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Can bad kammas be eased by apologizing?

For example if i have lied to my parents and can the bad kamma be deleted when i apologize to them? You can neutralise Karma when the result is felt [Sañcetanika Sutta] or by diluting the result of ...
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Can bad kammas be eased by apologizing?

Apologizing is good Karma that has a mitigating(not delete) effect on the bad Karma you had committed: ex: The story of Soreyya. Devadatta taking refuge of the Buddha just before being swallowed by ...
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Parents suppressing the teaching

You don't have to make a show out of your Dharma. You don't need to make it fly in your parents faces. There's no need to convince them of anything. Buddhism is what you practice in your mind. No-one ...
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How to redeem a wasted youth?

So Buddhism says a lot of things. One is that unhappiness is caused by "craving" i.e. by wanting things to be other than as they are (or by wanting impermanent things to continue) Another is that ...
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Is it fair to ordain a child even when they refuse?

It is as fair as forcing the kids to go to schools, when they refuse. There's usually a probation period as a novice within which they have to prove themselves worthy of monkhood. Even if the parents ...
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Is it fair to ordain a child even when they refuse?

I live in Asia and i am aware of the situation. Yes it is sad and here is how and why it is happening. The horoscope matter happens because South Asian ideology is dominated by "Astrology". Most of ...
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What are the benefits of caring parents?

The Buddha says that there are two people that you can never repay, no matter what you do. They are your mother and your father. Again the Buddha said that there is one way that you can repay for all ...
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How should a Buddhist approach honoring parents who abused them?

My father was a selfish alcoholic who physically abused me on several occasions, my mother was loving but would often be off putting because of anxieties. I see the error in their ways and have better ...
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How can I talk to my mother (who idle-chatters) without getting angry?

When we want to deal with someone, we need to first understand that someone. The more information or knowledge we have of that someone, the easier it gets. Now in the case of your mother, isn't it ...
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How to combine Buddhism with being a parent?

I’m a clinical psychologist. I wonder if the various definitions of ‘Attachment’ might be the cause of some confusion? In psychological literature ‘Attachment’ is a crucial element of a healthy parent-...
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Not listening to parents is bad karma?

This is something I keep hearing from my grandmother that keeps annoying me so much. Although I am well off age (26 to be precise) I am still expected to listen to almost every word that my parents ...
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Is there any mention of child adoption in any Buddhist writings and what is the view on child adoption with regard to Buddhism?

I view it as adoption can be nothing but good. you are providing a child with a home, food and most importantly love. if it is done with good intention then it cant be bad.
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Relationship with bad parents (kamma and issues)

This body was so malnourished at birth because my mother used pregnancy as a way of LOSING weight -- her dress size was more important than my bones and nerves -- very nearly the neuro tube did not ...
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How to explain what Buddhism is?

Do you ever try to explain Buddhism to someone who barely knows the first thing about it, and if so what is your strategy for how to explain it? I find this line of questioning to illustrate the ...
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Support for Parents

No it's not just for lay people. The Buddha himself has praised monks for looking after their parents. It's even allowed in the Vinaya. As a busy lay person, you don't have to be physically present ...
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Parents suppressing the teaching

When we care about someone we want to share good things with them. If they don't want that gift it can be painful. We must respect their decision to accept or reject the gift. Part of growing up is ...
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Renouncing property and wealth

Renunciation in Buddhism is related to going forth from the lay or householder life to life as a monk or nun. It doesn't apply to lay people renouncing property or inheritance. In fact, lay people are ...
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Stories and teachings that glorify adult children and speak against toxic parenting

Yes. There is a teaching from the Buddha that is very practical about this. He exhorts you to be the son or daughter who is superior to their unvirtuous parents. “Now what, bhikkhus, is the superior ...
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How to explain what Buddhism is?

By my experience, Tipitaka is Buddhism; Buddhism is Tipitka. I develop my life to be happy every way follow to tipitaka. Then I always show my happiness every time to everyone by smile. When someone ...
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Is there any mention of child adoption in any Buddhist writings and what is the view on child adoption with regard to Buddhism?

Yes, there is something mentioned in Buddhist canon, in the section of Vinaya, disciplines part. Two nephew of Ananda was wandering aimlessly with crying, Ananda saw it, asked to children "what ...
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Should a Buddhist have Children?

Birth is not the cause of suffering. Birth is a symptom of suffering. One person preventing birth does not actually prevent birth or suffering. It's like if you block a river, the water flows ...
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How to develop compassion while avoiding attachment?

Use Upekkha(Equanimity) to straighten Karuna(compassion) when it strays into sadness. Karuna is characterized as promoting the aspect of allaying suffering. Its function resides in not bearing ...
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Not listening to parents is bad karma?

Dhammapada Verse 43. Well-Trained Mind Excels people of the world What one’s mother, what one’s father, whatever other kin may do, the well directed mind indeed can do greater good. Explanation: A ...
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