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By trying to "control it", you are putting the (idea of) lust outside of yourself. In effect you are seeing "the lust" and yourself as two separate entities. That (conceived) separation sets up a duality. On one side is "lust", which it sounds like you are labeling as "bad". On the other side is self, which it sounds like you want to label as "good". ...


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As one Tibetan lama explained in one lecture I attended, this type of anger comes from attachment to a certain form of clarity. Because in meditation you experience clarity born of unification of mind (lack of inner conflict), when in post-meditation a conflict between "is" and "should" arises, attachment to clarity leads to suffering, rejection of which ...


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Since you are seeking inspiration similar to the simile how one should eat as if they are eating their own child having lost in a desert, to understand the drawbacks of lust, I think Alagaddupama Sutta is a good place where Buddha gave ten similes to understand the true nature of sensual pleasure. Here, Buddha says that one should see sensual pleasure as ...


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When Buddha taught meditation he did not explicitly separate it in different types. If you read Anapanasati Sutta, Satipatthana Sutta, Kimattha Sutta, Cula-suññata Sutta, and any number of suttas mentioning the Jhanas, you will see that the overall progression is to first learn to pacify the mind at will, then learn to gladden the mind at will, then develop ...


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As it was explained to me, we must master the coarse before we can master the subtle, and we must master the subtle before we can attain first-hand direct vision of Dharma. In this vein, during a single meditation session we must first work with the body, then work with the feelings, then work with the mind, and only then the insight meditation can happen ...


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One could "say" anything but that would only be a relative truth. Ultimately one person doesn't cause another persons anger. One causes their own anger. It is hard to understand ultimate reality unless one reflects within by atempting to experience things that arise in one's experience moment by moment in the present moment. Remembering to see things ...


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First of all, I think your question has gotten worse at explaining your condition through your edits (sorry!). In Theravada Buddhism, and really I think I speak for all of Buddhism when I say, the object is to understand reality as it is. This means you actually have to understand the experience before you can "fix" it. Actually, it means once you ...


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Lust is a biological impulse without which you would not have been born in the first place. So honor it and respect it as nature's method to keep our race going. Thus, realize it a powerful force and there are also repercussions to bashing it down or inhibiting yourself. Don't use any method that involves self-criticism, self-judgment, self-harm, hatred, ...


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My local Buddhist temple's resident teacher Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo has this beautiful metaphor of the "poop soup", highly relevant to yours (and the rest of ours) situation. In this metaphor we accumulate all kinds of neuroses ("poop") in the bowl of our psyche, until after many years it becomes veritable poop soup. Then, as we get ...


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Pleased to meet you Robert. It is very difficult to answer your question precisely however it is certainly likely/probable that practicing the meditation & the accompanying mental solitude is digging/bringing up something (i.e., a disposition or mental tendency) buried deep inside your mind. I doubt you are doing anything wrong. As said, the mental ...


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Meditation is not something made to clear our thoughts, it is impossible to do so, thoughts come and go, they will never stop, maybe you can increase the gap between thoughts, that is possible, however this is not the main goal of meditation. What you need to do is be mindful of your thoughts, be aware, see than as if you were anothet person, awake, dont ...


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When it comes to developing concentration modern technology is definitely a distraction as devices tend to seek your attention. This leads to being scatter brained. This is the reason many meditation centres don't allow you to have them. Also modern life style has a lot of responsibilities, and leaves little time for spiritual practice. The society as a ...


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The son's flesh simile is from SN 12.63 (Puttamansa Sutta: A Son's Flesh). Lust is a very powerful force and it'd need a combination of various strategies to counteract it, everything including diets, moral disciplines, persistence, etc. MN 20 (Vitakkasanthana Sutta: The Relaxation of Thoughts) suggests 5 helpful strategies to counter unwholesome thoughts: ...


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A.K. It's not a foolish question at all, I think it's something everyone spends sometime trying to understand when they first start learning meditation and mindfulness. Mindfulness is being present. If you're sitting you know you're sitting, if you're standing you know you're standing. If you are washing dishes you are only washing dishes, you are not ...


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You can feel anyone of them, but you have to use one of them for whole your meditation. I prefer breath. First you have to notice that you are inhaling when inhale and you have to notice that you are exhaling when you exhale. When you do that you may feel lot of things: pain in legs, scratches, mosquito bite like feelings. Just ignore them at once and ...


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Once the practitioner attains certain level of mastery in meditation and mindfulness, their sleep acquires a character of meditation. It's not like they don't sleep at all, but they do retain certain level of deep awareness during their sleep. Specifically, when they see a dream, they know it's a dream. They remain aware of their body lying down on the bed. ...


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How can I solve my problems if I'm not totally immersed in the future, thinking about all the possibilities? In a sense, the answer is because being immersed in the future is a large part of the problem. Buddhism doesn't recognize the things you call problems as real problems. They are conventional problems that only obtain the designation because of your ...


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I'm guessing it sounded better in the original Burmese. "Imagining" seems more reasonable than "meeting", since the latter is not real. On the other hand, it is not so important whether the experience is "real", but that the experience is occurring, so it could potentially be beneficial to remind yourself of what is going on in your head as "meeting". Still,...


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Mindfulness is very important, but it is part of the path, not the goal. It is the seventh of the eight factors of the Noble Eightfold Path, and the path can be grouped into three trainings. The wisdom training, the morality training, and the concentration training. Mindfulness falls under the training of concentration. In MN 29, the longer heartwood simile ...


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The word dharma is understood to come from the Sanskrit root dhṛ - in regards to holding or keeping. The word has its history in the vedas, where the meaning is something that holds the world together (i.e. maintains order) - religious hymns, gods, etc. Later texts use the word to refer to the order itself - e.g. "going against dharma", etc. The ...


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If you look at this article which describes The Noble Eightfold Path, Chapter VI: Right Mindfulness (Samma Sati) talks about "bare attention" Chapter VII: Right Concentration (Samma Samadhi) talks about "centering the mind on an object" So I think they're both Buddhist, but one is called "mindfulness" and the other "concentration".


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The "five mindfulness trainings" obviously correspond to the traditional "five precepts". So you can find more (by other authors) on that subject by searching for "third precept", for example Buddhism and Sex. A lot of what what "appropriate ways" means is explained fairly clearly in the paragraph you referenced, i.e. True Love Aware of the suffering ...


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It essentially doesn't change anything. If you look hard, that "I" was always an illusion. No matter where you try to draw a boundary - it is artificial: Does the body belong to the self or not? How about that constant flow of matter and energy in and out - at what point does it even belong to the body? Do thoughts belong to the self or not? You are ...


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Wikipedia does not accord with the Pali suttas and the PTS Pali English Dictionary entry at Sutta Central is confusing, given it includes numerous different English terms. Pali words can generally only be understood in their contextual meaning. A sutta that clearly contextually describes 'sati' is MN 117, as follows: One is mindful to abandon wrong ...


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The way I was taught, is that mindfulness is not practiced in-and-of-itself; instead it comes from a critical attitude to ourselves, which in turns comes from a certain goal that we set for ourselves, a certain standard of behavior. For beginners, this goal or standard is the attitude of egolessness and non-attachment. We watch our reactions (thoughts, ...


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According my understanding Anapana Sati meditation is consists of several steps depending on your level. Found this page written by Most Ven. Nauyane Ariyadhamma Mahathera (who is one of the best meditation teacher according to me) could be helpful to you. It is quite lengthy one, but please read through for better understanding. In the article Ven ...


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