This is an important topic.
AN4.95:1.1: “Mendicants, these four people are found in the world. What four?
There are those who practice to benefit neither themselves nor others. It creates no benefit. Let's skip that one.
And one can practice to benefit oneself. Or one can practice to benefit others. However...
AN4.95:3.3: But the person who ...
The "How To Meditate" YouTube video playlist by Yuttadhammo Bhikkhu is highly recommended. It includes both sitting and walking meditation. This is more like vipassana meditation based on the four foundations of mindfulness.
Another good YouTube video is "Guided Breath Meditation" by Thanissaro Bhikkhu. This is more like a body scanning meditation.
Very good question, focused on real and useful problem.
Mind generates aversion when things go contrary to what it believes is "right". This belief is called "attachment". For example you believe that only certain weather is good and that it should be that same weather most of the time.
So the first technique is to remember this as soon ...
What happened to me? How those videos cause me to lost my interest for buddhism? How I lost that resistance?
I suspect something you wrote points to the answer – you wrote that college work stressed you out, and these videos “helped me forget the problems.” People respond to stress in their own way, e.g. overeating, indulging in drugs or sensual pleasure, ...
"If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him."
Err... not literally...
The point of this quip is that attachment to a teacher is itself something that must be overcome. Even if you are lucky enough to meet a truly enlightened teacher, that teacher's enlightenment is his enlightenment, and you have to find your way to your own.
I'm not familiar with ...
Making good decisions is hard. Let's take a look at a Buddhist perspective.
Good decisions are unprejudiced (AN4.18):
Making decisions unprejudiced by favoritism, hostility, stupidity, and cowardice
Good decisions are ethical, so mind your chosen precepts (e.g., working in a slaughterhouse doesn't satisfy "do not kill"). Follow the Noble Eight-Fold ...
I suppose you please people by saying things that are agreeable and endearing to them.
According to MN 58 below, it is not appropriate to say agreeable and endearing things, if they are unfactual and untrue.
From MN 58:
In the case of words that the Tathagata knows to be unfactual, untrue, unbeneficial (or: not connected with the goal), unendearing &...
In Buddhism, you can choose to be a lay follower, who observes the five precepts and the non-noble version of the path (which has defilements remaining) as a lay person, or you can follow the Noble Eightfold Path of a monk who renounces the worldly life.
If you choose to be a lay follower, then you obviously need a source of income and you can choose to have ...
The oral study system, mukkhapatha, still going on at pa-auk monastery.
By this study system, you can practice every meditation step by step.
The teacher will teach you just a bit per meeting for easily to memorize and to practice.
This monastery may not give you an insight meditation first, because jhana is very important for an advance insight ...
A lot of the teaching was for monks not laypeople, though e.g. a book like this one summarises what he did teach to laypeople -- e.g. about working for a living, cooperating and so on.
Rather than "venturing out on an unknown path" perhaps you could investigate more thoroughly -- this answer for example summarises advice (from the book I referenced above) ...
You might want to distinguish between "attachment" and "craving" -- Why do the Noble Truths talk about 'craving', instead of about 'attachment'? -- it's more specifically "craving" that is deprecated.
Then Buddhism distinguishes "craving" (tanha) from "desire" (chanda) -- and "desire" might be for a wholesome or an unwholesome object.
This is due to subtle Upadana. (clinging)
There are three kinds of clinging.
-Kama Upadana (it seems you have less of this)
-Atta upadana. (perhaps this is your problem)
Clinging; attachment; sustenance for becoming and birth — attachment to sensuality, to views, to precepts and practices, and to theories of the ...
Well, if you can't recognize the difference it is laziness.
Relaxation is samadhi: the collection of mind around an object of meditation.
When we speak of conventional relaxation, what we really mean is letting the defilements do whatever they want to the mind.
the condition for sati is proper attention
I say that mindfulness and situational awareness is fueled by
something, it’s not unfueled. And what is the fuel for mindfulness and
situational awareness? You should say: ‘Proper attention.’
One of the phrases I remember is from the Kalama sutta
Now, Kalamas, don't go by reports, by legends, by traditions, by scripture, by logical conjecture, by inference, by analogies, by agreement through pondering views, by probability, or by the thought, 'This contemplative is our teacher.' When you know for yourselves that, 'These qualities are skillful; ...
Khanti/patience is indeed a very important virtue to cultivate. It's listed in Sn 2.4 as among one of the greatest protection for a practitioner. Also refer to many other related suttas.
discussing the Dhamma on timely occasions:
This is the highest protection. ~~ Snp 2.4 ~~
Believing that good people exist is like believing that young children will mature in wisdom and intelligence. Sometimes it's hard to watch a two year old in the middle of a tantrum and think "someday this little screaming monster will be a doctor, or a saint, or someone's loving spouse", but every small child has that potential in them.
The Buddha is a bit circular on this point:
SN46.51:18.1: And what starves the arising of the awakening factor of mindfulness, or, when it has arisen, starves its full development? There are things that are grounds for the awakening factor of mindfulness. Not frequently focusing on them starves the arising of the awakening factor of mindfulness, or, ...
Yes, as long as this would boost the desire to abandon what is unwholesome and undertake what is wholesome.
these two bright qualities guard the world. Which two? Shame &
compunction. If these two bright qualities did not guard the world,
there would be no recognition of ‘mother’ here, no recognition of
‘mother’s sister,’ ‘uncle’s wife,’ ‘teacher’s wife,...
Maybe if it's people that cares about you and your spiritual progress. Good friendship with good advices/criticism is a treasure to be protected.
In the Dhammapada, we see that:
Should one a man of wisdom meet
who points out faults and gives reproof,
who lays a hidden treasure bare,
with such a sage should one consort.
Consorting so is one ...
Tryin to project one's self-image into the minds of others is a source of suffering1. So one should look inwardly and constraint oneself with the precepts and also develop the Brahavihara and be benevolent. This protects others also oneself. Beyond this worrying about what others think will create misery as this is not in one's control and one's ego is ...
MN8 is a notable sutta that has a long list of skillful qualities, forty-four to be exact. Here is the first:
MN8:13.1: Cunda, I say that even giving rise to the thought of skillful qualities is very helpful, let alone following that path in body and speech. That’s why you should give rise to the following thoughts. ‘Others will be cruel, but here we ...
Ānanda brought a similar question to the Buddha, attempting to hedge and bridge the issue of solitude and social interaction:
SN3.18:3.3: ‘Sir, good friends, companions, and associates are half the spiritual life.’
But the Buddha would have none of that and corrected Ānanda immediately:
SN3.18:4.2: ‘Not so, Ānanda! Not so, Ānanda! Good friends, ...