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What do Buddhists do to prevent sexual desires?

Yes, they do something to lower sexual desire. Sexual desire is a form of sensual desire which is the first of the 5 Hindrances to meditation practice. The commentaries to the Satipatthana Sutta list ...
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Is homosexuality a sin?

I'm shocked at some of the responses here - to try to twist the precepts of Buddhism to condemn something that one finds personally abhorrent is counter to everything The Buddha taught. Yes, allowing ...
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Taking care of our sexual energy

The "five mindfulness trainings" obviously correspond to the traditional "five precepts". So you can find more (by other authors) on that subject by searching for "third precept", for example ...
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Sexual Desire, Masturbating and Asuba Bawana

So basically caught up in the social norms, i used to watch porn videos and masturbate and got a bit attached to it. Kept on doing it for a few years. Do not underestimate the harm & addictive ...
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Marriage and porn

Some socially 'Islamic' people (as distinct from Muslim practitioners) get married on a Friday and divorce on the Monday just so they can have sex on the weekend & not break the rules. Obviously, ...
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Infidelity in marriage

You don't need to have sex to be healthy and well. Otherwise, most Buddhist monks should be sick. Cheating breaks the 3rd precept. That is bad Karma for you. Whether your wife agrees or not, ...
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Dealing with Lust

The YouTube video "Ask A Monk: Pornography and Masturbation (and Addiction in General)" by Ven. Yuttadhammo may be helpful to you. He discusses "interior causes for such lust" from the perspective of ...
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Is masturbation a sin when we do it to avoid intercourse with other people?

First off, Buddhism and karmic faiths generally don't really have a concept of 'sin'. 'Sin' is a Western conception — a feature of Abrahamic (Jewish, Christian, Muslim) faiths — that points at ...
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Is homosexuality a sin?

it's not a sin for the simple reason that a concept of sin is alien to the Dhamma, if anything it would be an unskillful, impure act on the basis of sexual misconduct description from the Nikayas it'...
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Dealing with Lust

I know Buddhism posits that lust depends on the sense organs, and contact with an object. Thus, I've read it promotes decreasing this contact and guarding the senses. No. Lust depends on ignorance. ...
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What makes someone take rebirth with non heterosexual inclinations?

I think the question is unimportant because Buddhism does not provide an answer for this question & because in Buddhism there is a path for laypeople that can be practised by both heterosexual &...
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Sex Before Marriage

So we had a friends-with-benefits relationship just to have sexual satisfaction with no feelings. If sex did not feel pleasurable; why would you have sex? There is no such thing as sex with no ...
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What is the attitude toward homosexuality in Buddhism?

In respect to the cultural context of the Pali suttas, I have only read references to: (i) parents arranging the marriage of their (pubescent) children (DN 31) &; (ii) sex in marriage between ...
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Infidelity in marriage

Its not OK to 'cheat'. Buddhism states a husband should be faithful (DN 31) & honest (SN 10.12) to his wife. However, you can & should honestly discuss your feelings & concerns with your ...
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Question on sexual immorality and a family situation

It is not officially a breach of the 3rd precept, which, per definition, relates to actual sexual activity with specifically defined people (such as another person's husband or wife or children/...
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Buddhism and fornication

There are four conditions for wrong conduct in sexual pleasures. There must be a man or woman with whom it is improper to have sexual intercourse. There must be intention to have sexual intercourse ...
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Husband has sexual activity with other woman with the consent of wife

It does not break the third precept if the husband has the wife's willful(not forced) consent. It's somewhat similar to kings having more than one queen. Having said that, there is no such thing as ...
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Why is lust considered as being unskillful?

On the mundane level, all the other answers are okay. On the supramundane level, it's not as much about partaking of sex as it is about your attitude, the implications of the relationship, the ...
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Can a girl & a boy be friends

If you are not married, the Buddha said to look at opposite sex friends like brother & sister: 'Come now, monks: with regard to women who are old enough to be your mother, establish the ...
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If sex is prohibited, how do we survive?

Sex is prohibited for monks and nuns If you are not observing higher precept like 8 or 10 precepts sex is not prohibited for lay person. Lay person has only to adhere to 5 Precepts. This prohibits ...
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Is homosexuality a sin?

1st of all Buddhism does not prohibit or have anything against being gay. But Hethorosexuality is unwholsome as it is rooted in desire, though lay people may engage in such activities, within Sila. ...
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Sexual disinterest

Meditation can make the mind more sensitive to coarse/unrefined things however becoming accustomed to refined experiences of love or intimacy can also result in loveless sex feeling pointless & ...
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Orgasm and Virya

Unless relatively deep/refined samadhi & tranquility have been developed, it is difficult to perceive the loss of energy & loss of mental clarity due to orgasm. Instead, to the undeveloped ...
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Does Buddhism have an answer to disturbing sexual fantasies?

Ways of Denourishing of Sensual Desire. Asubha reflextion, refextion on the ugly of the body behind skin, hair, nails, reflecting the backwards of sensuality. Watching the dogs on the street... [...
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What makes someone take rebirth with non heterosexual inclinations?

My first teacher taught how different types of attachments lead to certain karmic situations. According to that system, homosexuality comes from attachment to high ideals and high standards. ...
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Sexual Ethics in Buddhism

Why is lust seen as being unskillful? Your question goes directly to MN1, which is a difficult sutta: relishing is the root of suffering. Briefly, the delusion of lust assumes that one can ...
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