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What does Buddhism say about boredom?

Well, technically boredom is a form of tanha, craving. We crave for excitement, for fun, for an external source of energy. And according to principle of "this-that conditionality" craving is ...
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How do I slow down and start living according to my values? How do I change the direction of my life?

Beautiful question, one of the best questions I ever encountered on this site - at least for me, because I can relate to it in my own life, too. Without going into too many personal details, aren't ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

As my teacher explained, the reason we are needy and clingy is because we have not discovered how to be our own source of "energy". We are like babies depending on mothers' tits for nutrition, in this ...
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Is Karma different for accidental killing than intentional killing?

The background story to the first verse of the Dhammapada is of an arhat killing insects accidentally, because he's blind. The verse says, All mental phenomena have mind as their forerunner; they ...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?

As my teacher explained, living with the feeling of wrongness is the very essence of samsara. This constant feeling that you don't like your work, don't want to do it, and are forced to endure it ...
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Should a Buddhist lay-practitioner schedule his/her daily life

Routine is a good thing to have for a Buddhist, I believe. While this will vary person to person based on their circumstances, these are my suggestions to incorporate in a daily routine of a lay ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

Every worker has a duty to become proficient in & do their work. A proper leader must nurture this. Also, rude speech is improper in the workplace; just as rude speech is improper in Buddhism. ...
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As a disciple of the Supreme Buddha, what would you do with an animal that is in severe pain?

My mother and I saw a cat today by the side of the road, which had probably been hit by a car. Its back legs were outstretched, it didn't walk, I guessed its lower back was broken. It miaowed to us. ...
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I saw a cat killing a mouse. Could have stopped it, but didn't

"Chethanaham Bikkhawe Kammam Wadami" - volition is Karma Did you not prevent it because mice are usually an annoyance and 1 less mouse makes your life better? If so, it's bad Karma. Later you may ...
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If we tell lies to save lives, will that be a sin?

There are no sins in Buddhism, only skillful and unskillful behaviors. You have to ask yourself whether the behavior causes suffering. If it causes suffering you shouldn't do it. Not because it is a ...
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Buddhism and fornication

There are four conditions for wrong conduct in sexual pleasures. There must be a man or woman with whom it is improper to have sexual intercourse. There must be intention to have sexual intercourse ...
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How does a Buddhist survive in a harsh world?

So this raises a dilemma. Continue being gentle and compassionate with loving kindness, and get eaten. Or react harshly when necessary and risk darkening ourselves. Or, is there a proper middle path? ...
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How do I slow down and start living according to my values? How do I change the direction of my life?

My work, however, eats away a big part of my day... Try viewing your work not as something that takes you away from a peaceful life but as part of that peaceful life itself. Your work is the work. ...
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How are the Seven Purifications (satta-visuddhi) practiced in daily life?

The only sutta that fully explains the seven purifications is Rathavinita Sutta. It explains in full the seven purifications (SAPTHA VISUDDHI) taught by the Buddha: see The Ratha-vinita Sutta: Relay ...
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How to emotionally cut free from an individual?

The problem described here is all within the mind of your friend. The Sigalovada Sutta explains, in our lives, we will encounter 'true friends' & 'false friends'. The Sigalovada Sutta describes in ...
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If we tell lies to save lives, will that be a sin?

I think this question is a duplicate of: Enlightened Lies - Can lying be the correct action in certain situations? Should a person never lie? "Duplicate" means that the answers to those questions ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

Buddha is cited as Victor for a reason: a good Buddhist is strong and certain - not weak and doubtful. These strength and certainty come from standing firmly with both feet in reality (Tatha) - ...
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Does Buddhism have an answer to disturbing sexual fantasies?

Ways of Denourishing of Sensual Desire. Asubha reflextion, refextion on the ugly of the body behind skin, hair, nails, reflecting the backwards of sensuality. Watching the dogs on the street... [...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?

You don't have to love or hate your work. If happiness arises while at work, be mindful of it and if aversion arises while at work, be mindful of that too.
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Improving Sati-Sampajañña (situative wisdom)

Improving Sati-Sampajañña is actually right samadhi. When you want to improve "every day life situations", then you do Sati-Sampajañña. this is exactly the purpose of Sati-Sampajañña: sorting ...
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How did the Buddha debate?

The Pali suttas say the Dhamma is taught only to those who are interested, per AN 9.5: The best sort of kindly speech is to teach the Dhamma again and again to someone who is engaged and who ...
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What happens when your tank is empty, and you’ve got nothing left to give?

It's not about giving.. if you can live with good thoughts that's enough. You can give a little water to a thirsty animal, that's also a great thing. Keep your mind clean and good. Don't make your ...
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What happens when your tank is empty, and you’ve got nothing left to give?

It's not really about what you give, it 's about what you give up. What you let go. We can always give love. We can always send lovingkindness and compassion. We can give to ourselves if it is from ...
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Why have a legal/ justice system? Let karma take care of things?

There are two theories about criminal law: absolute theory: You should punish someone because his action is intrinsically bad and therefore he deserves to be punished. (refers to the past) relative ...
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Why have a legal/ justice system? Let karma take care of things?

I think your idea is not practical. A justice system is a convention developed based on social norms and logic. But karma is a metaphysical phenomenon which goes beyond logic. Therefore, we will have ...
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Why have a legal/ justice system? Let karma take care of things?

Think of the legal system formed as a natural part of the cause-and-effect. If your family and friends were tortured you would quickly become a part of this web of cause-and-effect and fight for ...
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I saw a cat killing a mouse. Could have stopped it, but didn't

IMO there's a similar concern with people: outside my house I see people raising farm animals, in order to kill them for food. What should I do about that? Try to chase the people away? I think, ...
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If someone insults you what should you do?

Well actually your question has 2 different aspects,so does the Buddhism. They are 'laukika' and 'lokottara'. The excellency of Buddhism always goes with its 'lokottara' content, where the path to ...
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