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Is it wrong to be a "people pleaser"?
This is an important topic.
AN4.95:1.1: “Mendicants, these four people are found in the world. What four?
There are those who practice to benefit neither themselves nor others. It creates no ...
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Audio guided meditation recommendations?
The "How To Meditate" YouTube video playlist by Yuttadhammo Bhikkhu is highly recommended. It includes both sitting and walking meditation. This is more like vipassana meditation based on the four ...
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A beginner facing Culadasa
"If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him."
Err... not literally...
The point of this quip is that attachment to a teacher is itself something that must be overcome. Even if you are lucky enough ...
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How to stop rejecting / avoiding things?
Very good question, focused on real and useful problem.
Mind generates aversion when things go contrary to what it believes is "right". This belief is called "attachment". For ...
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How do I recognize the attachment to certain things?
You might want to distinguish between "attachment" and "craving" -- Why do the Noble Truths talk about 'craving', instead of about 'attachment'? -- it's more specifically "craving" ...
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Safe vs Risky Path
Making good decisions is hard. Let's take a look at a Buddhist perspective.
Good decisions are unprejudiced (AN4.18):
Making decisions unprejudiced by favoritism, hostility, stupidity, and ...
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Is it wrong to be a "people pleaser"?
I suppose you please people by saying things that are agreeable and endearing to them.
According to MN 58 below, it is not appropriate to say agreeable and endearing things, if they are unfactual and ...
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How to overcome fear for lost of opportunity?
In Buddhism, you can choose to be a lay follower, who observes the five precepts and the non-noble version of the path (which has defilements remaining) as a lay person, or you can follow the Noble ...
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How come movies/video games decrease the motivation to do buddhist practises?
What happened to me? How those videos cause me to lost my interest for buddhism? How I lost that resistance?
I suspect something you wrote points to the answer – you wrote that college work stressed ...
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Audio guided meditation recommendations?
Ajahn Jayasaro has a lot of Dhamma talks, Q&As and guided meditation sessions. Just look up on YouTube.
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Where can one find guidance from a teacher next year in 2018?
The oral study system, mukkhapatha, still going on at pa-auk monastery.
By this study system, you can practice every meditation step by step.
The teacher will teach you just a bit per meeting for ...
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Safe vs Risky Path
A lot of the teaching was for monks not laypeople, though e.g. a book like this one summarises what he did teach to laypeople -- e.g. about working for a living, cooperating and so on.
Rather than "...
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Should we care about what others think?
Maybe if it's people that cares about you and your spiritual progress. Good friendship with good advices/criticism is a treasure to be protected.
In the Dhammapada, we see that:
Should one a man ...
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How do I let go the ownership of the mind?
This is due to subtle Upadana. (clinging)
There are three kinds of clinging.
-Kama Upadana (it seems you have less of this)
-Dithi upadana
-Atta upadana. (perhaps this is your problem)
-Silabbatha ...
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What should I avoid to maintain sati?
the condition for sati is proper attention
I say that mindfulness and situational awareness is fueled by
something, it’s not unfueled. And what is the fuel for mindfulness and
situational ...
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Is it wrong to be a "people pleaser"?
One of the phrases I remember is from the Kalama sutta
Now, Kalamas, don't go by reports, by legends, by traditions, by scripture, by logical conjecture, by inference, by analogies, by agreement ...
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How important is patience in buddhism?
Restraint
I think that another way to frame patience is in terms of restraint. Why is this? If we see a mental defilement arise, we exercise restraint to not immediately give into it. We look at the ...
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How important is patience in buddhism?
Khanti/patience is indeed a very important virtue to cultivate. It's listed in Sn 2.4 as among one of the greatest protection for a practitioner. Also refer to many other related suttas.
Patience, ...
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How important is patience in buddhism?
Something Eckhart Tolle once said... Patience is itself an expectation. When we are being patient, it effectively means that we are experiencing something we dislike, but have decided to wait calmly ...
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Do we have to believe that good people exists?
Believing that good people exist is like believing that young children will mature in wisdom and intelligence. Sometimes it's hard to watch a two year old in the middle of a tantrum and think "...
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How to create awareness of the present moment
I can only share some insights as a fellow practitioner, please let me know if I have gotten anything wrong. I think you are letting your desire to be on top of things, events and relationships in ...
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How to create awareness of the present moment
There's no magic way to become aware. Awareness is something we practice intentionally, because we decided to.
Why are we not aware to begin with? Because we are naive. We think our mind is honest, we ...
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How to create awareness of the present moment
So my real question is how can I create the awareness of the present moment totally and let go of the delusion that is keeping me from seeing things just as how they really are.
You're on the right ...
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A Buddhist guide to overcome self sabotage
While 'ego' is a core teaching of Buddhism, Buddhism points out ego is caused by underlying defilements or cravings, namely, greed, hatred & delusion. Therefore, self-sabotage would be from some ...
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