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Buddhism broke up my marriage

I don't suppose that any of us are qualified to advise you on your marriage or the optimal duration of it. In theory, I really don't think it's fair to say that Buddhist love is non-romantic. The ...
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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

What matters is what you do when you are single. If being single means using prostitutes to satisfy one's sensual desires, it could lead one further away from the path as compared to a person who ...
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How Does Buddhism Handle Internal Conflict

It's important to understand that any amount of external situations happen which may not go your way. When it goes your way, you're happy and God doesn't come into the picture. And when it doesn't, ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

She is your Buddha, your dharma, and your sangha. Love the world through your love for her. Your marriage is your refuge and your bodhimandala. It is the place where you will awaken - no less ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

Buddhism does not contradict romantic love; Buddhism contradicts romantic obsession. Granting that this is a terribly difficult discrimination for most people to make — confusing love with obsession ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

Eating food is impermanent. After a few minutes, the food is chewed & swallowed. After 24 hours or so, the food becomes excrement. However, we still eat food. Similarly, your lives as husband &...
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How Does Buddhism Handle Internal Conflict

Buddhism has principles called “Sama-jivi Dhamma” for couple to ensure their compatibility and provide a firm foundation for a long married life. Sama-jivi dhamma concerns four qualities: Sama-saddha:...
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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

As you've said, it all varies from individual to individual. The bottom line is one should not do what other people expects one to do. Instead, do whatever is best for oneself in terms of peace, ...
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What are the different Buddhist views on marriage?

The Pali scriptures say: Parents have a duty to arrange or find a suitable marriage partner for their children (DN 31); therefore marriage appears to be viewed favorably (for non-monks) in the Pali ...
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Choosing a Buddhist partner ain't beneficial to spreading Dhamma?

Choose a person with compatible generosity, compatible morality, compatible faith and compatible wisdom. That means even among Buddhists, you still have to filter out the potential spouses. Marrying ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

when you know that sooner or later this relationship will lead to pain and dissatisfaction and come to an end? I'm not clear, I'm mixing everything up, but I'm really frustrated and angry. If I ...
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Romantic love and Buddhism

Buddhism has two levels of teaching: (i) worldly/moral; and (ii) non-worldly. Non-worldly love is universal love of metta (refer to Sn 1.8); which does not include sexuality. Worldly moral ...
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Benefits of Producing and Caring for Children

Ahmed, From "Living in the World" in Awareness Itself by Ajaan Fuang Jotiko: § Once, when one of Ajaan Fuang's students was being pressured by her parents to look for a husband so that she ...
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what is the purpose of the Buddhist marriage ceremony?

Buddhism has teachings for both monks & laypeople. If there were no lay people with worldly attachments, the monks could not be supported with food & other requisites. Marriage is praised ...
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How Does Buddhism Handle Internal Conflict

Love is foundation of a relationship. Instead of marriage focus on love. If you have positive vibration you will attract persons of positive vibrations to you. Also you will be able to feel the person ...
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What is Buddhist law of marriage ? Is there any?

There is no strict law about Buddhist marriage. However, the Buddha did teach it is best (preferable) to marry a person of the same faith (religion). The Buddha listed the same faith (religion) as ...
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Why Buddha was not worried about his family after enlightenment?

But still Buddha's family was there; I mean, wasn't his family his responsibility? Yes. I remember when the Buddha came back to the palace and met his wife: she asked, "just tell me, if it was ...
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Romantic love and Buddhism

The key phrase is this answer — which Thich Nhat Hanh repeats a few times — is this: Romantic or not romantic, that is not what is important. What is important is if it is true love or not true ...
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Choosing a Buddhist partner ain't beneficial to spreading Dhamma?

Good to see that Nyom Swapnil seems to do fine. The way to really support and be able to transport the Dhamma is to leave house and walk the Holy Life. Why should the Buddha give advices for different ...
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Choosing a Buddhist partner ain't beneficial to spreading Dhamma?

Spreading/growing dharma to others is not an obligation of a Buddhist. Only place it needs to grow as far as you are conserned is in yourself. You gain very little if not nothing by others following ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

Buddhism broke up my marriage The four "Brahmaviharas" are said to describe the right attitudes for all social contact. These four attitudes are said to be excellent or sublime because they ...
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Buddhism broke up my marriage

loving her as much as anyone else I believe you got that precisely backwards... You are supposed to enter a state of mind wherein one's heart is able to feel for all beings (and non-beings) as much ...
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Illegitimate children

Buddhism concerns itself with the behaviour of people rather than birth status. Refer to MN 98. In other words, an ethical person who was an illegitimate child is regarded to be superior or happier ...
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Illegitimate children

Sex outside marriage without the intention of becoming married may be against the third of the five precepts. However, there is nothing wrong about the illegitimate child himself (or herself). From ...
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Can a married man have sex with a prostitute without breaking the third precept?

The explanation I have heard regarding the third precept is for men to avoid having sex with certain types (20 types) of women. So my understanding is that a married man going to a prostitute doesn't ...
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Can a married man have sex with a prostitute without breaking the third precept?

Wikipedia's Prostitution in Thailand says, Buddhism in Thailand is largely of the Theravada school, which is followed by 95 percent of the population. "While Buddhism regards the celibate ...
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Sexuality, marriage and the fourth precept

As I explained in this answer, the purpose of Right Speech is to avoid creating latent causes of future suffering. Lying sets in motion an alternative narrative that gets its own life and eventually ...
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Is it okay to force your child to get married just because they’re of age?

Buddhism (DN 31) says Buddhist parents have a duty to organize a suitable marriage for their children. The Pali words are: patirūpa = fit; proper; suitable; befitting dāra = a wife; wives saṁyojenti =...
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