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Buddhism broke up my marriage

I don't suppose that any of us are qualified to advise you on your marriage or the optimal duration of it. In theory, I really don't think it's fair to say that Buddhist love is non-romantic. The ...
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Is Nibbana a state of mind or an element (dhamma)?

Nibbana is asankhata dhatu (unconditioned element or unconditioned dhamma) therefore it is not a state of mind (MN 115). Insight wisdom (vipassana) into the three characteristics uproots craving (SN ...
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If Buddhas don't feel bliss, what is the purpose of attaining nirvana?

From AN 9.34: Ven: Sariputta: “Reverends, extinguishment (Nibbana) is bliss! Ven. Udayi: “But Reverend Sāriputta, what’s blissful about it, since nothing is felt?” Ven. Sariputta: “The fact that ...
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What is Nirvana (mahayana)?

Warning: To not make it too long, I avoided quotes. In addition, this is merely a summary. Just like with Theravada, there are interpretations. Since I present things in a traditional way, please do ...
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How can we end the suffering of all animals?

Are you sure a black hole will destroy everything? Do you understand the world enough to determine what is best for other beings? Why did the Buddha declare the cosmos to be one of the four ...
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If there's no "self" then why should I care about the future lives and nirvana?

Whether you believe in a 'self' or not, suffering is very real. You experience it on a daily basis. It is this suffering that makes beings look for an end to it. There's only one permanent end to ...
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If someone says publicly that he has achieved nirvana , can it be true?

From a Theravada perspective, the answer is probably "no". While not being a sutta, the Milindapanha states if a layperson attains to Arahatship they either ordain as a monk or die. If the ...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

From my own experience, at certain point in one's practice, one's ties with the regular world reduce so much that one no longer gets any energy from participating in mundane affairs ("There is nothing ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

She is your Buddha, your dharma, and your sangha. Love the world through your love for her. Your marriage is your refuge and your bodhimandala. It is the place where you will awaken - no less ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

Buddhism does not contradict romantic love; Buddhism contradicts romantic obsession. Granting that this is a terribly difficult discrimination for most people to make — confusing love with obsession ...
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Why aren't there omnicidal Buddhists?

existence is the root of suffering no, it's not. The official definitions are "unsatisfied thirst is [mental] suffering", "craving and grasping is the origin of suffering", "...
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What is Nirodha?

Daniel Goleman was mistaken. An excellent internet review of his book states: Two notable mistakes are made in this section, one being the consistent misspelling of pañña as puñña (I get a little ...
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How to get to Nirvana?

The fourth noble truth states that the path to ending suffering is the noble eightfold path. Right view Right resolve Right speech Right action Right livelihood Right effort Right mindfulness Right ...
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Why Lord Buddha didn't stay alive till the end of this "Kalpa"

The Buddha did not ask venerable Ananda to invite him to extend his life. He only hinted that it is possible for him to do so. Mara's Appeal And when the Venerable Ananda had gone away, Mara, the ...
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Help! I'm in love with enlightened man

If he is really enlightened, he will not be interested in you (romantically). If he is interested in you (romantically), he is not enlightened. The Pali suttas state: It is impossible for... whose ...
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What is the fastest way to reach enlightenment?

You're probably thinking of the Bahiya Sutta (Udana 1.10). Once there was a bark-clad ascetic Bahiya who thought he was enlightened, but a deva told him that he wasn't and asked him to seek out the ...
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Why can't we reason or logic our way to NIrvana?

I have read at various places that Nirvana can't be described or reached by logic or reason. I think that's two questions: 1) described, 2) reached. I think Nirvana is defined as being the end of ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

Eating food is impermanent. After a few minutes, the food is chewed & swallowed. After 24 hours or so, the food becomes excrement. However, we still eat food. Similarly, your lives as husband &...
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How do we know attaining complete liberation from dukkha is possible?

the diminishing of the presence of tanha leads to the diminishing of the presence of dukkha... the extension of this principle... via inductive reasoning... applied all the way until complete ...
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Death and nibbana

Nibbana is cessation of delusion, cessation of ambition and greed, cessation of lacking, cessation of needing more, cessation of "everything is wrong", cessation of worrying about one's ...
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If there's no "self" then why should I care about the future lives and nirvana?

The questions are illogical. It was asked: If there's no "self'" then why should I care about his life if I will no longer exist? The question is loaded with 'self', even though it claims there is no ...
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How should I stop thinking that I am even slightly enlightened?

The appropriate response to such a thought of personal enlightenment is: "fart". Su Dongpo was an avid student of Buddhist teachings. He was quick-witted and humorous; as a Zen Buddhism follower ...
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Does Buddhism claim that our World is an illusion? In other words is it a Matrix? Any proof for this?

In the Diamond Sutra the Buddhas says “All conditioned things are like dreams, illusions, bubbles, shadows they are like dew or lightning this is how they are to be viewed" This is since all ...
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Schopenhauer’s inexplicable disturbance in the heavenly calm of Nirvana?

There is a similar question here: What is the starting of Samsara?. I would be surprised if there was any Buddhist reference supporting Schopenhauer's claim that "the world came into being as a ...
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Before Buddhism, was there a way to escape from samsara?

Some Buddhist texts say that there were previous Buddhas (and that there will be others in the distant future): that they too taught Buddhism; and that the current Buddha rediscovered Buddhism. For ...
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