Another approach would be to peel the onion. The Heart Sutra does this in much greater detail.
I am not the body. I am not the senses.
I am not the mind. I am not the thoughts.
I am not the intellect. I am not the emotions.
What am I? Who am I?
When all the layers are gone, all that remains is a sense of being that is entirely impersonal.
I am not there.
Before we dive into extinguishment, perhaps we can back up a little bit and start with a point of agreement.
Westerners do understand and value unselfishness, and that is wonderful. So a conversation about extinguishment might start with unselfishness:
AN4.95:1.1: “Mendicants, these four people are found in the world.
AN4.95:1.2: What four?
AN4.95:1.3: One ...
It's foremost good to get really adequate to the teachings by oneself, as, for example, the Sublime Buddha taught nobody the extinguishing the self, and teachings are gradually taught as well, good householder.
So for now it would be good to, if by oneself allready that firm there, to speak in praise of virtue, of reasonable goodwills benefit and the ...
Let's say you know someone who is strongly addicted to recreational drugs (like cocaine or heroine) until he cannot live a normal and productive life anymore. He looks disheveled and constantly seeking a state of high, otherwise he would experience withdrawal symptoms.
You approach him and say, "would you believe me, if I told you that it's possible to ...
Good householder Frank, maybe:
First, a not yet completely great person would think:
(1) ‘This Dhamma is for one of few-desires,
not for one of many-desires.
(2) This Dhamma is for one who is content,
not for one who is dis-content.
(3) This Dhamma is for one who is reclusive,
not for one who who delights-in-social-gathering.
(4) This Dhamma is for one of ...
If we read the later part of AN 8.30, we will find that this is targeted at monks (bhikkhus) and not lay followers.
“When it was said: ‘This Dhamma is for one who is content, not for one
who is discontent,’ with reference to what was this said? Here, a
bhikkhu is content with any kind of robes, almsfood, lodgings, and
medicines and provisions ...
Ānanda once asked the Buddha a similar question:
MN115:3.2: “Sir, how is a mendicant qualified to be called ‘astute, an inquirer’?”
The Buddha responds at length and touches most succinctly on the unconditioned:
MN115:9.3: There are these two elements:
MN115:9.4: the conditioned element and the unconditioned element.
MN115:9.5: When a mendicant knows and ...
The six-senses cease creating consciousness. The consciousness that usually arises out of these six-senses is very noisy, even when one seems settled and relaxed. In Buddhism, it is known as the samsaric consciousness, which is best illustrated visually in the Tibetan Wheel of Life and best described by the Buddha in Dependent Arising as a mass of suffering. ...
Please see this answer for details.
The fully liberated ones (arahants) tend to live as monks or nuns, because they can no longer live the lay materialistic life. They are completely free from all mental suffering and mental defilements.
They may experience physical pain, but they can mentally endure it. Physical pain does not lead to mental suffering for ...
The only answers you'll get to this are answers-by-analogy, because realization is experiential. I mean, if I asked you questions like:
What's it like to throw a baseball?
What's it like to eat lasagna?
What's it like to sing?
I doubt you could give me any effective answers. I will say that the best analogy I know of comes from daoism, which suggests that ...
The not very helpful but probably accurate response is Nirvana is ineffable
The more helpful answer would be to direct you a few books.
Daniel Ingram's book Mastering the Core Teachings of the Buddha, An Unusually Hardcore Dharma Book is a very detailed account of what the higher stages of realisation are like (to him) up to and including Nirvana from an ...
The anxiety occurs due to an ever-increasing understanding of impermanence, but the mind diversifies such simplistic teachings. Having further understood impermanence and having become upset by that understanding, the mind projects its upset back out towards the world. This comes as a result of holding views about what is perceived in that world. Whatever ...
Right immersion is peaceful:
AN5.27:1.2: When you develop limitless immersion, alert and mindful, five knowledges arise for you personally.
AN5.27:1.3: What five?
AN5.27:1.4: ‘This immersion is blissful now, and results in bliss in the future.’ …
AN5.27:1.5: ‘This immersion is noble and spiritual.’ …
AN5.27:1.6: ‘This immersion is not cultivated by sinners.’...