I respect your view as well. However, I think the 'best' methods for a person may depend on the type of individual they are. Using your analogy, if you are an experiential / intuitive type, getting behind the wheel would be best. You would not care about the physics of how brakes work. Stepping on the petal would be enough for you to learn. But for me, an analytic, often I wish to understand theory before experience. For people like me, we need both. Hence my comment of "both are required" for complete and balanced learning. Complicated individual differences give different 'best's. Regards.

I felt that @Erik had a slightly better answer in that I, also, feel both are required. While the above is true, I felt that trying to drive without watching/learning about driving first could be almost equally fruitless in its results.

I am curious, @user15082. When you say that you "don't like rules made by man", does that includes the teachings of the Buddha? If so, curious that you would be here in this exchange. If not, I did not understand your answer. (Note: I am not 'baiting' you, I am genuinely trying to find out what you meant.) Best, Jim

Good on you for understanding this person's dilemma. Regards.

I agree in principal with this as a possible action but would suggest that you think on changing the "Tell..." here to "Ask..."; and add, to the end, "Is there any way for you to accommodate me?" The employer might react better to this as a request for help but not react well if interpreted as a "demand". @Samana Johann if this was what you meant and was just a language issue with English, I apologize for misinterpreting. Regards.

This is an excellent response to a complicated question. If I could add, however, the first precept is "I will refrain from harming the life of others." If one cannot engage the beggar to the extent suggested by @LynnSuzanne, perhaps not giving just money might be appropriate. Many (not all) begging in our USA society use the proceeds to feed harmful addictions, so you might be harming them without understanding it. So, I believe, in those circumstances, giving to organizations which help lead such out of these addictions might be a better path in really helping them.

I believe @eluebke has it basically correct. Another way to look at it is that the path we should be following is one of the evolution of the self beyond limited definitions of male (in your case) as defined by traditional 'traits' like aggressiveness or brutishness. As he said, meditate on the best of Human traits and try to redefine yourself via those. These are the ones which will help you progress forward in your quest for enlightenment. IMHO.

"In contemporary terms, this has to be contextualized to" is, in my humble opinion, very weak. Especially when no reasoning / reference is cited as to why it 'has' to be this and not some other opinion-ed concept.

I agree with @Lanka. Science has shown through many studies (including this one: ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3779833) that the 'sleeping mind' seems to primarily exist to process thoughts and experiences originally gained from the 'waking mind'. This being the case, the more you can train your 'waking mind' to mindfulness in thoughts and experience, it would make sense that, over time, your 'sleeping mind' will be similarly fed with mostly mindful thoughts to process and aligned to mindfulness as well. Best.

I have a question about your conclusion. You say "you did not have any intention to kill anyone and you did not in fact kill anyone". But if all of the things on your list are true (and I agree that they are) then if you do A with intention, which you know with certainty will result in the death of being B - aren't you killing being B with intention? Please help me understand why not. Thank you.

Respectfully, I am having difficulty with your answer. You say: "Never ever go on "auto-pilot"", yet when I consider the time it would take to make a single step if I did not, I feel living in this world would be problematic: Thinking of the muscles I need to enact; considering how high I need to lift the leg; figuring our exactly where my foot will fall; individually enacting those muscles; considering how those feel when enacted... Well, you can see where this would lead. There must be a middle ground to between mindfulness and some level of 'auto pilot'?

@ChrisW, better? Sorry, I was trying to not be too verbose (which I am prone to do) by creating a 'link only' answer. Have not done a lot of comments here yet and still learning the ropes. Best, James