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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Buddhism is not the answer. Buddhism is not the problem, either. You turned to Buddhism looking for a quick fix to your life, and now that you haven't found that quick fix after 6 years you are ...
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Meditation and 'not trying to change anything'

'Not trying to change anything' is a modern idea and is not what is taught in the original Buddhist teachings. In the original teachings, there are four right efforts, namely: (i) effort to prevent ...
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I don't like people but I like buddhism

The topic is too big to do proper justice in one response, but to summarize my thoughts very briefly: Every crappy childhood is unique and every dysfunctional family is dysfunctional in its own way - ...
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What do you wish you knew when you started down the path of buddhism?

I am a Tibetan Buddhist, and have been for about 50 years. I don't really know if I can help with that question - but maybe so. Here are some things that might of use to a beginner. Learn to develop ...
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Unpleasant side effects of meditation

My local Buddhist temple's resident teacher Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo has this beautiful metaphor of the "poop soup", highly relevant to yours (and the rest of ours) situation. In this metaphor ...
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Meditation and 'not trying to change anything'

Insight or Vipassana meditation is about finding out the real nature of phenomena. Achieving relaxation or some kind of a refreshing feeling is not the goal. The correct method is to note all ...
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My short story with anxiety problems - could meditation be the cause?

Pleased to meet you Robert. It is very difficult to answer your question precisely however it is certainly likely/probable that practicing the meditation & the accompanying mental solitude is ...
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How to disambiguate between various meditation practices?

It appears unclear to you because you have not comprehended the essence of the Buddha's teachings. The Buddha did not teach any 'techniques'. The Buddha taught to abandon craving & other ...
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How to disambiguate between various meditation practices?

I agree with Dhammadhatu in that the different meditations seem confusing when you don't know what it is all about. When you know the underlying principle, you know how these different meditations ...
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How do I do "contemplation of death" meditation? And is it dangerous?

How to do "contemplation of death" meditation ? With each and every in and out breath reflect: "life is impermanent, but death is certain, hence will attend to what need to be done without delay." ...
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New to the site, new to Buddhism

Some quick answers, which I may add to later: Buddhism is certainly not a religion because it states all of its teachings are to be known & verified by its wise followers. It is certainly a way ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Generally things happen due to cause and effect so use that to your advantage by creating the causes for happiness. You need to work on the grosser aspects before you can work with the subtle.First ...
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Which is the best posture to Practice meditation?

Bhikkhus, the bhikkhu following the practice of my Teaching, having gone to the forest, or to the foot of a tree or to an empty, solitary place, sits down cross-legged, keeping his body erect, and ...
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Best type of meditation for attention

You might want to try Samatha meditation. This type of meditation would have you fix your attention on a single object of meditation over a period of time. The common object is your in and out breaths....
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Sexual Desire, Masturbating and Asuba Bawana

So basically caught up in the social norms, i used to watch porn videos and masturbate and got a bit attached to it. Kept on doing it for a few years. Do not underestimate the harm & addictive ...
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How should one be mindful of death?

Oh, this is easy. This one I was taught many many times. Here is how it goes: Regular untrained people live their life as if they will live forever. They 1) worry about small unimportant stuff, get ...
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I don't like people but I like buddhism

When you feel like you don't like people because of their "egotism, vanity, superficiality, stupidness, ignorance", you can use this opportunity to cultivate the brahmavihara of compassion (karuna). ...
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Best Meditation for Stress

Unlike the modern "western" medicine, which often treats the symptoms and superficial causes, Buddhism is all about finding and removing the root causes of dukkha (~suffering) including its ...
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Meditation and 'not trying to change anything'

It is very important to distinguish what buddhists call threefold training (sikkha), see e.g. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Threefold_Training. Each of the training parts has different methods and ...
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Can't meditate?

Deliberately directing or focusing the mind onto the breath is not the actual practise of Buddhist meditation, despite this wrong 'yogic' technique from the Visuddhimagga being taught so extensively. ...
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What is 'letting go' and 'detachment' actually?

What are the actual sanskrit and pali terms for 'letting go' and 'detach'? Quoting from "Re: What is the last thing to let go?": In the Suttas paṭinissagga and its synonym vossagga are the words ...
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Mindfulness of Breathing, Mindfulness with Breathing

Mindfulness ('sati') means 'to remember'. The breathing as a meditation object cannot be 'remembered'. Instead the breathing is observed, which is called 'anupassi'. The purpose of 'mindfulness' in ...
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Priority of Meditation

Bad physical habits are stopped by adhi-sīla, physical observe. Then, bad mental habits are stopped by adhi-samādhi, concentration-meditation. Then, whole, future, bad habit's root-causes, avijjā-...
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Anapanasati (Forced Breathing)

The breathing naturally arises as a "sign" that the mind has right mindfulness & right concentration. If a meditator aspires to fulfill the 16 stages of Anapansati, they should never seek to ...
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What exacly is the so-called "formless" jhana?

Here is my understanding as of 2018. When they say "form" (rupa) or "seed" (bija) in context of meditation, it's what we call an object of meditation these days. For example, your breath, an image of ...
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