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Disenchanted with Buddhism
Buddhism is not the answer. Buddhism is not the problem, either.
You turned to Buddhism looking for a quick fix to your life, and now that you haven't found that quick fix after 6 years you are ...
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How come enlightened people don't have any laziness?
Speaking from the first hand experience, laziness comes from attachment, fear, or ignorance. No attachment, no fear, and no ignorance - translates to no laziness.
And how does attachment cause ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism
Generally things happen due to cause and effect so use that to your advantage by creating the causes for happiness.
You need to work on the grosser aspects before you can work with the subtle.First ...
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How does the Buddha subdue fear in MN4?
Good question! Not everyone finds this episode interesting - and yet it illustrates a very important point.
Buddha subdues his fear by bringing all of his attention to the present moment.
As I was ...
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How do I get rid of ill will?
Vitakkasanthana Sutta (MN 20)
Please keep in mind that one's effort should be of ardency and urgency. You have to act like a hero and free yourself from these. You need to have wisdom about ...
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How do I get rid of ill will?
(this is 100% based on my first teacher's instructions, not my personal interpretation)
Ego. All these thoughts come from the ego. Ego wants to destroy anything that hurts it.
You should develop a ...
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How is it possible to change habits cultivated over lifetimes
Easy. Well, easy in theory :) -- you need to get fed up! You need to get really sick and tired of your conditions, so sick that you cannot live like that anymore. You are so fed up that you are either ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism
Don't force it! Learn to find and follow your inspiration, to cultivate your inspiration :-)
Buddhism is meant to be inspiring, the example of Buddha is meant to be an example you can relate to - he ...
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Is this desire, to not be friendless anymore, healthy?
Any desire that cannot be achieved will cause suffering. Therefore, if (for some rare reason) you are intrinsically unable to make friends, you should accept this situation rather than suffer over it. ...
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How is it possible to change habits cultivated over lifetimes
It is not at all a simple task to reverse the habits cultivated over umpteenth lifetimes. It is next to impossible without gaining a good knowledge of the Dhamma and putting it to practice diligently. ...
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Sensual Desire and Guarding the Sense Doors
Sensual desire is like feeling thirst for something (Pali tanha, Sanskrit trishna).
If you feel cold and decide to put some clothes on, normally it has nothing to do with sensual desire. It's a ...
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Is there a name for being totally dependent?
I think the closest real "thing" in Buddhism that touches on what you've described is thina-middha, or "sloth and torpor" (one of the Five Hindrances). It's characterized in part by a lack of energy (...
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Do we reduce hindrances gradually?
The mind when covered with the five hindrances is like clouding a clear bowl of water (still mind) with different contaminants or situations. – Sangarava sutta (SN 46.55) Also try to refer to ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism
Im nearly 50 years old ...
You seem to be realising the fact of unsatisfactoriness at the intellectual level (Cintā Maya Paññā). You have to try to re enforce this at the meditation level (Bhāvanā ...
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How is it possible to change habits cultivated over lifetimes
If a yard has lots of weeds, just by getting rid of the weeds alone won't be effective. One will also need to overseed their yard with strong grass so that they will overwhelm the weeds and grow into ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism
"I'm nearly 50 years old.. I have never found a sense of belonging...
I haven't found a way to work that... I'm at a point where I feel I just cannot... I have no motivation... I have tried to ...
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During jhana do you eliminate all hindrance at once?
Jhanas are attained by suppressing the five hindrances via concentrating on objects like the breath, or a kasina object, etc. But if one contemplates on anicca, dukkha, anatta, one automatically ...
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Sensual Desire and Guarding the Sense Doors
Sense Restraint
On seeing a form with the eye, he doesn't grasp at any theme (nimitta) or details by which — if he were to dwell without restraint over the
faculty of the eye — evil, unskillful ...
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How come desire and sati causes sleepness?
Sloth and Topher is the fifth Mara.
It activated when all other previous four maras are inactivated.
For instance, when you watch TV the first mara is in charge.
When you listen to Dhamma if the ...
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Which of the five hindrance does 'comparison' fall in?
Specifically "comparison" sounds to me like (i.e. it reminds me of the doctrine about) one of the 'fetters', i.e. "conceit" -- see this answer -- then see also this Wikipedia.
I ...
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How to overcome fear of annihilation in meditation and why is it not included in list of hindrances to meditation?
In a way, fear of annihilation is part of the five hindrances, for example:
attachment to/desire for the continuation of sensory perception (i.e. to the physical body)
resentment/bitterness toward ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism
This is the nature of life. Anicca, Dukkha and Anatta.
First you have to accept these factors.
Once you accept these,the only way you can go is up.
Not Down.
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Disenchanted with Buddhism
Speaking from my personal experience & character, I would probably not value Buddhism at all if i did not obtain satisfying peace & happiness from it. Buddhism has brought me peace & ...
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How is it possible to change habits cultivated over lifetimes
Paying conscious attention to whatever you are doing now fully, whatever the activity may be. Life is happening right now, right this moment as you read.
Any actions have consequences, even thoughts....
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Five Hindrances Right Mindfulness Interrelated?
The Pāḷi phrase for "frequent and careless attention in the Sutta (SN 46.2) is "ayonisomanasikārabahulīkāro".
ayoniso = unwise, manasikāra = attention, bahulīkāro = continuous practice
The role of ...
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contentment, complacency, sloth/torpor
'Complacency' would be a lack of urgency, thus a deficiency in wisdom.
'Sloth & torpor' is a lack of energy (tiredness) or mental dullness ('sinking mind'), which can occur in concentration ...
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Need help understanding the meaning of this
Refer to: The Five Mental Hindrances and Their Conquest
Six things are conducive to the abandonment of sensual desire:
1. Learning how to meditate on impure objects;
2. Devoting oneself ...
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Sati-Sampajañña (Mindfulness)
This is through maintaining Sati, Samadhi and Sampajanna it self.
1st one should keep your mindfulness in the 4 Frames of Reference. You should have Sampajanna in the following way:
purpose (...
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