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First, know that you are not alone. Nearly every person experiences something like this to varying degrees and intensity at some points in time. Second, realize that this has nothing to do with her. This is about your own internal emotions and desires and fantasies. You are experiencing self-cherishing. In all of these obsessions and fantasies it is not an ...


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Let me start by telling you that I've been in your situation too. So, you are not alone in this. Denial, repression, justification and guilt: these are four responses/reactions/habits/behaviors that are useless and even harmful when trying to overcome some unwholesome pattern. If you notice that something is unhealthy (whether for your mind or for your body)...


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Whatever experience we get used to and grow comfortable in -- with that we identify, to that we attach. Then anything that looks like it could help us get that experience again -- seems good to us, and anything that goes contrary to that -- seems bad to us. Next time we see a sign, we recognize the form, we associate the name with that past experience. ...


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I also had a girl that I loved so much and her presence is always on my mind till now .Its actually not a problem ,its beautiful ,because her idea in my mind was actually a discovery of myself ,her idea in my mind is not her ,its what I receive from her but it isn't her.Once you grasp this ,every time here presence ,her picture shows in your mind,her smile ,...


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I reckon if you marry someone because you want to keep them, that's like infatuation. And if they're dying, and you neither want them to remain in suffering, nor want to push them away, that's more like love. More generally any form of unwise or selfish misbehaviour might be diagnosed as caused by an "infatuation", whereas ethical and generous might be ...


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There are three types of craving: craving for sensual pleasures, craving to become something (that makes someone have ambition) and the craving to not become something (that makes one suicidal or withdrawn). From Itivuttaka 58: This was said by the Blessed One, said by the Arahant, so I have heard: "There are these three cravings. Which three? Craving ...


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Lust is craving to get something or pull something in. Hatred is craving to push something away or destroy something. Delusion is craving that circles around an object; hoping/wanting to understand it. Lust is craving for sensual pleasures. Delusion is craving for becoming something (egoistically). Hatred is craving to not be or experience something. ...


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