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Buddhism is not the answer. Buddhism is not the problem, either. You turned to Buddhism looking for a quick fix to your life, and now that you haven't found that quick fix after 6 years you are lashing out. I get the impression there is a lot of pent up anger in you. Anger at the world, anger at your job, anger at the so-called "better off" people who earn ...


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As one Tibetan lama explained in one lecture I attended, this type of anger comes from attachment to a certain form of clarity. Because in meditation you experience clarity born of unification of mind (lack of inner conflict), when in post-meditation a conflict between "is" and "should" arises, attachment to clarity leads to suffering, rejection of which ...


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Prevention is better than cure. It is easiest to tackle the mental pollution of unwholesome acts before it has happened - i.e. at the stage that desire is born. For the same reason, help groups like Alchoholics Anonymous say "Say no to the first drink" - call a sponsor or friend and get over the urge. Suicide hotlines work the same way - they would like us ...


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The idea is called catharsis and it basically treats anger like hot water or steam that can be released when the pressure is too much. It is true that letting anger out like that does tend to produce relief, but many psychologists are of the opinion that doing so just creates a positive reinforcement of the angry behavior and over the long term simply ...


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Generally things happen due to cause and effect so use that to your advantage by creating the causes for happiness. You need to work on the grosser aspects before you can work with the subtle.First cultivate happiness.Otherwise your going to be gritting your teeth through the path. Here are a few practical suggestions: 1.Keep the sila (precepts). This ...


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You should use the 5 faculties and 5 powers to balance you mind to dispel some the niwarana. When restless this is because your have become too energetic but lacking in concentration. Best is to do Anapana to increase concentration When sleepy this is because you have high concentration but lack energy best is to practice Satipatthana, or instruction in ...


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Meditation is not something made to clear our thoughts, it is impossible to do so, thoughts come and go, they will never stop, maybe you can increase the gap between thoughts, that is possible, however this is not the main goal of meditation. What you need to do is be mindful of your thoughts, be aware, see than as if you were anothet person, awake, dont ...


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Is there anything wrong with letting the anger out, from a Buddhist's standpoint? Generally speaking yes, letting the anger out is wrong, but precise answer as to why it is wrong and what to do instead depends on a school: From Theravada's standpoint, acting on akusala (pathological) thoughts and emotions is bad karma and serves to feed corresponding ...


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It is an experience, like any other, so you have to face it and recognize it clearly as it is. In our tradition we describe the experience of catching up the fatigue in one's awareness and reminding oneself "tired, tired"; if one's mindfulness is sharp, it will either disappear completely or, if the body needs sleep, one will fall asleep. As the Mahasi ...


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The effects of meditation are similar to the effects of brushing your teeth: If you don't brush your teeth for one day nothing will happen but if you do for one week... you will suffer the consequences in the dentist, so what I'm saying is that what you lose for not meditating will have a price in the future specially when you face a bad situation, stress ...


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"If music is a sensual desire , what's wrong with that?" The sense bases are dukkha: “Bhikkhus, the ear is impermanent. What is impermanent is suffering. What is suffering is nonself. What is nonself should be seen as it really is with correct wisdom thus: ‘This is not mine, this I am not, this is not my self.’ -- SN 35.1 The danger of sensual ...


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Vitakkasanthana Sutta (MN 20) Please keep in mind that one's effort should be of ardency and urgency. You have to act like a hero and free yourself from these. You need to have wisdom about defilements, otherwise you will find excuses and dwell in them even further. 1) "Divert your attention to something more skillful". Now, this doesn't necessarily mean ...


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Easy. Well, easy in theory :) -- you need to get fed up! You need to get really sick and tired of your conditions, so sick that you cannot live like that anymore. You are so fed up that you are either ready to die - or to change your habits. So that desire to get out leads to iron intent to change.


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(this is 100% based on my first teacher's instructions, not my personal interpretation) Ego. All these thoughts come from the ego. Ego wants to destroy anything that hurts it. You should develop a habit to recognize thoughts that come from the ego. When you have an attachment that you strongly identify with, and someone acts against that attachment, your ...


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I think the answer lies in the practical part of Buddhism, i.e. insight meditation. When one practices insight meditation diligently one will come to see for oneself that all physical and mental phenomena are subject to the 3 signs of existence, i.e. Impermanence, Unsatisfactoriness and Not-self, i.e. the uncontrollable and ungovernable nature of phenomena. ...


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In Tibetan tradition torpor (Pali middha) is explained as heavy sleepiness, while sloth (Pali thina) is explained as laziness, lack of motivation. So in case of sloth, you are not drowsy, just don't feel like striving. While in case of torpor, you kinda want to strive but can't, because your mind is so unwieldy.


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In the book "The Way Of Mindfulness" by Soma Thera it's described how to overcome to the hindrance of Sloth and Torpor. Here he writes about the perception of light. I have made highlights in the quote: 3. Sloth and Torpor Through wrong reflection on a state of boredom and the like, sloth and torpor come to be. Boredom is just dissatisfaction. ...


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It is not at all a simple task to reverse the habits cultivated over umpteenth lifetimes. It is next to impossible without gaining a good knowledge of the Dhamma and putting it to practice diligently. Then, and only then you are going to have any success in thwarting the mind’s ingrained habits. The personality view is the hardest of them all. If you could ...


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Don't force it! Learn to find and follow your inspiration, to cultivate your inspiration :-) Buddhism is meant to be inspiring, the example of Buddha is meant to be an example you can relate to - he too could not find his place in the world before he escaped from the palace. Then he got inspired! Managing inspiration is the foremost practice in Buddhism. ...


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What you are describing is an experience of impermanence (that your energy doesn't last), suffering (that your experience isn't as you wish it to be) and non-self (that you can't make the lethargy go away for real). This is to be expected and suggests proper practice of insight meditation. Congratulations :) Over time, this will lead to disenchantment, ...


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Boredom is a sign of restlessness. If you're bored, you want to try to do something else. You're not contented with the present moment. Please read this essay on the five hindrances to meditation by Ajahn Brahmavamso. However, if you're falling asleep or cannot focus, then that's sloth and torpor (quoted below from essay). Since you have already commented ...


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I think the closest real "thing" in Buddhism that touches on what you've described is thina-middha, or "sloth and torpor" (one of the Five Hindrances). It's characterized in part by a lack of energy (which can be mental in addition to physical). This isn't necessarily what you shared, but a lack of mental energy could make one feel as if driven by an ...


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The mind when covered with the five hindrances is like clouding a clear bowl of water (still mind) with different contaminants or situations. – Sangarava sutta (SN 46.55) Also try to refer to Nivaranapahna Vagga. (The 5 mental hindrances: their causes and ending – A 1.2). The five mental hindrances (nivarana) which obstruct concentration, are: (1) sense-...


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Any desire that cannot be achieved will cause suffering. Therefore, if (for some rare reason) you are intrinsically unable to make friends, you should accept this situation rather than suffer over it. That said, the luminous or clear part of our mind is not the same as the bad traits of the mind. If your mind is actually able to see it has bad traits then ...


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If a yard has lots of weeds, just by getting rid of the weeds alone won't be effective. One will also need to overseed their yard with strong grass so that they will overwhelm the weeds and grow into a healthy lush green lawn. Similarly, not only one needs to abandon bad habits, one'd also need to cultivate good habits so that they will "overwhelm" the bad ...


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Im nearly 50 years old ... You seem to be realising the fact of unsatisfactoriness at the intellectual level (Cintā Maya Paññā). You have to try to re enforce this at the meditation level (Bhāvanā Maya Paññā). Once this is properly re enforced, you can come out of your the unsatisfactoriness which you are experiencing. For this you have to do a meditation ...


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"I'm nearly 50 years old.. I have never found a sense of belonging... I haven't found a way to work that... I'm at a point where I feel I just cannot... I have no motivation... I have tried to find other things.. I just end up back in the same crappy jobs... I turned to Buddhism in desperation... I felt so bored and disenchanted..." etc. etc. etc. ...


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Jhanas are attained by suppressing the five hindrances via concentrating on objects like the breath, or a kasina object, etc. But if one contemplates on anicca, dukkha, anatta, one automatically starts reducing, not just suppressing the hindrances. In this latter type of jhana, it is attained via using Nibbana as the arammana (thought object). This is not “...


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Sense Restraint On seeing a form with the eye, he doesn't grasp at any theme (nimitta) or details by which — if he were to dwell without restraint over the faculty of the eye — evil, unskillful qualities such as greed or distress might assail him. On hearing a sound with the ear... On smelling an aroma with the nose... On tasting a flavor with the ...


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