Timeline for What would Buddhists do to get rid of the feeling of insecurity in relationships?
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| Jul 1, 2015 at 9:45 | history | edited | Buddho | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
minor grammar edit
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| Jul 1, 2015 at 9:36 | history | edited | Buddho | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
+note on futility of seeking happiness in relationships
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| Jul 1, 2015 at 9:03 | comment | added | sherly | May you be happy and free too @Buddho ☺ | |
| Jul 1, 2015 at 9:02 | comment | added | Buddho | You're welcome @sherly - may you be happy and free. | |
| Jul 1, 2015 at 8:57 | comment | added | sherly | I was checked that link and i will try to practice it now. I love Thich nhat hanh too. He always teach about compassion and contentment. Thank you Buddho. You just open my mind. | |
| Jul 1, 2015 at 7:27 | comment | added | Buddho | Developing compassion is easier for some than realizing anicca. This is a Mahayana approach (from your other questions I gather that you are Theravada) - where we look at the suffering of the partner that causes his inconsistency, and the suffering of the family that causes their expectations, and the resulting compassion can dissolve our sense of self hurt. It can deliver results quicker in this case. Instead of being angry, we must sit down with them and tell them that their suffering is real, but so is our suffering. brainpickings.org/2015/03/31/how-to-love-thich-nhat-hanh | |
| Jul 1, 2015 at 7:22 | comment | added | Buddho | Ultimately, our happiness and peace rests with us, we must take personal responsibility and not wait on external factors. While others (partner and family) can be understanding sometimes, they often will not be so, and we have no control over them, so we must stop trying to control such factors. We must imagine the worst scenario and make peace with it. Accepting the present moment as it is, without wanting different, we rid ourselves of misery - whether we accept or not, the present won't change, so it is better if we accept. | |
| Jul 1, 2015 at 7:06 | comment | added | sherly | I try to understand the meaning of anicca but still in difficulty while practicing this. My family expect too much about my current relationship. It's makes me more afraid if I lose him. | |
| Jul 1, 2015 at 6:54 | comment | added | sherly | Yes, you're right. I feel insecure because i want permanence and wish my partner become consistent person. | |
| Jul 1, 2015 at 6:50 | history | edited | Buddho | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
Mindfulness exercise - This was part of my original answer but because of a bug in the mobile client of StackExchange it didn't get posted.
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| Jul 1, 2015 at 5:11 | history | answered | Buddho | CC BY-SA 3.0 |