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Help with alcoholism?

My main fear of drinking is the loss of courage. Alcohol robs a person of their ability to face reality and the pain it inflicts. Be it the pain from the loss of someone dear, a broken relationship, ...
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Help with alcoholism?

As Desmon said, drinking is an escape. Question is, what are you escaping from? Escaping means, you hit an obstacle but instead of fighting it you gave up. So now you don't go there, you are drinking ...
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Is the dharma thicker than both blood and water?

Look after your family. When shit goes down, they will be the ones who help you out or look after you. You probably can't rely on people that are peripheral to your life or whose interest in you is ...
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Buddhist attitude(s) towards failures in life

I've competed in various activities in my life, and for a layperson like me I believe the Middle Way is informative for these situations. If I were to, for example, enter a chess tournament I would ...
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What are the cause(s) of a biased or sticky mind?

This is a very good, very important question, touching on an essential topic. I wish more people asked this question, in fact I hope one day this will be common knowledge taught in schools. The ...
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Help with alcoholism?

Too much alcohol is bad for health. It can damage kidneys or liver or can cause gall bladder stone. I used to drink a quarter of alcohol for almost 2 years but I gave up alcoholism simply by deciding ...
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What are the cause(s) of a biased or sticky mind?

What you describe as a biased mind or sticky mind, and also cognitive biases, are part of what I would describe as a mental model, or a sort of mentally constructed world one lives in, or a mental ...
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Buddhist attitude(s) towards failures in life

Birth , Ageing and Death is suffering. Separation from the loved ones or beloved ideology is suffering. Combination with the hateful ones or hateful ideology is suffering. This is true for all realms ...
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Denial and ego-defence

To me, denial begins with the question, “Why me?”. I mean it can happen to someone else; an acquaintance, a friend, a relative or even a family member but why me? Is it because I did something wrong? ...
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Help with alcoholism?

Please see this answer about a video by Ven. Yuttadhammo on addiction to pornography and addiction in general. That answer also states: The other technique he proposes is to watch your mind for ...
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Buddhist attitude(s) towards failures in life

“Monks, there are these five kinds of loss. Which five? Loss of relatives, loss of wealth, loss through disease, loss in terms of virtue, loss in terms of views. It’s not by reason of loss of ...
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Buddhist attitude(s) towards failures in life

Good question. I've acquired all three philosophies. However, I think if you are mindful in your living - but who does this? - the gravity of those philosophies weakens. Then you might ask yourself,...
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Denial and ego-defence

Buddha never said there is no self, neither he said that there is a self. He said Sabbe sankhara Anicca, Sabbe sankhara dukha and Sabbe Dhamma Anatta. Meaning of sankhara and Dhamma must be understood....
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Help with alcoholism?

The benefits of alcohol are illusory. Through an accident of nature, alcohol excites opioid receptors. Alcohol is not as addictive as opioids only because it is a poison. If you want to see the types ...
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What are the cause(s) of a biased or sticky mind?

The link you cited says, If you had to think about every possible option when making a decision, it would take a lot of time to make even the simplest choice. Because of the sheer complexity of the ...
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What are the cause(s) of a biased or sticky mind?

All these cases lead me to read: AN10.61:1.1: “Mendicants, it is said that no first point of ignorance is evident, before which there was no ignorance, and afterwards it came to be. AN10.61:1.2: And ...
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