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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

As a (roughly) beginner practitioner, who has had a share of problems as well, I feel I can contribute. Mostly, my answer would fall in line with Andrei. Presuming this is accurate, this sounds like ...
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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

1. Is this behaviour justified for a person who is on the verge of enlightenment? From your explanations above it sounds like this person is very disturbed, not almost enlightened. You could be ...
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Infidelity in marriage

You don't need to have sex to be healthy and well. Otherwise, most Buddhist monks should be sick. Cheating breaks the 3rd precept. That is bad Karma for you. Whether your wife agrees or not, ...
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Should a Buddhist go to the gym?

i think it depends on the attitude and the frame of mind a care to keep in mind the fact that it's a business of maintaining fitness of a frail and mortal bag of bones and impurities may negate the ...
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Can one with eczema become a monk?

An explanation (including the origin story) of this rule is given on pages 194 through 195 of The Buddhist Monastic Code II -- The Khandhaka Rules Translated & Explained by Thanissaro Bhikkhu. It ...
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Infidelity in marriage

Its not OK to 'cheat'. Buddhism states a husband should be faithful (DN 31) & honest (SN 10.12) to his wife. However, you can & should honestly discuss your feelings & concerns with your ...
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Can one with eczema become a monk?

The degree of strict interpretation of such rules largely depends on the monastery, tradition and abbot under whom one ordains. Most monastic orders I know adapt these rules to suit their circumstance ...
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Buddhism and terminal illness

According to the Cula-kammavibhanga Sutta, certain types of karma leads to short lifespans and sickliness. The Blessed One said: "There is the case, student, where a woman or man is a killer of ...
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What is zen sickness?

I would be worried. Happened to me and many other intensive meditators. "Meditation sickness" occurs to those meditators embedded in an ideology or worldview that values silence and stilling thought ...
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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

Is this behaviour justified for a person who is on the verge of enlightenment? My experience of a vaguely analogous situation was that doctors were not willing to diagnose mental illness (e.g. "...
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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

Is this behaviour justified for a person who is on the verge of enlightenment? Meditators can seem antisocial but this person described here seems to have the wrong view on how we do certain things in ...
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Would a skin condition stop someone becoming a monk?

Previous lifestyle & herpes should not prevent a person from becoming a monk. If your friend wants to become a monk, he should talk to a monk at the temple.
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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

Question :01 - No he is not enlightened or even close to it. He seems to be an angry person just making excuses to justify his behavior. Remember he might actually believe this stuff, so be careful ...
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Benefits of sleeping in a sitting posture

The practice of sleeping in a sitting posture can be explained as one of the 13 Dhutanga. Sitter's Practice (nesajjik'anga) — living in the three postures of walking, standing and sitting and ...
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

Often around 2:00 p.m. after eating, my body falls tired. Might be a good idea to investigate and tackle the root cause to your tiredness first. Is it because you don't get enough sleep at night? or ...
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What does buddhism say about bodybuilding (and weights training)?

Since you ask, "What buddhism says", one quote which might be relevant is from the Puttamansa Sutta (SN 12.63), which I think recommends what's the appropriate attitude to have towards food: How, O ...
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Buddhism and terminal illness

Even in my limited knowledge on Buddhism, it makes sense to see a connection between a terminal illness (like cancer) and previous negative karma. Everyone who is born dies; and maybe 30% of all ...
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Can one with eczema become a monk?

I'm guessing that such rules were the compulsions of "maintaining the health of the flock/herd by sacrificing the individual". In those ancient days when antibiotics and anti-fungal creams were ...
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Buddhism and terminal illness

An adverse diagnosis can certainly be seen as the ripening of past karma. But it's not a cause to beat yourself up: we have all done countless good and bad acts during innumerable past lives, ...
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What are the issues related to medical treatment that prolongs life of questionable quality?

Here are some quotes from commentaries on the monastic rules. The Bhikkhus' Rules -- A Guide for Laypeople Properly considering medicinal requisites for curing the sick, I use them: simply to ward ...
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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

In Buddhism there is a path called the Three Trainings. This is the first thing to understand about Buddhism: even before the Four Noble Truths! But most people do not know it and apply it. They are: ...
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Infidelity in marriage

Sexual activity in a marriage is a predictor about how a relationship is working out and how close and connected the partners feel. The fact that your wife is denying sex and intimacy is a sign of an ...
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How do experienced Buddhists preserve their equanimity and well-being in unfavourable circumstances?

Would you consider suicide as a solution? A big NO...., suicide is not a solution, it creates more problems. Which tools given in Dhamma do you think would be useful if one had to survive ...
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

Meditation may result in you needing to sleep less, but it's not going to replace sleep. To give you an example, at sesshin, we'll meditate for 10-15 hours a day. By about the third day, not only am ...
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

Venerable Mahāmoggallāna struggled with drowsiness and the Buddha provided a list of suggestions laid out in AN7.61: AN7.61:1.3: Now at that time, in the land of the Magadhans near Kallavāḷamutta ...
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A Buddhist guide to overcome self sabotage

While 'ego' is a core teaching of Buddhism, Buddhism points out ego is caused by underlying defilements or cravings, namely, greed, hatred & delusion. Therefore, self-sabotage would be from some ...
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A Buddhist guide to overcome self sabotage

Does self-sabotaging instincts come from the ego? In a way, yes. Like all beings, we want what is best for ourselves. We want to be happy but we have a deluded understanding of happiness, one that is ...
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A Buddhist guide to overcome self sabotage

Here is what I found from the internet I found that quote here on the internet (and nowhere else) but I don't really trust it -- it's someone's description, summary, interpretation, explanation of ...
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