Tibetan lineage teachers usually say, meditation should be like spending time with a best friend. You meet joyfully, you spend time effortlessly, and you separate easily, knowing you can't lose each other and will meet again soon.
Don't try to squeeze too much value out of that meeting, because you don't want to burden your friendship and turn it into a ...
If meditation is causing you stress, then you aren't doing it right. Meditation is taking it easy.
Joshu asked Nansen, "What is the Way?"
"Ordinary mind is the Way," Nansen replied.
"Shall I try to seek after it?" Joshu asked.
"If you try for it, you will become separated from it," responded
How can I know the Way unless I ...