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Why does doing nothing just sitting makes me feel like I am wasting my time? There may be several reasons for this, and i can't say what is relevant in your particular case. However, generally speaking, the feelings you are describing is the consequence of one or several conditioned causes listed below: the assumption that it is wrong to spend time ...


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Imagine for a moment that you picked up a hammer from your toolbox, and then forgot that you were holding it. You'd walk around all day with the hammer in your hand: You'd open doors with it, use it to shift gears in your car, poke people with it to get their attention, tap it on the table when you're bored, use it (somehow) to eat your food... If you have a ...


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Here we have a prime example of how attachment can lead to dukha (suffering). In this instance, you are attached to a certain self-image, and insulting behavior by in others is attacking that image. If you can bear in mind that we live in an a world of delusion, of impermanence, and if you are able to be more flexible in terms of your image of yourself, ...


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How to deal with insults? There's a canonical answer here -- Akkosa Sutta: Insult (SN 7.2) In the same way, brahman, that with which you have insulted me, who is not insulting; that with which you have taunted me, who is not taunting; that with which you have berated me, who is not berating: that I don't accept from you. It's all yours, brahman. It's all ...


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To address the "cultivate non-doing" part specifically: Wu-wei (not-doing) is not the practice of literally not doing absolutely anything (is that even possible?), it is the practice of un-doing the samsaric mind with its patterns and stereotypes. For example, to stop the inner monologue is not-doing. To stop thinking in terms of, "I am the doer" is not-...


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Committing wholeheartedly to what we do each moment by moment, we experience increasing clarity and peace. SN35.95:10.1: “In that case, when it comes to things that are to be seen, heard, thought, and known: in the seen will be merely the seen; in the heard will be merely the heard; in the thought will be merely the thought; in the known will be merely ...


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That twinge you feel to "do something"? That's your small mind making a desperate attempt to remind you that it's in charge. If you listen to it, it will continue to be your master. If you really want to wake up, you have to stop letting it rule you. This is hard. Make no mistake about it. Buddhism calls this process sila or moral discipline, but other ...


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I wrote an extensive answer for the question: How should a Buddhist approach honoring parents who abused them? In summary, you are not wrong if you choose to not to have a relationship with them. Love is something earned. Core on-going relationships require the maintenance of on-going wholesome qualities from both sides. In Buddhism, parents have the duty ...


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Yeah, you could probably make that happen. What you’re looking for is a sense sensation that has some stability. Visually, you would use something like a kasina, but I see no reason why a sound kasina couldn’t also work provided that you’re diligent about it. As to what this sound kasina would be made up of, you’d want something that was consistently ...


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Well it's a good thing to be insulted. Why? Because it basically wears off the bad Karma that you accumulated in the past by insulting others. When those thoughts of insults appear in you, imagine that the same insults you recieved; were earlier done by you towards someone else in a previous birth. The person who is insulting you is a great person as he ...


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Present situation is the result of past causes, so it would be interesting to see what led you to that constant state of fatigue in the first place.


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Do not rush out trying to find a teacher. When you are ready the teacher will find you. Let the Buddha be your teacher and the Dharma be your medicine. When you do go to the center consider them as Sangha and learn how to engage them and see what you can learn. Be mindful of your own expectations and excitement for what that meeting will be like. It is ...


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You ask: How can I train my mind to just be? Show me this 'I'. What is 'my mind'? You cannot show me because there is no 'I'. If there was, no-one would have bad habits, because their 'I' would stop them. Keep on with Zazen. If you were in a Rinzai monastery like I was, you would have to solve a 'Ko an', such as 'what was my original face before I was ...


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This question is very significant and is really where all seekers are tripping .You said something very significant , How can I train my mind to just be? .Its important to understand that identification is the sole reason for doing.Every part of your body is doing something ,your organs are functioning ,you don't have to make your heart beat or your ...


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Non-doing does not mean simply sitting doing nothing. Non-doing means you put yourself and more with full involvement/intensity into that activity that you do, (even sitting), so much so that you forget you exist. Like Flow. Only that action and the activity is going on. This "you" is an identity created for social/survival purposes according to karmic ...


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