When looking for a teacher, you want someone who will evaluate your actions as a work in progress, and you have to apply the same standard to him or her. And you’re not trying to take on the superhuman role of evaluating that person’s essential worth. You’re simply judging whether his or her actions embody the kinds of skills you’d like to develop and the types of mental qualities—which are also a kind of action—that you’d trust in a trainer or guide. - Thanissaro Bhikku The Power of Judgement
You must go to a temple and see if the views align with yours. You must evaluate if you would like to be like these people. This is the best way to evaluate a temple.
A secondary question is: How do I choose a path? For this, you must also study and see if the views make sense to you. Test them. If path X says Y works, then what happens if you don't do Y. Does it lead you closer or further from inner peace?
It is a long path to find what works for you, but it is worth the effort. If anything is worth effort, it is the path to inner peace.
I think that I may have misunderstood the specifics of your question. You may be able to talk to the Abbott about your worries. If that does not remedy your situation, then you may not fit in with that sangha or may want to reconsider your relationship there.
The trouble is that some monasteries do not work in accordance with the dhamma-vinaya. You cannot stop it -- you cannot make people live in accordance with the Dhamma. In my opinion, all you can do is choose whether or not you want to continue to practice there.