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Personal Relationships while on the path?

About 20 years ago I felt the same. People were talking about something pretty meaningless. It was not interesting. Also, according to the Buddhist precept of Mindful Speech, idle chatter should be ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

What helped me tremendously distance myself is this: Contemplate the various advantages and disadvantages of having a girlfriend--particularly the one that you think you would get--not the dream-woman-...
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if the self is an illusion - all my relationships are illusion too?

You are asking something like "If superman is fictional, what happens to his relationship with Lois Lane?". In ultimate reality, relationships don't exit. It's just craving/clinging arising in the ...
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Help! I'm in love with enlightened man

Dukha - not getting we want, getting what we don't want, getting what we want then losing it. The fact is you don't really know this man is enlightened and it doesn't even really matter whether he ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

Buddha is cited as Victor for a reason: a good Buddhist is strong and certain - not weak and doubtful. These strength and certainty come from standing firmly with both feet in reality (Tatha) - ...
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How to combine Buddhism with being a parent?

I’m a clinical psychologist. I wonder if the various definitions of ‘Attachment’ might be the cause of some confusion? In psychological literature ‘Attachment’ is a crucial element of a healthy parent-...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

In a nutshell. Buddhism is not about removing desires. It's about recognising what is present in any given moment and then responding skillfully or in a wholesome way so as not to cause suffering. You ...
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How do you have a relationship

Buddhist Impermanence is best understood in the context of the Three Marks of Existence: Annica (impermanence), Dukkha (unsatisfactoriness), Anatta (non-self). Trying to understand it on its own will ...
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Days related to Buddhism

According to DN 2, calculating auspicious dates is considered an "animal art" and wrong livelihood. It is prohibited for monks: "Whereas some contemplatives & brahmans, living off food given in ...
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Would Buddhists help non-Buddhists continuing their attachments?

Reading your question I feel like you are little misled about what Buddhism is (or maybe I don't understand your question at all). So however, I will give you an answer as I understand your question. ...
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Is the dharma thicker than both blood and water?

Look after your family. When shit goes down, they will be the ones who help you out or look after you. You probably can't rely on people that are peripheral to your life or whose interest in you is ...
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How do you have a relationship

Everything that has a start will eventually have an end. Even in relationships. Even relationships that last a lifetime come to and end with death. If one is attached to such relationship this also is ...
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Relationship with bad parents (kamma and issues)

This body was so malnourished at birth because my mother used pregnancy as a way of LOSING weight -- her dress size was more important than my bones and nerves -- very nearly the neuro tube did not ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

I have experienced some brief training as a novice monk in a short term monastic retreat in the Chinese Chan (Zen) tradition, and I can assure you that you get a lot of tough love. The disciplinary ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

and always agreeing on others view very wrong message, polite disagreement is completely normal try to overcome it by ceasing being meek and docile, because people are animals and take kindness for ...
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What motivates a fully awakened person in a loving relationship?

Remark: This is not (yet?) a full answer, but more an extended comment. For one impression of how might a loving relation be revered see "A.IV. 55 Nakulapitá und Nakulamátá" ; although the ...
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Would Buddhists help non-Buddhists continuing their attachments?

A Buddhist notices a crying girl. One would hope that a Buddhist, or any reasonable person for that matter, would assist a reunion. Alice and Bob has a complicated relationship Most everyday ...
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Would Buddhists help non-Buddhists continuing their attachments?

Those who are "virtuous Buddhist", keeping precepts, observe "not to speak of what is not true" and inside of this precept, some would try to help, sometimes with silent as well and if possible, and ...
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When is it love? When is it attachment?

When is it love? There's Buddhist doctrine about the brahmaviharas which are three different kinds of love ... I hope you're well I don't want to hurt you I rejoice in your virtue/success ... plus ...
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