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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Buddhism is not the answer. Buddhism is not the problem, either. You turned to Buddhism looking for a quick fix to your life, and now that you haven't found that quick fix after 6 years you are ...
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I don't like people but I like buddhism

The topic is too big to do proper justice in one response, but to summarize my thoughts very briefly: Every crappy childhood is unique and every dysfunctional family is dysfunctional in its own way - ...
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What do you wish you knew when you started down the path of buddhism?

I am a Tibetan Buddhist, and have been for about 50 years. I don't really know if I can help with that question - but maybe so. Here are some things that might of use to a beginner. Learn to develop ...
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Unpleasant side effects of meditation

My local Buddhist temple's resident teacher Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo has this beautiful metaphor of the "poop soup", highly relevant to yours (and the rest of ours) situation. In this metaphor ...
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Meditation and 'not trying to change anything'

Insight or Vipassana meditation is about finding out the real nature of phenomena. Achieving relaxation or some kind of a refreshing feeling is not the goal. The correct method is to note all ...
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How to disambiguate between various meditation practices?

I agree with Dhammadhatu in that the different meditations seem confusing when you don't know what it is all about. When you know the underlying principle, you know how these different meditations ...
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How do I do "contemplation of death" meditation? And is it dangerous?

How to do "contemplation of death" meditation ? With each and every in and out breath reflect: "life is impermanent, but death is certain, hence will attend to what need to be done without delay." ...
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Disenchanted with Buddhism

Generally things happen due to cause and effect so use that to your advantage by creating the causes for happiness. You need to work on the grosser aspects before you can work with the subtle.First ...
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What are the suttas in which the Buddha provides instruction on how to meditate?

To straighten view before meditation: Samma,ditthi Sutta Anapana Anapanasati Sutta Satipatthana Satipatthana Sutta and Mahāsatipaṭṭhāna Sutta Kayagatasati Sutta Saṅkhitta Dhamma Sutta Elements / ...
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Which is the best posture to Practice meditation?

Bhikkhus, the bhikkhu following the practice of my Teaching, having gone to the forest, or to the foot of a tree or to an empty, solitary place, sits down cross-legged, keeping his body erect, and ...
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What could I say to someone when they ask me "why do you meditate?"

Some suggestions: You might phrase it as an invitation ("you could find out yourself") instead of as an order ("you should find out yourself"); and then if they ask more, try to help with their next ...
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Best type of meditation for attention

You might want to try Samatha meditation. This type of meditation would have you fix your attention on a single object of meditation over a period of time. The common object is your in and out breaths....
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How should one be mindful of death?

Oh, this is easy. This one I was taught many many times. Here is how it goes: Regular untrained people live their life as if they will live forever. They 1) worry about small unimportant stuff, get ...
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I don't like people but I like buddhism

When you feel like you don't like people because of their "egotism, vanity, superficiality, stupidness, ignorance", you can use this opportunity to cultivate the brahmavihara of compassion (karuna). ...
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Is radiating loving kindness increase attachment?

Lovingkindness, good-will (metta): Near enemy – attachment/lust; far enemy – hatred Compassion (karuna): Near enemy – pity; far enemy – cruelty Sympathetic joy, Appreciation (mudita), joy at the good ...
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Meditation and 'not trying to change anything'

It is very important to distinguish what buddhists call threefold training (sikkha), see e.g. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Threefold_Training. Each of the training parts has different methods and ...
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What is 'letting go' and 'detachment' actually?

What are the actual sanskrit and pali terms for 'letting go' and 'detach'? Quoting from "Re: What is the last thing to let go?": In the Suttas paṭinissagga and its synonym vossagga are the words ...
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Priority of Meditation

Bad physical habits are stopped by adhi-sīla, physical observe. Then, bad mental habits are stopped by adhi-samādhi, concentration-meditation. Then, whole, future, bad habit's root-causes, avijjā-...
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