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Argumentation is a tricky thing; it's easy to skip a step and before you realize it, you've got an argument whose premises don't actually necessitate their conclusion. Premise: The whole point (in general) of keeping the [third] precept is to make good kamma both in mind and body. Premise: Masturbation alters the mind state and creates bad mind-made kamma....


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In MN 41 (and elsewhere), the Buddha describes sexual misconduct as follows: He is given over to misconduct in sexual desires: he has intercourse with such (women) as are protected by the mother, father, (mother and father), brother, sister, relatives, as have a husband, as entail a penalty, and also with those that are garlanded in token of betrothal. (...


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Masturbation is unwholesome just like getting angry is unwholesome. Getting angry is not recommended, but it is not against a precept. I think there is confusion with abrahmacariya precept taken with 8 and 10 precepts. This precept replaces the third sexual misconduct precept of regular followers and requires complete celibacy. Abstinence from sensual ...


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The meaning of third precept is that one's actions must never be motivated by desire of sensual pleasure. The Pali text for third precept says: Kāmesumicchācāra veramaṇī sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi. veramaṇī sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi is a standard phrase that means "I undertake the training rule to abstain from ..." The key therefore is Kāmesumicchācāra, or, ...


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I'm shocked at some of the responses here - to try to twist the precepts of Buddhism to condemn something that one finds personally abhorrent is counter to everything The Buddha taught. Yes, allowing lust to dominate your thoughts is counter to the path of enlightenment but the question was that of homosexuality - not sex. Those that are quick to condemn ...


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Technically, watching porn doesn't break the 3rd precept, but it weakens it. In other words, it weakens the merits you gain by keeping to the precept apart from accumulating bad karma.


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Does it mean having sex with prostitute does not considered sexual misconduct? It does not break the 3rd precept, if both parties are proper(not belonging to the 20 kinds of improper partners). However, not breaking the 3rd precept does not mean you are not committing unwholesome Kamma. All sexual activities are unwholesome regardless of if you are not ...


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In short, sexual misconduct means performing any sexual act that will be harmful to yourself and/or others. Just because the act is consensual does not necessarily mean it won't hurt someone, as example in the case of adultery, the two people performing the act may consent to it, but it hurts another person and family. If the spouse consents and/or ...


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There is no way around it. Sexual coercion and abuses (minor or otherwise) are reprehensible and they should be addressed. For you to have compassion is wholesome, but it should not prevent you from taking the necessary measures. Your compassion should open your eyes on the fact that (1) you might not be the only one victim (2) the person responsible of ...


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From what I've heard, masturbation or fantasizing about people other than your partner won't break the 3rd precept. But it weakens it. Just like harming animals doesn't break the 1st precept until you actually kill. But it will weaken any merits you get by keeping to the 1st precept apart from creating lot of bad Karma for yourself.


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You don't need to have sex to be healthy and well. Otherwise, most Buddhist monks should be sick. Cheating breaks the 3rd precept. That is bad Karma for you. Whether your wife agrees or not, associating with prostitutes has many bad consequences. You and your family's reputation can be tarnished. Higher risk of catching diseases. Your wealth will decrease. ...


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it's not a sin for the simple reason that a concept of sin is alien to the Dhamma, if anything it would be an unskillful, impure act on the basis of sexual misconduct description from the Nikayas it's impossible to construe that being homosexual or engaging in homosexual sex per se is a violation of the precept He engages in sensual misconduct. He gets ...


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There are four conditions for wrong conduct in sexual pleasures. There must be a man or woman with whom it is improper to have sexual intercourse. There must be intention to have sexual intercourse with such a person. Action must be taken to have such an intercourse. There must be enjoyment from contact of the sexual organs. With reference to the first ...


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It does not break the third precept if the husband has the wife's willful(not forced) consent. It's somewhat similar to kings having more than one queen. Having said that, there is no such thing as a "biological need" regarding sexual pleasures. Water is a biological need, air is a biological need, food is a biological need as you cannot survive without ...


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The Noble Eightfold path comprises three practices: wisdom, ethics and immersion. It takes wisdom to ask about ethics. A good source of ethics is MN8. In particular, some of the following considerations may or may not apply. You would know best: It may be cruel to continue distressing this woman: MN8:12.2: ‘Others will be cruel, but here we will not be ...


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There are multiple answers in the link you posted that explain what sexual misconduct is and masturbation cannot be considered among the ranks of actions named sexual misconduct. Now you MAY have a case if you use the word sensual misconduct as the translation, then actions like over eating and excessive masturbation could be considered abuse of the senses....


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Sex is prohibited for monks and nuns If you are not observing higher precept like 8 or 10 precepts sex is not prohibited for lay person. Lay person has only to adhere to 5 Precepts. This prohibits wrongful sexual acts, i.e., sex with someone under another's protection... and other acts. As you said sex is craving and can lead to suffering. But not very ...


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1st of all Buddhism does not prohibit or have anything against being gay. But Hethorosexuality is unwholsome as it is rooted in desire, though lay people may engage in such activities, within Sila. Homosexuality activity needs to have stronger attraction than is Hethorosexual avtivity, which is more unwholsome. When engaging in any sexsual activity if ...


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Ways of Denourishing of Sensual Desire. Asubha reflextion, refextion on the ugly of the body behind skin, hair, nails, reflecting the backwards of sensuality. Watching the dogs on the street... [Note: This is a gift of Dhamma, not meant for commercial use or other lower wordily gains by ways of exchange or trade]


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IMO "woman's stain" is a mistranslation (or at best gives the wrong impression). The whole chapter (of the Dhammapada) is about ways in which the audience (e.g. you or me) may be stained (or are stained, were stained). (It would be applicable to "a woman" only if she were the reader, the subject, the audience of the talk -- but in the AN ...


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OP: Does it imply that lay followers still engaging in the sexual act while monks giving it up are both following the Noble eightfold path ? Or would there be yet a reason for such a distinction in translation? Yes, it is true that there is indeed a separation of the path for lay followers and for monks. The former is the version with defilements, and the ...


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Donating porn/nude arts, women to men for evil purposes, bulls for cows to breed, alcohol and arranging dances(probably sexually arousing) are considered evil charity which are sinful. So clearly porn is not something good but sinful whether or not it falls under physically cheating.


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Any such urge gives rise to feelings. What you should do is look at the feeling equanimously and objectively so that cravings for sensual pleasures do not arise. This is in Dependent Origination. Initially the success would be very limited with only a few seconds of success, but as you go on the duration would increase and at one point you would be able to ...


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Masturbation does not transgress the 3rd precept. Yet, pursuing thoughts of sexuality is considered unskillful as they contribute to further becoming (bhava), which in turn leads to further dukkha. However, long term forced sexual repression only for the sake of keeping a precept is also counterproductive. I have met a few people who have decided to be ...


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