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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

As my teacher explained, the reason we are needy and clingy is because we have not discovered how to be our own source of "energy". We are like babies depending on mothers' tits for nutrition, in this ...
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What is the Buddhist perspective on child abuse?

The Pali scriptures (SN 12.17) state, from the perspective of ultimate truth, that the cause of suffering is 'ignorance' (rather than 'one-self' or 'another'). However, in the conventional scenario ...
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Buddhism and misanthropy

Buddhists meet all the same problems as other beings. If not these problems, there would be no need in Buddhism. So the question is: what do you have to do to solve them? If our view on the world ...
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Why is there even a way to the end of suffering?

In MN64, the Buddha discusses the conundrum of identity and the presumed immaculate innocence of infants: MN64:3.3: For a little baby doesn’t even have a concept of ‘identity’, so how could identity ...
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Did the Buddha ever weep in his days of Enlightenment?

A Buddha would never ever weep while in his days of Enlightenment. It is because of the quality Akampita. It means unshaken; calm; resolute; that which does not tremble; not to be shaken. The ...
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Waves of Sadness

AN 10.61 says the food/nutriment (ahara) of the five hindrances (which include sadness & despair) are the three unwholesome types of action. It follows sadness & despair are actually results ...
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How can we end the suffering of all animals?

Are you sure a black hole will destroy everything? Do you understand the world enough to determine what is best for other beings? Why did the Buddha declare the cosmos to be one of the four ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

What helped me tremendously distance myself is this: Contemplate the various advantages and disadvantages of having a girlfriend--particularly the one that you think you would get--not the dream-woman-...
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Buddhism and misanthropy

It's possible to be a Buddhist who is striving not to be overcome by misanthropic thoughts. Misanthropy is a product of aversion. Thinking to destroy human kind or wishing harm to even one person is ...
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How can Buddhism help me to get rid of a suffering due to a disease?

I don't know your situation and haven't suffered anything like it, so any advice I have may mean nothing to you, but I will say these things: Karma is the fruit of past action. Don't concern yourself ...
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Is there an antibuddha?

One to one comparison with Satan is not possible, but there's an angel called Mara who dislikes the existence of the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha. He tries to stop beings from attaining enlightenment.
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11 year old daughter suffocated, was dead and was resuscitated now in a state of reduced concsciousness

After my wife died I found that she existed in my mind quite a lot (as well as formerly existing physically). That existence (in my mind) could make me happy ("what a privilege to know her") or sad ("...
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Zen & Dukkha -- Is Everything Suffering?

Thich Nhat Hanh made an error because he was attempting to rationalize another error. If Thich Nhat Hanh actually understood the teachings, he would not state the teaching of 'samskara dukkhata' is ...
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Does Buddhism focus on suffering too much?

Does it means Buddhism will make the average follower to feel more suffering? No. Like every religion there are Buddhists that take the teachings of kamma too seriously or miscomprehend the 1st noble ...
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How to explain what Buddhism is?

But then what I mentioned the first Noble Truth she seemed to object, saying "Sorry you think life is suffering/dissatisfaction, I don't agree: I like life, I think life is good." It seems like ...
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Zen & Dukkha -- Is Everything Suffering?

My interpretation would be that all things are not suffering, for several reasons. First of all, the first Noble Truth needs to be seen in context with the other Noble Truths - it says in life there ...
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Is life not blessing or mystery but suffering in Buddhism?

OP: Is life not a blessing or mystery but suffering in Buddhism? All three are correct in Buddhism in my opinion. Past is mystery, present is suffering and future is blessing. Let me explain. Life ...
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Does Buddhism endorse pacifism in times of injustice?

How would a monk or a Buddhist answer look like in dealing with injustices like murder, rape, torture? The Vinaya governs rules dealing with issues within the community of monks. The purpose of ...
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Rejecting clinging to both pleasure and displeasure

Not clinging to pleasure does not mean there is no pleasure. It is the opposite. The more there is non-clinging, there more there is pleasure. For example, the suttas say the pleasure of 'jhana' ('...
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How can we end the suffering of all animals?

It’s almost funny (in a darkly humoristic way) that we who call ourselves “wise humans” (Homo Sapiens) can never see the one guaranteed way to put an end to our troubled and selfish behaviors—change ...
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Why is there even a way to the end of suffering?

What Buddha calls 'dukkha' (suffering, dis-harmony) comes from childish, primitive thinking (and action based on such thinking). As you said, we observe interactions, we figure out patterns and ...
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Is it possible to be reborn for all eternity?

Many people are interested in living forever (eg Christians) because such people do not think living is suffering. Instead, they wish to spend forever with their loved ones. That is why they are not ...
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buddhism in real life

It's not desire that leads to pleasure, it is ("good") action that does. Desire in and of itself is blind, it just wants, craves. Desire does not always translate into good action. Instead, 1) There ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

In a nutshell. Buddhism is not about removing desires. It's about recognising what is present in any given moment and then responding skillfully or in a wholesome way so as not to cause suffering. You ...
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Suffering more in order to feel less suffering? Living with suffering?

Your work colleagues live lives of distraction. For example, when a person has children, they are psychologically driven as a parent to think about them. This brings happiness because it is good kamma ...
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