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Is low self-esteem a Western phenomenon?

I recall around 20 years ago an Australian university psychology professor wrote a local newspaper article about what he regarded as superior self-esteem in Thai children. I have lived in traditional (...
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Is low self-esteem a Western phenomenon?

1- You are right. The first stage is meant to be (if not easy) at least easier than the others. It is why it is the first, because it is supposed to be what we can do from where we are. 3- It is true....
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How to disambiguate between various meditation practices?

It appears unclear to you because you have not comprehended the essence of the Buddha's teachings. The Buddha did not teach any 'techniques'. The Buddha taught to abandon craving & other ...
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Should I limit the time I do metta?

No, there's no limit to practising metta. In Metta sutta it is mentioned that the one who practices this can do it anytime and anywhere. Whether standing or walking, seated or lying down free from ...
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How to disambiguate between various meditation practices?

I agree with Dhammadhatu in that the different meditations seem confusing when you don't know what it is all about. When you know the underlying principle, you know how these different meditations ...
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Is low self-esteem a Western phenomenon?

I suppose the key point here is that, from Buddhist perspective, low self-esteem is considered high self-esteem in disguise -- I've heard numerous gurus' statement's to that regard. If you look up ...
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How to disambiguate between various meditation practices?

OP: S.N. Goenka says if you practice Vipassana, you must not practice any other technique (but, even more confusingly, he also teaches Anapana and Metta) What is said by Goenka is that you should ...
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Should I limit the time I do metta?

Metta is a type of samatha (tranquility, concentration; 2nd training) practice (with a particular object: loving-kindness), so it feels good and has other benefits -- but it does not produce any ...
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Why is Metta Practice so Hard?

Last time I went on retreat we did some metta practice everyday and I found it very difficult in the same way you are describing. I didn't feel any genuine friendliness, I just felt irritated. One ...
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Is low self-esteem a Western phenomenon?

There are some excellent answers already, so this is only in addition. Excessive individuality automatically produces self esteem issues. Modern Western culture largely prevalent everywhere today is ...
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How to disambiguate between various meditation practices?

There are really just two aspects of meditations in Buddhism, as seen in Kimsuka Sutta: "Suppose, monk, that there were a royal frontier fortress with strong walls & ramparts and six gates. ...
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Fastest way to Samadhi

The way to develop Jhana using Metta is found in the Saṅkhitta Dhamma Sutta. To start with you have to do the following: Move the mind onto the object (vitakka) - think of a person and spread love ...
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Is low self-esteem a Western phenomenon?

Apparently, the Dalai Lama's original encounter with the concept of low self-esteem occurred at a psychology conference that he attended as related by Sharon Salzberg: “What do you think about self-...
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Is low self-esteem a Western phenomenon?

My answer as a non westerner is: No, low self esteem and insecurity can affect people of all cultures and races throughout history. In fact in Buddhism, the Asuras are gods who despite being quite ...
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Does chanting have a practical and exclusive benefit?

It is an antidote for the Hindrance of Sloth and Torpor (3) RECITATION. If, Moggallāna, that drowsiness still would not go away, then, Moggallāna, you should recite in detail a teaching that you ...
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Fear of Samsara in Others

You are beginning to notice the natural behaviors that we all carry out. This is a great thing as most people don't even take a moment to understand their behavior or how/why it functions that way. As ...
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Unfriendly and unapproachable faces - Metta Practices

Loving Kindness, I would think. You are asking, really, what should we do when confronted with an unpleasant person (who is unpleasant in any way, including appearance). We cannot NOT be human, and ...
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Should I limit the time I do metta?

In the Tikaṇḍaki Sutta (A 5.144) the Buddha recommends a balance. Contemplating impermanence or the foulness of the body with regards to those objects (people) we are agreeable with, projecting metta ...
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Does this statement by Buddhadasa Bhikkhu conflict with traditional mettā meditation?

I suggest this book you are studying might be too complex for a beginner, even though the section on metta is reasonable. The book 'Unveiling the Secrets of Life: a Manual for Serious Beginners' might ...
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Fear of Samsara in Others

This is pretty normal, I'm guessing most practitioners go through this phase. You have a certain - valid but incomplete - understanding of Dharma, and so you interpret your observations from this ...
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Fear of Samsara in Others

This answer is from the Theravada perspective. When you feel like you fear or dislike people because of their mental traps and neurotic dramas, you can use this opportunity to cultivate the ...
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Metta's Intensity and Concentration

I noticed that in my meditation on compassion, the beginning is consistently potent (i.e. tears, strong feeling) and the ending is usually less apt (i.e. body agitation, distraction). Most likely ...
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Fearful of Compassion

1) Is there any way to bypass this obstacle to meditation? 2) Is there anything in Buddhist literature about fearing/aversion to compassion? 3) Is there anything to suggest some memories or karma ...
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Anapanasati and Metta

We cannot integrate Metta practices in the 5th and 6th stages of the Anapanasati Sutta because the 5th and 6th stages of the Anapanasati Sutta arise naturally from the calming of the breathing at the ...
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Metta phrases about safety in ancient and modern times

I don't know if I'm missing something but it sounds like you want to be partial to just the people that you know, the people who are in your area or you think we live in some kind of utopia for some ...
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Does this statement by Buddhadasa Bhikkhu conflict with traditional mettā meditation?

Ajahn Sumedho, in his excellent book, Don't Take Your Life Personally, offers in many passages the perspective that the four Brahma-Viharas are the transcending sublimation of our usual self centered ...
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