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How do I slow down and start living according to my values? How do I change the direction of my life?

Beautiful question, one of the best questions I ever encountered on this site - at least for me, because I can relate to it in my own life, too. Without going into too many personal details, aren't ...
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What does Buddhism say about boredom?

Well, technically boredom is a form of tanha, craving. We crave for excitement, for fun, for an external source of energy. And according to principle of "this-that conditionality" craving is ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

As my teacher explained, the reason we are needy and clingy is because we have not discovered how to be our own source of "energy". We are like babies depending on mothers' tits for nutrition, in this ...
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Buddhism and political correctness

This sounds like an issue best analyzed according to the Buddha's teachings on right speech. The Buddha famously expounded how he personally determined how to decide on what to say in the Abhaya Sutta,...
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Relationships with fools: Interpreting the Dhammapada

The verse speaks from the point of view of the bhikku. The verse should be understood properly: The bad and good bhikkhus were searching for companionship. They found companionship with Thera. The ...
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What is the Theravada Buddhist lay lifestyle?

Generally, we try to submit each question individually, but I'll do my best to answer these briefly from the Theravada tradition and give links for further information. A lay Buddhist follows the ...
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How does one escape suffering when they cannot provide for those they love

The real answer is that one cannot - it is the caring that causes the suffering: Seek no intimacy with the beloved and also not with the unloved, for not to see the beloved and to see the unloved, ...
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Answering Other's Questions About Oneself

tl;dr: I think it is normal, you just need time to get used to it. It will pass. I think it will be useful for you to investigate, why do you feel the desire to be "normal"? What part of you feels ...
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Returning to the marketplace - examples

Does the Theravada canon have such ideas anywhere at all? This is a far-fetched example which barely answer your question but IMO the Buddha himself kind of returned to the market-place: not as a ...
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Is Karma different for accidental killing than intentional killing?

The background story to the first verse of the Dhammapada is of an arhat killing insects accidentally, because he's blind. The verse says, All mental phenomena have mind as their forerunner; they ...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?

As my teacher explained, living with the feeling of wrongness is the very essence of samsara. This constant feeling that you don't like your work, don't want to do it, and are forced to endure it ...
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Is austerity necessary in Buddhism?

Is austerity [as defined above] necessary in Buddhism? The answer depends as follows: As a householder, austerity, as you defined above, is not required since it's not part of the five essential ...
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What does Diamond Way Buddhism say about obstacles at times of becoming more conscious?

There is a saying in Zen: When we love them flowers wither; when we hate them creepers bloom. Meaning, the more you like something, the more your mind gets sensitive to losing that. And the more ...
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Should a Buddhist lay-practitioner schedule his/her daily life

Routine is a good thing to have for a Buddhist, I believe. While this will vary person to person based on their circumstances, these are my suggestions to incorporate in a daily routine of a lay ...
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No aim. No perspective. Begin of 30y. Scared about political-decisions. Paranoid. What should I do?

I think I see your karmic situation very clearly. You have a very strong predisposition to become a serious Buddhist. As they say these days, "you are a natural". At the same time, you're kinda late ...
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No aim. No perspective. Begin of 30y. Scared about political-decisions. Paranoid. What should I do?

Sometimes a little perspective would help. The truth is for anyone in your situation right now, there're hundreds others around the world who are suffering much worse. Just imagine, while you're ...
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As a disciple of the Supreme Buddha, what would you do with an animal that is in severe pain?

My mother and I saw a cat today by the side of the road, which had probably been hit by a car. Its back legs were outstretched, it didn't walk, I guessed its lower back was broken. It miaowed to us. ...
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How do I slow down and start living according to my values? How do I change the direction of my life?

My work, however, eats away a big part of my day... Try viewing your work not as something that takes you away from a peaceful life but as part of that peaceful life itself. Your work is the work. ...
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Mindfulness when on the train, underground and bus

I too am on public transport for a reasonable part of the day. When I look around at my fellow passengers it's always notable to me how many are not present. The majority of people are on phones, ...
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Stages of Life according to Buddhism

There really isn't anything quite like ashrama in Buddhism, at least as it applies to an individual person's life. Buddhism takes a simple view that one is born, lives, and then dies, within a cycle ...
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Cultivate wisdom or work on compassion?

I don't remember which teacher or even which tradition I've heard this from, but I definitely remember some Buddhist teacher specifically advising to focus on "that sheep that fell far behind". This ...
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No aim. No perspective. Begin of 30y. Scared about political-decisions. Paranoid. What should I do?

You simply have to stop trying so hard to please this 'I'. Focus on being helpful to others. Focus on doing good deeds and gaining merits. Stop looking for new things to entertain yourself. Instead, ...
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I saw a cat killing a mouse. Could have stopped it, but didn't

"Chethanaham Bikkhawe Kammam Wadami" - volition is Karma Did you not prevent it because mice are usually an annoyance and 1 less mouse makes your life better? If so, it's bad Karma. Later you may ...
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If we tell lies to save lives, will that be a sin?

There are no sins in Buddhism, only skillful and unskillful behaviors. You have to ask yourself whether the behavior causes suffering. If it causes suffering you shouldn't do it. Not because it is a ...
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Buddhism and fornication

There are four conditions for wrong conduct in sexual pleasures. There must be a man or woman with whom it is improper to have sexual intercourse. There must be intention to have sexual intercourse ...
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How does a Buddhist survive in a harsh world?

So this raises a dilemma. Continue being gentle and compassionate with loving kindness, and get eaten. Or react harshly when necessary and risk darkening ourselves. Or, is there a proper middle path? ...
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Is austerity necessary in Buddhism?

According to Triyana framework as presented by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, the first stage of Buddhist training, known as "Hinayana", involves special emphasis on discipline and simplicity, in essence ...
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How are the Seven Purifications (satta-visuddhi) practiced in daily life?

The only sutta that fully explains the seven purifications is Rathavinita Sutta. It explains in full the seven purifications (SAPTHA VISUDDHI) taught by the Buddha: see The Ratha-vinita Sutta: Relay ...
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