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How can I become less affected by politics?

This is an easy one. Stop looking at the media so much. The media is not reality. It's a small negatively skewed snippet of it. There is so much more to life than the perpetual negativity we see in ...
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Should I limit the time I do metta?

No, there's no limit to practising metta. In Metta sutta it is mentioned that the one who practices this can do it anytime and anywhere. Whether standing or walking, seated or lying down free from ...
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How does metta sutra develop loving kindness

When you understand the suffering of others, this would result in you developing your compassion (karuna) and not exactly loving kindness (metta). So, compassion is a bit different. Compassion is how ...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

From my own experience, at certain point in one's practice, one's ties with the regular world reduce so much that one no longer gets any energy from participating in mundane affairs ("There is nothing ...
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What does Buddhism say about dealing with negative people?

With an ensō (and "the beauty of imperfection") as an avatar, you might like a Zen story: Obedience. The story reminds me of my mother, a nursery school teacher (very young children) -- she said that ...
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What does Buddhism say about dealing with negative people?

The Buddha taught on three levels: morals - skilful action; concentration - non-judging mind; wisdom - not-self. Each of the three levels of practise can be used to address such issues. On the ...
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Should I limit the time I do metta?

Metta is a type of samatha (tranquility, concentration; 2nd training) practice (with a particular object: loving-kindness), so it feels good and has other benefits -- but it does not produce any ...
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What is the view of Buddhism in correcting others' view in spite of their willingness to accept it?

If an enlightened mind sees that helping someone is beneficial to them, then would they do it even when the helped doesn't proactively ask? Yes. They would help without being asked, as the Buddha ...
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How to inculcate metta in me?

If funds are limited and the opportunities to donate are plenty, you should find out which is the best place to donate as in who is genuine, who will benefit the most, who is the most worthy etc. It's ...
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A few quetions on metta

As I understand things: Metta-meditation is not "magic", not something like "positive voodoo". In the first instance it is a training for you and your ability for loving kindness. Based on this it is ...
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Sending metta to fictional charcters ?

It could actually be unskillful as you are strengthening your ignorance to think that such characters are real.
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

The one who wants to become a Buddhist should take refuge in the Triple-gem. It means taking spiritual guidance only from the Buddha, Dhamma and the Sangha. If you are a lay person, you are expected ...
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Can loving kindness, compassion and sympathetic joy be developed through Vipassana meditation?

Your concern is based on invalid definition of Vipassana/Vipashyana. "Watching equanimously your bodily sensations" is not what Buddha meant by insight meditation. Insight meditation is rigorous ...
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What does Buddhism say about dealing with negative people?

the fact that you (and all of us) are susceptible to other people's opinions is due to our ego, the sense of precious self in this respect development of understanding of anatta is a useful ...
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A few quetions on metta

Yes, your understanding of Metta is wrong. ex: If you are doing Metta towards a person who wishes to rob a bank, you don't wish the robbery to succeed. You simply wish happiness to arise in his mind ...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

How should an aspiring Buddhist aim to lead his life and relate to the world? Imo Buddhism do not tell you how you 'should' live your life. Other people tell you how you should live your life. ...
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what is the love described in Buddhism?

You know that feeling when you like/love something or someone so much that you feel the pull, you want to have it, you have this sense of string attached to your stomach pulling you to the object you'...
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What *is* intrinsically real? Is the "unconditioned", "absolute", or "ultimate" intrinsically real?

You can't walk under a rainbow - in this sense it is an illusion. And yet rainbow is a meteorological phenomenon that actually occurs - in this sense it is not an illusion. In Mahayana Buddhism we ...
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Killer Neighbors

The suttas say to teach Dhamma only to those who ask for it. Therefore, you are forbidden to preach Dhamma to your neighbour (unless he wishes you do). Etadaggaṃ peyyavajjānaṃ yadidaṃ atthikassa ...
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The Justice Thought & System & its Morals?

Justice system is driven by unskillful intentions, but a necessity to maintain society. Essentially any action rooted in hatred, greed or ignorance is not skilful. For many justice is a form of ...
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Fastest way to Samadhi

The way to develop Jhana using Metta is found in the Saṅkhitta Dhamma Sutta. To start with you have to do the following: Move the mind onto the object (vitakka) - think of a person and spread love ...
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metta, anxiety, and anger

It is normal or expected for metta practise to bring up underlying mental states of non-metta. Also, in Buddhism, to understand the quality of our 'friends' or 'associates' is also important (refer ...
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Does practicing Brahmavihara to get insights leads to Nibbana?

It seems to be possible. Following elaborates on this. The “divine abodes” (brahma,vihāra) are so called because these are the qualities of the higher divine beings or brahmas. They are called “...
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How can I become less affected by politics?

As a Buddhist, to be engaged in mainstream politics is very difficult because we cannot know the real truth of politics, unless we are absolutely certain. For example, I have heard some of the most ...
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Sending metta to fictional charcters ?

Metta is practitioner's consciousness that thinking to make happy consciousness arise in the other lives. (sukhī attānaṃ pariharantu) Fictional charcters never have happy consciousness arising.
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

The Middle Way is not an extreme in itself. Mahayana swings towards concentrating on benefiting other first (more anatta-y), Theravada swings towards concentrating on benefiting oneself first (more ...
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How to view people with metta and karuna?

Metta is wishing for all beings to be happy and be at ease. Looking at women as mothers is not metta. But I can find a reverse-mother reference for metta below. The metta practitioner should feel ...
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How can one avoid the suffering after getting cheated?

First, do not hold ill intentions. It may or may not be a case of cheating, there could be misconceptions. Secondly, if you really got your money cheated, just report to the police or managers. Do it ...
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Can loving kindness, compassion and sympathetic joy be developed through Vipassana meditation?

Well-developed Buddhist samatha-vipassana meditation cleanses the body & mind from mental impurities such as greed, lust, hatred, anger, delusion, etc. Also, to practise samatha-vipassana ...
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