "I alone am holy
throughout heaven and earth." The monastic said, "It is still choice
The idea that lifespan was longer in ancient times is nonsense, and has been throughly debunked, disproven, and so on. Over and over again.
Any monk or nun who states something like this, that they somehow "know" that lifespan has "decreased" is bullshitting you in order to seem "magical" or "wise". Don't fall for that nonsense.
At best, the average ...
Upasaka (lay follower) Lal shared a nice approach on his website: Sexual Orientation – Effects of Kamma and Gathi (Sankhara), Olivia Glad.
Whether one seeks direct liberation or best possible conditions also afterwards, there is only making merits which is conductive.
A short quote from the article:
One is born male or female due to whether one ...
In Buddhism there is the word "dukkha", which has a number of meanings & uses:
(1) "Dukkha vedana", which means "painful feelings".
(2) "Dukkha lakkhana", which means conditioned things are unable to permanently satisfy; or "unsatisfactoriness"
(3) "Dukkha" as "suffering"; i.e., "difficult to bear"; "hard to endure".
Every person born in the world ...
If you think current world is harsh, what essentially you need to understand is, the world only gets worse. Tomorrow is never going to be better than today. Real buddhists should never conflict with the harsh world. They need to understand the transient, evanescent and inconstant nature of the world and attain nibbana as soon as possible while Buddhism ...
Women bear many sorrowful feelings all of their lives. So how can they escape those lives and be men?
In my experience, men bear sorrowful feelings too.
Maybe they don't show their sorrow often. I think their sorrowful feelings are often related to their relationships with women and other men.
So men too may want to escape those lives.
When I read the ...
It is good karma to save a living being's life, which is what you do when you take care of one.
Fostering is better than buying one, because when you foster a pet, you don't encourage inbreeding and other abuses that happen in pet-breeding.
The short answer is “Yes”… Olivia Glad,… because the others provide the grounds, the right conditions for a kamma to bear fruit. How this comes to pass needs some explanation.
The laws of kamma are not just based on causes and effects, they depend on conditions. This is what prevents laws of kamma being deterministic. Understanding this would make it clear ...
I think the dharma says,
sabbe saṅkhārā aniccā — "all saṅkhāras (conditioned things) are impermanent"
So not "all phenomena", but specifically "all saṅkhārās" -- see Can anyone explain Sanskara / Sankara indepth?
This might be paraphrased like, "Everything that has a cause (or, 'has a beginning' or 'arises') has an end".
It's especially relevant for ...
One person's karma can have effects to another person. It is like living in/near war zone where a lot of killing (people are doing bad karma) are happening. The chances are very high to get killed/injuries. On the other hand, if someone don't have enough bad karma to get killed, he/she will escape no matter what. It just needs the right condition to be ...
Possible list of reasons for not condoning suicide:
You are intentionally taking a life which is breaking Sila and Vinaya
It bring social problems like misery to loved ones and oftens dependents
The act is done with negative mental state hence does not lead to beneficial rebirth in the next life.
Based on the view of extinction or nihilism which is ...
All things, whether conditioned or unconditioned, are dhammas ('phenomena') & elements (dhatu).
All things mentioned in Buddhism, whether conditioned or conditioned, are sense objects experienceable by the mind, i.e., 'ayatana' (refer to Sabba Sutta. Note: the translation should be 'mind objects' rather than 'ideas', so to include Nibbana).
In Buddhism, it is taught a successful lasting relationship requires two people to share the same qualities, which would include the same life goals. Therefore, in Buddhism, before two people get romantically, sexually & emotionally involved, they determine whether they share the same life goals for a lasting relationship. Today, while women often ...
Did the relationship fall apart because there was something lacking within yourself?
If so you can cultivate that piece and try to win her back (lots of guides on the internet for techniques on this because women often validate in non one-on-one interaction)... or if you determine what was lacking is not worth it to you... it is not part of your life mission....
To a Buddhist, the word 'manliness' usually means something completely different than what you think. To a Buddhist, 'manliness' means the ability to swim against the current. Not to get swept away by it. This is called "patisothagami patipada". The ordinary worldling is weak and easily defeated by the current of craving. Craving is their master and they ...
Feeling weltschmerz, which I guess is feeling that the world and its material pleasures are ultimately not going to satisfy you, is a good thing. It hints towards the first noble truth that there is suffering.
However, focusing too much on it will make you sad and depressed, which is a negative emotion and not wholesome.
In Buddhism, there are various ...
Prajna is direct practical realization of Buddha-Dharma.
It is when you 1) clearly see in front of your nose (and everywhere around you) all that cool stuff being spoken about in Buddhist books, and 2) have attained actual hands-on mastery of these theories and principles in your own day-to-day life.
Another way to say the above, Prajna is when 1) you ...
In Abhidhammattha Sangaha Sections on Supramundane Consciousness, Realisation of Nibbana, Rootless Consciousness, Nirodha Samapatti, Realization, Emancipation and Attainments cover aspects of Nirvana.
There are a few book which is based on this:
Comprehensive Manual of Abhidhamma, Bhikkhu Bodhi, general editor
Fundamental Abhidhamma, Dr. Nandamālābhivaṃsa