Hot answers tagged

11

No, there's no limit to practising metta. In Metta sutta it is mentioned that the one who practices this can do it anytime and anywhere. Whether standing or walking, seated or lying down free from drowsiness, one should sustain this recollection. Metta sutta This is one of the four protective meditations (metta, contemplation of the Buddha, death and ...


11

This is an easy one. Stop looking at the media so much. The media is not reality. It's a small negatively skewed snippet of it. There is so much more to life than the perpetual negativity we see in the media. It's only in recent times that the media has become way more invasive. We now have 24/7 news cycles and people walk around addicted to and staring ...


8

When you understand the suffering of others, this would result in you developing your compassion (karuna) and not exactly loving kindness (metta). So, compassion is a bit different. Compassion is how one deals with others' suffering (dukkha) while renunciation is how one deals with one's own suffering. Of course, there may be some overlap between the two. ...


7

From my own experience, at certain point in one's practice, one's ties with the regular world reduce so much that one no longer gets any energy from participating in mundane affairs ("There is nothing further for the sake of this world"). At this point one has only two choices: either go 100% hardcore ascetic ("Arhat") or engage with society in the teaching/...


6

With an ensō (and "the beauty of imperfection") as an avatar, you might like a Zen story: Obedience. The story reminds me of my mother, a nursery school teacher (very young children) -- she said that instead of trying to control their behaviour by criticizing them, "I wait until they do something right and then praise them" (e.g. "Thank you for putting your ...


6

Metta is a type of samatha (tranquility, concentration; 2nd training) practice (with a particular object: loving-kindness), so it feels good and has other benefits -- but it does not produce any insight/wisdom. It is not a criticism, it is simply not its goal (just like eating does not produce wisdom, but is still something very useful). I've seen people ...


5

I have heard that Metta Meditation is the fastest way to a samadhi mind. How effectively fast is it? It depends on the practitioner. All beings have different Kamma. Some have sharp and balanced faculties and others must work more diligently on theirs. The initial effort/goal of any (Samatha)meditator must be to quiet down the five hindrances. They are an ...


5

If funds are limited and the opportunities to donate are plenty, you should find out which is the best place to donate as in who is genuine, who will benefit the most, who is the most worthy etc. It's an aspect of wisdom which guides Metta to have the best possible outcome. It's important to note the difference between worrying and looking for the best ...


5

As I understand things: Metta-meditation is not "magic", not something like "positive voodoo". In the first instance it is a training for you and your ability for loving kindness. Based on this it is also a stepwise training: you start with simple ones (loving kindness with yourself, your mama, your spouse, your best friend). After you have some fluent ...


5

It could actually be unskillful as you are strengthening your ignorance to think that such characters are real.


5

The one who wants to become a Buddhist should take refuge in the Triple-gem. It means taking spiritual guidance only from the Buddha, Dhamma and the Sangha. If you are a lay person, you are expected to put forth and honest effort to keep to the Five Precepts on a daily basis. Eight precepts are recommended on full moon days. Lay Buddhists are allowed to ...


5

Your concern is based on invalid definition of Vipassana/Vipashyana. "Watching equanimously your bodily sensations" is not what Buddha meant by insight meditation. Insight meditation is rigorous introspection of one's mental processes seeking answers to questions like: What is it that we call "I" and how can it be identified exactly in our subjective ...


4

Yes, your understanding of Metta is wrong. ex: If you are doing Metta towards a person who wishes to rob a bank, you don't wish the robbery to succeed. You simply wish happiness to arise in his mind so he does not need to rob. If Person-A wants to beat Person-B, you don't wish for that to happen. You simply wish for Person-A's anger to subside. Metta does ...


4

This answer is based on my own understanding of compassion and pity. Compassion is an honest and true way of wanting to help another being. One sees and understands this beings situation and wants to help. In this type of help there is no attachment involved. This way of helping is pure. Pity is different. In pity there is an element of attachment present. ...


4

the fact that you (and all of us) are susceptible to other people's opinions is due to our ego, the sense of precious self in this respect development of understanding of anatta is a useful strategy and an excellent advice is given in the Ā­ghātapa­ṭi­vinaya­ sutta 2 (AN 5.162) of only attending to pure qualities of a person


4

You know that feeling when you like/love something or someone so much that you feel the pull, you want to have it, you have this sense of string attached to your stomach pulling you to the object you're fond of? That's what the word "kama" stands for. It's the pulling aspect of love, the "I like what you're doing to me and therefore I want you". Metta/...


4

You can't walk under a rainbow - in this sense it is an illusion. And yet rainbow is a meteorological phenomenon that actually occurs - in this sense it is not an illusion. In Mahayana Buddhism we say that the rainbow is "empty". Meaning, if we disassemble it, there is nothing inside, no core, no secret ingredient. If we examine it closely, we will see the ...


4

In order to understand metta, one first has to understand "ill-will" (vyāpāda), origination of ill-will, and cessation of ill-will. In order to understand origination and cessation of ill-will, one needs to understand Dependent Co-Arising. Our image of the world and our image of ourselves are mirror reflections of each other. The two sides are reflections ...


4

Justice system is driven by unskillful intentions, but a necessity to maintain society. Essentially any action rooted in hatred, greed or ignorance is not skilful. For many justice is a form of retribution for some action done by another which is based on hatred which and unskillful root. If you are judge you are expected to judge justly. Reporting crime ...


3

The way to develop Jhana using Metta is found in the Saṅkhitta Dhamma Sutta. To start with you have to do the following: Move the mind onto the object (vitakka) - think of a person and spread love Retain the mind on the object (vicāra) - make sure you thinking is on loving kindness and bring up the thought again and again while keeping out other ...


3

Metta is practitioner's consciousness that thinking to make happy consciousness arise in the other lives. (sukhī attānaṃ pariharantu) Fictional charcters never have happy consciousness arising.


3

How should an aspiring Buddhist aim to lead his life and relate to the world? Imo Buddhism do not tell you how you 'should' live your life. Other people tell you how you should live your life. Buddhism will tell you what sort of lifestyles is wholesome and what is not. But whether to follow it or not is up to you. Because at the end of the day what you do ...


3

The Middle Way is not an extreme in itself. Mahayana swings towards concentrating on benefiting other first (more anatta-y), Theravada swings towards concentrating on benefiting oneself first (more anicca-y). In the end, whilst 'defining himself' as a meditator at heart, the Buddha never declined to answer an honest question on the Dhamma. It is important to ...


3

Metta is wishing for all beings to be happy and be at ease. Looking at women as mothers is not metta. But I can find a reverse-mother reference for metta below. The metta practitioner should feel loving-kindness towards all beings just as a mother would want to protect her only child. Metta can be used to counter one's own impulse to cause harm or ...


3

First, do not hold ill intentions. It may or may not be a case of cheating, there could be misconceptions. Secondly, if you really got your money cheated, just report to the police or managers. Do it out of due diligent intentions, nothing more nothing less.


Only top voted, non community-wiki answers of a minimum length are eligible