Nobility starts with understanding. As adults, we are so busy with our careers, our spouse and children and chasing after wealth, fame and power. There are times when we would pause for a moment in our worldly pursuits and wonder if this is all there is. When we understand and grew weary with such worldly pursuits and yearn for something more meaningful, that’s when we begin to understand the difference between the ordinary and the noble. Knowing the ordinary is to understand what the world has to offer. Knowing the noble is understand what the mind has to offer.
Nobility begins with seeing reality. When the Buddha saw old age, illness and death, he could no longer bear to live in a façade, in an illusion that nothing bad will happen. When we are young and intoxicated with the vigour of youth, nothing can stand in our way. We may experience personal crisis like the loss of our jobs, the loss of our loved ones, the loss of our reputation, the loss of a marriage and so on. But we can shrug it all off and push ahead with confidence. But as we grew old and come closer to the greatest loss of all, our life; we are not so sure anymore.
Nobility grew with the practice in the Dharma. Struggling to understand, reflect and penetrate the Buddha’s teachings. Doing our regular meditation despite our busy schedules. Seeing the futility of our habitual thoughts, speech and actions in helping us achieve truly meaningful well-being and peace, we begin to change. Strangely, the change in behaviour just happens to align to that described of a Dharma practitioner. It is like we did not mean to visit certain places or attractions. But as we followed the prescribed path, these places just appeared.
We are lucky to be born as Buddhists or to come across Buddhism whether we considered ourselves as true Buddhists or not. In an age where the Buddha’s teachings existed, we have the opportunity to ponder and investigate the Dharma. And if we did make sincere efforts then as we grew older and more mature, many of these teachings began to make sense both logically and experientially. This is when we are genuinely thankful for being Buddhists. As to the question of being a true Buddhist or an Ariyan one that is not important anymore; having peace and well-being within is all that truly matters.