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Try to make good Karma - it will help you for sure. The Buddha once gave a simile. He said that bad karma was like salt and good karma like water. If you put some salt in a glass of water it will taste bad, but if you put the same amount of salt in a river, the taste of the water will not change, so doing good karma is a very good way to handle this ...


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This happens when you have a mistaken idea that practice is something separate from your normal life. But meditation is only 1/3rd of the practice, the top of the wedding cake (shila-prajna-samadhi). Most of the practice happens during the day, in what some of us Buddhists semi-jokingly call "post-meditation". I think meditation looks important to ...


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What should one contemplate for mana? Here's what the early texts say: He should develop the perception of inconstancy so as to uproot the conceit, 'I am.' For a monk perceiving inconstancy, the perception of not-self is made firm. One perceiving not-self attains the uprooting of the conceit, 'I am' — Unbinding in the here & now." -Ud 4.1, AN ...


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I'm sure you've heard the phrase "Practice like your hair is one fire" However, one researcher was looking for people who had so-called "Dark Nights of the soul" experience, i.e. unpleasant experience with meditation. She found that "She identified two susceptible demographics: a) men, 18 to 30 years old, who go to Asia and do 10 to 20 hrs of ...


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Not just my own understanding, but a standard teaching is to approach things gradually, from coarse to subtle. First, we have to stop creating major sources of trouble for ourselves. How do we do that? By following five precepts. Then, we stop creating medium-sized issues, by following the behavioral parts of the Eightfold Path. Then we stop creating ...


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Tibetan lineage teachers usually say, meditation should be like spending time with a best friend. You meet joyfully, you spend time effortlessly, and you separate easily, knowing you can't lose each other and will meet again soon. Don't try to squeeze too much value out of that meeting, because you don't want to burden your friendship and turn it into a ...


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Conceit doesn't convey the full meaning of 'Māna' in Buddhism. 'Māna' is measuring. You can measure yourself against others in three ways, I am better than him I am worse than him I am equal to him However, I assume your question is on conceit, so here are some methods discussed here to tackle conceit, some of them are applicable for mana as ...


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The effects of karma are neither bad nor good. they just are. It is you who give them meaning, not the karma. It's best to understand what Karma actually is: the law of cause and effect. The Buddha taught this law explicitly. The effects we feel in this life relate to the actions we took or didn't take in this or previous lifetimes. That is why the ...


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You practice should be continuous. Therefore there is only the risk of practising too little. But there is the risk of too much effort. This is generally chasing after results, exerting too much control like keeping you mind on the meditation object.


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Where we don't have a choice: stop, maintain or prolong, create phenomena and influence, control arising and passing of phenomena. Even at a grosser level the influence is limited. Where we have a choice: not being reactive to sense stimulus but proactive to it influence and regulate your mind towards skillful states and away from unwholesome states ...


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Some advice by Ajaan Fuang here: § Many were the times when people would tell Ajaan Fuang that — with all the work and responsibilities in their lives — they had no time to meditate. And many were the times he'd respond, "And you think you'll have time after you're dead?" § "If you're single-minded about whatever you think of doing, you're ...


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Read the nice anecdotes of Ajaan Fuang. A small selection below. § A woman came to Wat Dhammasathit to observe the precepts and meditate for a week, but by the end of the second day she told Ajaan Fuang that she had to return home, because she was afraid her family couldn't get along without her. He taught her to cut through her worries by saying, ...


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I recalled a dharma talk by Ajahn Thanissaro Bhikku on Youtube. In it he compared mindfulness and meditation to a skill. And like anything else in life you need to practice to become good at that skill. At the beginning your mind is full of its habitual mess of cravings, frustrations, anger, hate, distractions, torpor, conceit, because you never experience ...


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You are not alone on this… @Ashwin Kumar. You have good company. When you stop and think about it, that’s what a lot of people do in this world. They do something because they think it makes them better than other people. That whole mindset—the idea of wanting to be better than others or that they are worse than others or equal to others—is a real trap ...


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Right effort(sammā-vāyāma) in terms of mindfulness is not a forceful , grit your teeth kind of effort. It's a moment by moment, continuous, good cyclical habit kind of effort. Cetanā is Pali for 1- intention 2- volition 3- directionality of mind 4- attraction 5- urge Intention(cetanā) can be defined as a mental factor that moves or urges the mind in a ...


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-- "why is it that in this life time I have became obsessively bent to attain nibbana" There is a traditional Buddhist teaching that explains this Awakening through a combination of lucky causes and conditions. When the conditions are unlucky, they are known as "Eight Conditions in Which There is No Freedom to Practice Dharma". When the conditions are lucky,...


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From MN 117, we read that Right Effort (samma vayamo) must go in the right direction: "One tries to abandon wrong view & to enter into right view: This is one's right effort... "One tries to abandon wrong resolve & to enter into right resolve: This is one's right effort... "One tries to abandon wrong speech & to enter into right ...


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Your question basically boils down to "is there anything called free will?". There is 'will'. But it is not necessarily free. Even when you get a decision made in the courts, if the jury or the judge is influenced by politicians or corporates, can you call it a free judgment? But it's a judgement nonetheless. Likewise, our will is influenced by greed, hatred ...


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When you start of you need some level of concentration to have awareness. The reason for this is we are constantly getting input from all 6 sense doors and we react to them. So the starting point would be to focus on narrower area in terms of input and be persistent. When it comes to awareness what you really have to be aware is the sensations caused when ...


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I could easily have written your query. At this time however there are a few differences which may be helpful if shared. Am in my mid 40’s. Never thought that it was actually possible. Met a Venerable at the local Vihara who stated otherwise and has taken me under his wing so to speak with ordination to be the outcome. Yes, it’s a long road, lots to learn. ...


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In traditional Buddhism, effort is not only the way to move forward but, almost more importantly, the main source of satisfaction! This satisfaction then serves as the main source of fuel for going forward. The student defines a goal according to Dharma (or the Buddha / thera / guru does it for the student), the student works hard to attain that goal, the ...


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In my opinion, this boils down to the differences I previously outlined between "formless" and "form-full" paths. The formless path is about relinquishing negative qualities without explicitly striving to generate the positive ones - an activity which would require creation of (contrived) forms. On the formless path, the positive qualities are expected to ...


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Sit on the cushion. You’ve posted scores of variants on this question and still seem to be under the impression that there’s an answer out there somewhere that’s going to get things to click for you - that somehow someone will say something that will miraculously make you committed and motivated to practice. That answer simply doesn’t exist. No amount of ...


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