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Is it okay to seek financial gains as a layman?

Contrary to the popular belief, Buddhist way of life does not start with the eradication of attachment.Detached nature is a quality of final realization but definitely not the main part of the process....
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Is it okay to seek financial gains as a layman?

Original Pali Buddhism makes a clear distinction between the monks & the lay followers. If you are a lay person, generally you must earn a living or wealth, i.e., 'money'. The Buddha praised ...
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Why do the Noble Truths talk about 'craving', instead of about 'attachment'?

Craving (lit. "thirst", tanha) is a technical term that means that very phenomenological moment when you (here!) daydream about something (over there!). Buddha says "unsatisfied craving IS dukkha" (...
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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

What matters is what you do when you are single. If being single means using prostitutes to satisfy one's sensual desires, it could lead one further away from the path as compared to a person who ...
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Attachment vs legitimate need

In modern terms, Buddhism defines dukkha as a state of mind that is in conflict between "is" and "should". The logical opposite of dukkha is a state of peace and harmony with no such conflict. The ...
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Is detachment all about not giving damn to peoples/things?

The real purpose of life is to end suffering. Love is merely one method for preventing & ending certain types of suffering. Non-attachment is another method for preventing & ending other types ...
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Is it okay to seek financial gains as a layman?

Nope: with lots of money (or lots of anything valuable), you can influence/help people and have time to cultivate. Thus, the Buddha would encourage making money--but not at the behest of ignoring the ...
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Is it okay to seek financial gains as a layman?

I think of the Sigalovada Sutta as summary of practical morality for lay people: Consider all the various types of people around you in society (the "six directions") Don't harm people around you, ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

What helped me tremendously distance myself is this: Contemplate the various advantages and disadvantages of having a girlfriend--particularly the one that you think you would get--not the dream-woman-...
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How to have a relationship

Impossible. When there's relationship, there's bonding. When there's bonding, there's pain when it ends. The only thing you can do to minimize pain is to stay as independent as possible, and be your ...
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Is detachment all about not giving damn to peoples/things?

Life has no requirements, including loving and caring. This is social programming talking. Life just is. Furthermore, in Buddhism life is originated from ignorant perception ( see 12 nidanas) so on ...
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Is Buddhism "opposed" to striving, or working towards a goal that you really want

I guess this is four questions: Is it 'wrong' to really want something? Is it 'wrong' to really work towards something? Is it 'wrong' to imagine a desired outcome? Is it 'wrong' to be attached to the ...
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Is smoking tobacco acceptable in any school of Buddhism?

Is smoking tobacco acceptable in any school of Buddhism? I read that smoking is done. The Broken Buddha includes these (and other) references to smoking. No Sri Lankan monk would dare to smoke ...
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Rejecting clinging to both pleasure and displeasure

Not clinging to pleasure does not mean there is no pleasure. It is the opposite. The more there is non-clinging, there more there is pleasure. For example, the suttas say the pleasure of 'jhana' ('...
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How to combine Buddhism with being a parent?

I’m a clinical psychologist. I wonder if the various definitions of ‘Attachment’ might be the cause of some confusion? In psychological literature ‘Attachment’ is a crucial element of a healthy parent-...
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Is it okay to seek financial gains as a layman?

Accumulation of wealth is not directly the problem in Buddhism, rather it is the attachment to wealth that creates suffering. Wealth and fame are ephemeral so relying on these for happiness is like ...
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Why do the Noble Truths talk about 'craving', instead of about 'attachment'?

It is very difficult to deal with attachment (clinging; egoism) if one has not dealt with craving. If (the urge; drive; energy of) craving is not extinguished then attachment will keep raising its ...
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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

As you've said, it all varies from individual to individual. The bottom line is one should not do what other people expects one to do. Instead, do whatever is best for oneself in terms of peace, ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

In a nutshell. Buddhism is not about removing desires. It's about recognising what is present in any given moment and then responding skillfully or in a wholesome way so as not to cause suffering. You ...
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Do Buddhists need affection, physical touch or intimacy?

Marriage does not guarantee happiness (some married people are unhappy). This answer includes advice about how to choose a marriage partner. And chapter 6 of A Happy Married Life (which is titled "...
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How to have a relationship

Buddhist guidance about how to have a relationships is provided at the following links. THE PARTNER (A good spouse) Samajivina Sutta: Living in Tune Living Together (1) Sigalovada Sutta: The ...
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Can Buddha be insulted by disrespect?

The answer comes in the Akkosa Sutta below. Even if someone insults him or speaks to him in a hurtful manner, he doesn't accept it i.e. react to it. And so it goes back to the originator. However in ...
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Can Buddha be insulted by disrespect?

We have giant Buddha statues in Sri Lanka too. But nobody walks on the head to clean them. There are respectful ways to do it if you are smart enough. I have heard this ridiculous argument many times ...
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How to reconcile non-attachment in a Type-A, North American culture where work is life?

Firstly, I am very much against this pop-culture Buddhism where too much emphasis is given to letting go and not that much emphasis on Bhavana and development of wholesome qualities. Letting go of ...
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How can I end my attachment to holidays?

As Japanese Zen Master Dogen said in Genjō Kōan: We get nostalgic when the blossoms wither but hate it when the weeds blossom. This is a typical example of The First Noble Truth. We look at the ...
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