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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Buddhism is not the answer. Buddhism is not the problem, either. You turned to Buddhism looking for a quick fix to your life, and now that you haven't found that quick fix after 6 years you are ...
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Why is meditation making me more angry?

As one Tibetan lama explained in one lecture I attended, this type of anger comes from attachment to a certain form of clarity. Because in meditation you experience clarity born of unification of ...
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How come enlightened people don't have any laziness?

Speaking from the first hand experience, laziness comes from attachment, fear, or ignorance. No attachment, no fear, and no ignorance - translates to no laziness. And how does attachment cause ...
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Three questions about sensual desire

Prevention is better than cure. It is easiest to tackle the mental pollution of unwholesome acts before it has happened - i.e. at the stage that desire is born. For the same reason, help groups like ...
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Why is meditation making me more angry?

Meditation is not something made to clear our thoughts, it is impossible to do so, thoughts come and go, they will never stop, maybe you can increase the gap between thoughts, that is possible, ...
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Buddhist view on letting the anger out. Any problems with that?

The idea is called catharsis and it basically treats anger like hot water or steam that can be released when the pressure is too much. It is true that letting anger out like that does tend to produce ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Generally things happen due to cause and effect so use that to your advantage by creating the causes for happiness. You need to work on the grosser aspects before you can work with the subtle.First ...
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Sloth-torpor-Restlessness-worry

You should use the 5 faculties and 5 powers to balance you mind to dispel some the niwarana. When restless this is because your have become too energetic but lacking in concentration. Best is to do ...
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Buddhist view on letting the anger out. Any problems with that?

Is there anything wrong with letting the anger out, from a Buddhist's standpoint? Generally speaking yes, letting the anger out is wrong, but precise answer as to why it is wrong and what to do ...
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How to use Sloth and Torpor as an object for meditation

It is an experience, like any other, so you have to face it and recognize it clearly as it is. In our tradition we describe the experience of catching up the fatigue in one's awareness and reminding ...
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How can one overcome agitation developed by not sitting regularly?

The effects of meditation are similar to the effects of brushing your teeth: If you don't brush your teeth for one day nothing will happen but if you do for one week... you will suffer the ...
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How do I get rid of ill will?

Vitakkasanthana Sutta (MN 20) Please keep in mind that one's effort should be of ardency and urgency. You have to act like a hero and free yourself from these. You need to have wisdom about ...
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How do I get rid of ill will?

(this is 100% based on my first teacher's instructions, not my personal interpretation) Ego. All these thoughts come from the ego. Ego wants to destroy anything that hurts it. You should develop a ...
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How does the Buddha subdue fear in MN4?

Good question! Not everyone finds this episode interesting - and yet it illustrates a very important point. Buddha subdues his fear by bringing all of his attention to the present moment. As I was ...
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How is it possible to change habits cultivated over lifetimes

Easy. Well, easy in theory :) -- you need to get fed up! You need to get really sick and tired of your conditions, so sick that you cannot live like that anymore. You are so fed up that you are either ...
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Is sloth the same thing as torpor?

In Tibetan tradition torpor (Pali middha) is explained as heavy sleepiness, while sloth (Pali thina) is explained as laziness, lack of motivation. So in case of sloth, you are not drowsy, just don't ...
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How is it possible to change habits cultivated over lifetimes

It is not at all a simple task to reverse the habits cultivated over umpteenth lifetimes. It is next to impossible without gaining a good knowledge of the Dhamma and putting it to practice diligently. ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Don't force it! Learn to find and follow your inspiration, to cultivate your inspiration :-) Buddhism is meant to be inspiring, the example of Buddha is meant to be an example you can relate to - he ...
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Sloth-torpor-Restlessness-worry

What you are describing is an experience of impermanence (that your energy doesn't last), suffering (that your experience isn't as you wish it to be) and non-self (that you can't make the lethargy go ...
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Being bored :anapanasati meditation

Boredom is a sign of restlessness. If you're bored, you want to try to do something else. You're not contented with the present moment. Please read this essay on the five hindrances to meditation by ...
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Is there a name for being totally dependent?

I think the closest real "thing" in Buddhism that touches on what you've described is thina-middha, or "sloth and torpor" (one of the Five Hindrances). It's characterized in part by a lack of energy (...
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Do we reduce hindrances gradually?

The mind when covered with the five hindrances is like clouding a clear bowl of water (still mind) with different contaminants or situations. – Sangarava sutta (SN 46.55) Also try to refer to ...
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How is it possible to change habits cultivated over lifetimes

If a yard has lots of weeds, just by getting rid of the weeds alone won't be effective. One will also need to overseed their yard with strong grass so that they will overwhelm the weeds and grow into ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Im nearly 50 years old ... You seem to be realising the fact of unsatisfactoriness at the intellectual level (Cintā Maya Paññā). You have to try to re enforce this at the meditation level (Bhāvanā ...
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