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Infidelity in marriage

You don't need to have sex to be healthy and well. Otherwise, most Buddhist monks should be sick. Cheating breaks the 3rd precept. That is bad Karma for you. Whether your wife agrees or not, ...
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Infidelity in marriage

Its not OK to 'cheat'. Buddhism states a husband should be faithful (DN 31) & honest (SN 10.12) to his wife. However, you can & should honestly discuss your feelings & concerns with your ...
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What is zen sickness?

I would be worried. Happened to me and many other intensive meditators. "Meditation sickness" occurs to those meditators embedded in an ideology or worldview that values silence and stilling thought ...
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Would a skin condition stop someone becoming a monk?

Previous lifestyle & herpes should not prevent a person from becoming a monk. If your friend wants to become a monk, he should talk to a monk at the temple.
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

Often around 2:00 p.m. after eating, my body falls tired. Might be a good idea to investigate and tackle the root cause to your tiredness first. Is it because you don't get enough sleep at night? or ...
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Benefits of sleeping in a sitting posture

The practice of sleeping in a sitting posture can be explained as one of the 13 Dhutanga. Sitter's Practice (nesajjik'anga) — living in the three postures of walking, standing and sitting and ...
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Buddhism and terminal illness

An adverse diagnosis can certainly be seen as the ripening of past karma. But it's not a cause to beat yourself up: we have all done countless good and bad acts during innumerable past lives, ...
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What does buddhism say about bodybuilding (and weights training)?

Since you ask, "What buddhism says", one quote which might be relevant is from the Puttamansa Sutta (SN 12.63), which I think recommends what's the appropriate attitude to have towards food: How, O ...
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Infidelity in marriage

Sexual activity in a marriage is a predictor about how a relationship is working out and how close and connected the partners feel. The fact that your wife is denying sex and intimacy is a sign of an ...
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How do experienced Buddhists preserve their equanimity and well-being in unfavourable circumstances?

Would you consider suicide as a solution? A big NO...., suicide is not a solution, it creates more problems. Which tools given in Dhamma do you think would be useful if one had to survive ...
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

Venerable Mahāmoggallāna struggled with drowsiness and the Buddha provided a list of suggestions laid out in AN7.61: AN7.61:1.3: Now at that time, in the land of the Magadhans near Kallavāḷamutta ...
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

Meditation may result in you needing to sleep less, but it's not going to replace sleep. To give you an example, at sesshin, we'll meditate for 10-15 hours a day. By about the third day, not only am ...
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A Buddhist guide to overcome self sabotage

While 'ego' is a core teaching of Buddhism, Buddhism points out ego is caused by underlying defilements or cravings, namely, greed, hatred & delusion. Therefore, self-sabotage would be from some ...
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A Buddhist guide to overcome self sabotage

Does self-sabotaging instincts come from the ego? In a way, yes. Like all beings, we want what is best for ourselves. We want to be happy but we have a deluded understanding of happiness, one that is ...
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A Buddhist guide to overcome self sabotage

Here is what I found from the internet I found that quote here on the internet (and nowhere else) but I don't really trust it -- it's someone's description, summary, interpretation, explanation of ...
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What is sleep paralysis in Buddhism view?

The reality you see is created by your mind. It's like a robot vacuum that builds a map of the room based on what it encounters. If you stand in its way it will think there's a wall there. It doesn't ...
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

It can be difficult to meditate if there is tiredness. This said, it appears not necessary to sleep at 2pm. Therefore, you can consider: meditating instead of sleeping eating less for lunch.
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Meditate mindfully instead of sleeping

In my opinion and personal experience is what the body need is relaxation. So keep the body still and meditating is as good as sleeping.
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How do experienced Buddhists preserve their equanimity and well-being in unfavourable circumstances?

There are numerous stories in Tibetan Buddhism about Lamas getting imprisoned for years or decades by the Chinese and how they not only endured the hardships but became spiritual guides for other ...
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Infidelity in marriage

In most cases, cheating comes from craving. Where there's craving, there's identification with the I. Thus, in most cases, it is not ok to cheat. In most cases, relationships come from craving. Where ...
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Buddhism and terminal illness

What we experience now is not purely a result of past karma. It's both past and present actions combined. So this means that we can control our current karma to an extent depending on how we behave in ...
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Would a skin condition stop someone becoming a monk?

I am glad you managed to save your friend's life. I suggest that both of you google "Thai monk with neurofibromatosis" and become aware that his 'problem' isn't a real problem.
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Would a skin condition stop someone becoming a monk?

The commentary on page 195 of this document, The Buddhist Monastic Code II, implies that it depends on the type of skin condition, where it is, how severe it is, and whether it's likely to spread. I ...
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What is zen sickness?

I think it's basically impossible to know. According to this page, Hakuin, described it as such: my heart fire began to rise up­ward against the natural course, parching my lungs of their essen­tial ...
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What is zen sickness?

The are few borderlines between mystical (enlightenment) and psychotic experiences. Read 'Psychotic and Mystical States of Being: Connections and Distinctions', the scholarly paper by Caroline Brett,...
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What is zen sickness?

Zen Sickness, by Zen Master Hakuin mentions one cause of it was access striving. In Buddhism you should pratice in a balanced manner. Does anyone know what this was? Has there been a retrospective ...
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As per buddism, how is it possible to leave behind my obsession with drugs?

The fifth precept explains about this subject. If an individual is addicted to alcohol, it does not yield any positive results. It leads to an unstable mind, giving up on goals, wasting time, ...
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