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Sez who? Attachment to Buddhism and to Buddhist philosophy is a very serious problem, which every practitioner should be careful about, since it's so seductive: it's easy to be perceived as progress, whereas it's the very opposite of progress. To counter this hazard, some Zen schools recommend that "if you come across the Buddha on the road, kill him!" (...


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Isnt the desire for giving up the desires, a desire? Yes, it is. A wholesome one that ends when you reach the 'park': ... "If that's so, Master Ananda, then it's an endless path, and not one with an end, for it's impossible that one could abandon desire by means of desire." "In that case, brahman, let me question you on this matter. Answer as ...


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Parents are supposed to practice Brahmavihara towards children. Attachment doesn't benefit them in any way. What benefits them are kindness, compassion, empathetic joy and equanimity. Attachment or clinging just makes you sad and afraid. Lord Buddha had no attachment. But he still preached the Dhamma, Vinaya and created a system which benefited many beings. ...


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Contrary to the popular belief, Buddhist way of life does not start with the eradication of attachment.Detached nature is a quality of final realization but definitely not the main part of the process. The noble eight fold path starts with right-view(Samma Ditti). If the path is correctly followed, the final destination will be free of suffering which is ...


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Original Pali Buddhism makes a clear distinction between the monks & the lay followers. If you are a lay person, generally you must earn a living or wealth, i.e., 'money'. The Buddha praised laypeople who were skilled at making money in a harmless enough manner, particularly when they were not attached to & shared their wealth (SN 42.12). There,...


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As a (roughly) beginner practitioner, who has had a share of problems as well, I feel I can contribute. Mostly, my answer would fall in line with Andrei. Presuming this is accurate, this sounds like someone who has some large internal stress, and is possibly using "enlightenment" as a defense for his actions, rather than letting actions spring from some ...


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Ostensibly, yes, I can't imagine why it wouldn't be technically possible for the body to trigger an orgasm without any kind of mental attachment. Of course, it may be that there is some necessary mental trigger involved, but I doubt that is true. In the vinaya there are several cases that seem to suggest involuntary (physical) sexual arousal involving heat ...


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Love and attachment are only incidentally related. Of course that depends on how you define love. I would propose that love can be crudely understood as the act of giving. Naturally "investing" yourself in any "thing" particular will cause attachment to that particular "thing". And when we give, we have a tendency to at least subconsciously perceive that ...


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Sounds like your realization of Emptiness is not complete. Evidently, there are still some leftover attachments in you, specifically attachment to Dharma. Have you read Choguyam Trungpa's work? "Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism" comes to mind. Have you worked with live Zen teachers or with higher levels of Tantra? Integrating Samsara and Nirvana is not ...


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1. Is this behaviour justified for a person who is on the verge of enlightenment? From your explanations above it sounds like this person is very disturbed, not almost enlightened. You could be reading it wrong, but here I will go with the assumption that your observations are precise. Questions 2-6 From my perspective (Mahayana), such behavior is ...


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Healthy and fit body does not need to be seen as an attachment. If a monk took the Bodhisattva Vow, all his activities will be done with the wish to benefit others. A healthy body is actually a very useful tool if one wants to help other beings. During a long life free from illnesses one can do much more than during a short life with numerous visits to ...


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Is it possible to have a romantic relationship without attachment? Just based on pure love and with equanimity? I won't say that all relationships must end; but if a relationship doesn't end, one of the partners will die. When we knew that my partner was dying, I think then we both/each experienced more love and less attachment than we had previously. ...


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Buddhism is a "kayak" (a guide) that takes one from the endless sea of sufferings to find a harbor. What would one do in order to commence and land on the harbor? Leave the kayak - Buddhism - and disembark. If not, one is attached to the kayak. Still at sea. The sea of sufferings.


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My understanding is that the Buddha taught that we should not attach ourselves to him or his teachings. If we find that his teachings don't work, then we should feel free to leave them behind and pursue other paths. That said, there is also the idea that some attachments are better than others. For example it is probably better for an alcoholic to replace ...


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Craving (lit. "thirst", tanha) is a technical term that means that very phenomenological moment when you (here!) daydream about something (over there!). Buddha says "unsatisfied craving IS dukkha" (suffering) - note how he does not say "craving is the cause of suffering", he says "unsatisfied craving IS". That's because dukkha isn't exactly "suffering", it ...


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How can I solve my problems if I'm not totally immersed in the future, thinking about all the possibilities? In a sense, the answer is because being immersed in the future is a large part of the problem. Buddhism doesn't recognize the things you call problems as real problems. They are conventional problems that only obtain the designation because of your ...


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I've been told by someone close to me that my meditation and desire to let go are very threatening to her. She sees sense desires, ego and attachments as very natural and wholesome, and my way of life as a threat or a questionable choice at the very least. If you mind your own business, and you don't preach/push other people into your way of thinking, it's ...


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What matters is what you do when you are single. If being single means using prostitutes to satisfy one's sensual desires, it could lead one further away from the path as compared to a person who restrains himself to one woman and practices loyalty, kindness, doing good deeds together etc. But if being single means being celibate and using one's free time ...


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In modern terms, Buddhism defines dukkha as a state of mind that is in conflict between "is" and "should". The logical opposite of dukkha is a state of peace and harmony with no such conflict. The conflict between "is" and "should" can be resolved in one of three ways: By changing the "is" (acting externally) By changing our perception of "is" (acting ...


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If someone is insulting the Buddha and the Dhamma, and you become hurt, you are poisoned! But if you feel neutral (Uppekha) or compassionate (Karuna) towards the person, you are fine!


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Teacher S.L. gave the following examples of attachments: attachment to basic pleasures, attachment to possessions, attachment to "good looks", attachment to comfort, attachment to stability of life, attachment to predictability, attachment to plans, attachment to knowing "exactly how" before you do anything, attachment to skills and abilities, attachment to ...


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What helped me tremendously distance myself is this: Contemplate the various advantages and disadvantages of having a girlfriend--particularly the one that you think you would get--not the dream-woman-that-you-have-to-be-on-a-certain-level-you-are-not-at-to-get. For example, here is a personal list of benefits of celibacy: Jing retention for transmutation ...


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The Dalai Lama takes daily exercise, including walking on a treadmill if it's too wet to walk outside -- http://www.dalailama.com/biography/a-routine-day. It makes sense to me since given that this human life is very precious in that it gives us an opportunity for moving towards enlightenment, it follows that it's a good thing to keep the body alive for as ...


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I have experienced ejaculation without it feeling "pleasant". When ejaculation does not feel pleasant, it feels more like semi-painful spasms. There is no attachment to this experience. It is not that ejaculation has changed, or even that the experience changed. It is my perspective that has changed. If you look at pleasant sensation very very very ...


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What you say "attachment", I think that the Pali word for 'attachment' is Upādāna: In Buddhism, upādāna is a critical link in the arising of suffering. When it says "link", there, it means that it is, "part of the causal chain of suffering", In the twelve-linked chain of Dependent Origination (Pratītyasamutpāda, also see Twelve Nidanas), clinging (...


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The real purpose of life is to end suffering. Love is merely one method for preventing & ending certain types of suffering. Non-attachment is another method for preventing & ending other types of suffering. For example, when a child is born, it is hungry & alone. This suffering of hunger & aloneness is to be ended by parents feeding & ...


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Nope: with lots of money (or lots of anything valuable), you can influence/help people and have time to cultivate. Thus, the Buddha would encourage making money--but not at the behest of ignoring the rest of the Eightfold Path! My teacher always said that the people with high cultivation in this day will strangely enough be the ones successful in business ...


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Impossible. When there's relationship, there's bonding. When there's bonding, there's pain when it ends. The only thing you can do to minimize pain is to stay as independent as possible, and be your own source of joy and acceptance. Which means playing an active role in your life, instead of relying on your partner for initiative and values.


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