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Controlling one's sexual thoughts
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The nature of the mind is to produce thoughts. Your question about controlling thoughts seems to imply an act of force.
Very well then, my friend, I will give you an analogy; for there are
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Marriage and porn
Technically, watching porn doesn't break the 3rd precept, but it weakens it. In other words, it weakens the merits you gain by keeping to the precept apart from accumulating bad karma.
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What do Buddhists do to prevent sexual desires?
Yes, they do something to lower sexual desire. Sexual desire is a form of sensual desire which is the first of the 5 Hindrances to meditation practice. The commentaries to the Satipatthana Sutta list ...
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Buddhist attitude towards prostitution and non-procreative sexual activity
Does it mean having sex with prostitute does not considered sexual
misconduct?
It does not break the 3rd precept, if both parties are proper(not belonging to the 20 kinds of improper partners). ...
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Controlling one's sexual thoughts
We don't control the thoughts that arise in our minds. But we can look mindfully at everything. Look at that which you crave but without any fantasy, romance, or delusion involved. Look at the ...
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Is homosexuality a sin?
I'm shocked at some of the responses here - to try to twist the precepts of Buddhism to condemn something that one finds personally abhorrent is counter to everything The Buddha taught.
Yes, allowing ...
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Taking care of our sexual energy
The "five mindfulness trainings" obviously correspond to the traditional "five precepts".
So you can find more (by other authors) on that subject by searching for "third precept", for example ...
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Sexual Desire, Masturbating and Asuba Bawana
So basically caught up in the social norms, i used to watch porn videos and masturbate and got a bit attached to it. Kept on doing it
for a few years.
Do not underestimate the harm & addictive ...
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Is masturbation a sin when we do it to avoid intercourse with other people?
First off, Buddhism and karmic faiths generally don't really have a concept of 'sin'. 'Sin' is a Western conception — a feature of Abrahamic (Jewish, Christian, Muslim) faiths — that points at ...
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Controlling one's sexual thoughts
Patikulamanasikara, and the nine types of cemetery contemplations, are the meditations practiced to subdue lust. Being a medical student, they should be easier for you to learn. You can train the mind ...
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In what way(s) does engaging in sexual activity affect meditation practice?
Sensual pleasure is one of the Five Hindrances which are like "canals dissipating the force [awareness/discernment strength] of a river current" as taught by the Buddha in AN 5.51:
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Marriage and porn
Some socially 'Islamic' people (as distinct from Muslim practitioners) get married on a Friday and divorce on the Monday just so they can have sex on the weekend & not break the rules. Obviously, ...
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Infidelity in marriage
You don't need to have sex to be healthy and well. Otherwise, most Buddhist monks should be sick. Cheating breaks the 3rd precept. That is bad Karma for you.
Whether your wife agrees or not, ...
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Dealing with Lust
The YouTube video "Ask A Monk: Pornography and Masturbation (and Addiction in General)" by Ven. Yuttadhammo may be helpful to you.
He discusses "interior causes for such lust" from the perspective of ...
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The Third Precept and Prostitution
I am a Buddhist, happy, content prostitute. I am not a greedy person, nor am a sex addict (or anything of the like). This is the chapter in which my life is. I have used my current profession to ...
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What is a pandaka?
We can start with the PTS dictionary. Paṇḍaka "a eunuch, weakling". This definition is repeated in Monier-Williams sv paṇḍa. As far as the early Buddhist texts, they are clearly not to be ordained, ...
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Is homosexuality a sin?
it's not a sin for the simple reason that a concept of sin is alien to the Dhamma, if anything it would be an unskillful, impure act
on the basis of sexual misconduct description from the Nikayas it'...
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Dealing with Lust
I know Buddhism posits that lust depends on the sense organs, and contact with an object. Thus, I've read it promotes decreasing this
contact and guarding the senses.
No. Lust depends on ignorance. ...
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What makes someone take rebirth with non heterosexual inclinations?
I think the question is unimportant because Buddhism does not provide an answer for this question & because in Buddhism there is a path for laypeople that can be practised by both heterosexual &...
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Sex Before Marriage
So we had a friends-with-benefits relationship just to have sexual
satisfaction with no feelings.
If sex did not feel pleasurable; why would you have sex? There is no such thing as sex with no ...
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What is the attitude toward homosexuality in Buddhism?
In respect to the cultural context of the Pali suttas, I have only read references to: (i) parents arranging the marriage of their (pubescent) children (DN 31) &; (ii) sex in marriage between ...
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How to cultivate sexual energy with Meditation?
Mr/ Mrs Jyo Soudagar - Ajay should not cultivate it, if he/she meditates, but should abandon it, when ever such comes along. Listen to or read, Mr/Mrs Jyo Soudagar - Ajay, what was said in the ...
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Infidelity in marriage
Its not OK to 'cheat'. Buddhism states a husband should be faithful (DN 31) & honest (SN 10.12) to his wife. However, you can & should honestly discuss your feelings & concerns with your ...
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Question on sexual immorality and a family situation
It is not officially a breach of the 3rd precept, which, per definition, relates to actual sexual activity with specifically defined people (such as another person's husband or wife or children/...
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Buddhism and fornication
There are four conditions for wrong conduct in sexual pleasures.
There must be a man or woman with whom it is improper to
have sexual intercourse.
There must be intention to have sexual intercourse ...
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Husband has sexual activity with other woman with the consent of wife
It does not break the third precept if the husband has the wife's willful(not forced) consent. It's somewhat similar to kings having more than one queen.
Having said that, there is no such thing as ...
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Why is lust considered as being unskillful?
It is not morally wrong. The question is if it is helpful or not!
Clearly, lust and pornography are helpful for temporally satisfying the craving of sexual gratification. In that sense, they are ...
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