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Buddhism is not the answer. Buddhism is not the problem, either. You turned to Buddhism looking for a quick fix to your life, and now that you haven't found that quick fix after 6 years you are lashing out. I get the impression there is a lot of pent up anger in you. Anger at the world, anger at your job, anger at the so-called "better off" people who earn ...


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The topic is too big to do proper justice in one response, but to summarize my thoughts very briefly: Every crappy childhood is unique and every dysfunctional family is dysfunctional in its own way - but believe me or not, these type of issues are a lot more common than you realize. Pretty much every Russian person I know had alcoholism and violence issues ...


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I am a Tibetan Buddhist, and have been for about 50 years. I don't really know if I can help with that question - but maybe so. Here are some things that might of use to a beginner. Learn to develop loving-kindness towards everything and everyone in the past, present and future, without exception. Recognise that Karma is action - the cause – (NOT the ...


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My local Buddhist temple's resident teacher Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo has this beautiful metaphor of the "poop soup", highly relevant to yours (and the rest of ours) situation. In this metaphor we accumulate all kinds of neuroses ("poop") in the bowl of our psyche, until after many years it becomes veritable poop soup. Then, as we get ...


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I agree with Dhammadhatu in that the different meditations seem confusing when you don't know what it is all about. When you know the underlying principle, you know how these different meditations actually approach same thing from slightly different angle, and you see how they try to explain something that is hard to explain in words, and emphasize what ...


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How to do "contemplation of death" meditation ? With each and every in and out breath reflect: "life is impermanent, but death is certain, hence will attend to what need to be done without delay." “But how, bhikshu, do you cultivate the mindfulness of death?” “Here, bhante, I do it thus: 'Indeed, should I live just the time it ...


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Insight or Vipassana meditation is about finding out the real nature of phenomena. Achieving relaxation or some kind of a refreshing feeling is not the goal. The correct method is to note all conditioned phenomena as they are without trying to alter or make things easy for you. The effort you put into doing that is the right effort indeed as it cuts-off(over ...


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Generally things happen due to cause and effect so use that to your advantage by creating the causes for happiness. You need to work on the grosser aspects before you can work with the subtle.First cultivate happiness.Otherwise your going to be gritting your teeth through the path. Here are a few practical suggestions: 1.Keep the sila (precepts). This ...


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To straighten view before meditation: Samma,ditthi Sutta Anapana Anapanasati Sutta Satipatthana Satipatthana Sutta and Mahāsatipaṭṭhāna Sutta Kayagatasati Sutta Saṅkhitta Dhamma Sutta Elements / properties Dhātu Vibhaṅga Sutta Titth’ayatana Sutta Maha Hatthi,padapama Sutta Bahu Dhātuka Sutta Reflective / perception based Giri-m-ananda Sutta Indriya ...


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Some suggestions: You might phrase it as an invitation ("you could find out yourself") instead of as an order ("you should find out yourself"); and then if they ask more, try to help with their next question. You might have a normal reluctance to be preachy; but because in this case someone asked (or invited) you to tell them, maybe it's OK for you to get ...


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You might want to try Samatha meditation. This type of meditation would have you fix your attention on a single object of meditation over a period of time. The common object is your in and out breaths. The point of focus is usually the tip of the nose or the upper lips where you could feel the in and out breaths making contact. Since this training requires ...


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Bhikkhus, the bhikkhu following the practice of my Teaching, having gone to the forest, or to the foot of a tree or to an empty, solitary place, sits down cross-legged, keeping his body erect, and sets up mindfulness, orienting it. Then with entire mindfulness, he breathes in and with entire mindfulness he breathes out. Maha-satipatthana Sutta The above is ...


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Oh, this is easy. This one I was taught many many times. Here is how it goes: Regular untrained people live their life as if they will live forever. They 1) worry about small unimportant stuff, get offended, or scared, or enraged at things that are not really important. And 2) they waste days, months and years of life waiting for better life. However, 1) ...


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When you feel like you don't like people because of their "egotism, vanity, superficiality, stupidness, ignorance", you can use this opportunity to cultivate the brahmavihara of compassion (karuna). The primary purpose of cultivating compassion is to cure this strong aversion that you have of other people. Aversion or hatred (dosa or dvesha) is one of the ...


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Lovingkindness, good-will (metta): Near enemy – attachment/lust; far enemy – hatred Compassion (karuna): Near enemy – pity; far enemy – cruelty Sympathetic joy, Appreciation (mudita), joy at the good fortune of others: Near enemy – comparison,hypocrisy, insincerity, joy for others but tinged with identification (my team, my child); far enemy – envy ...


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What are the actual sanskrit and pali terms for 'letting go' and 'detach'? Quoting from "Re: What is the last thing to let go?": In the Suttas paṭinissagga and its synonym vossagga are the words that usually get translated ‘relinquishment’, ‘letting go’ and suchlike. What is relinquished is appropriation (ādāna) which is a term for taṇhā and upādāna. ...


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Bad physical habits are stopped by adhi-sīla, physical observe. Then, bad mental habits are stopped by adhi-samādhi, concentration-meditation. Then, whole, future, bad habit's root-causes, avijjā-root & taṇhā-root & dosa-root, are vanished by adhi-paññā, insight-meditation.


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as i see it in OP based solely on content of his post. The faculty of conviction - seems to appear The faculty of persistence - seems to appear The faculty of mindfulness - seems to appear The faculty of concentration - self reported weak The faculty of discernment - seems to appear Indriya-vibhanga Sutta: Analysis of the Mental Faculties On ...


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