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Is the Buddhist path one of 'selfless offering' or 'inner kindness'?

The two contradict only to a "confused" (=normal) mind - in which "self" and "others" are two separate things. To the enlightened mind, what's good for one is good for the other, because they ...
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How does a Buddhist survive in a harsh world?

So this raises a dilemma. Continue being gentle and compassionate with loving kindness, and get eaten. Or react harshly when necessary and risk darkening ourselves. Or, is there a proper middle path? ...
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Metta and Loving-Kindness as a Team

Meditation influences the surrounding by vibration created. (You can really feel the vibration when you experience Piti) So when you pratice as a group these vibrations influence others, especially ...
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Fear of Samsara in Others

You are beginning to notice the natural behaviors that we all carry out. This is a great thing as most people don't even take a moment to understand their behavior or how/why it functions that way. As ...
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How can I be happy at other's happiness?

If you have a child then when your child is happy you are automatically happy, and that happiness you experience is 100% without holding back, that is because your love and compassion for your child ...
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What does Buddhism teach about abusive parents?

Understand that people who abuse others suffer a lot. They are always in the clutches of the demons of greed, anger, ignorance; and because they don't know how to skillfully deal with the negative ...
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What are metta and karuna?

How is metta (having desire for someone's well-being) compatible with equanimity? These Dhamma Lists warn that "indifference" is the "near enemy" of "equanimity"; but ...
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The fear of committing to a monastic lifestyle

By practicing monastic life, if you mean becoming a monk, it's a no go with your current condition. But if you just want to practice meditation, staying at a monastery, you still have to give up ...
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Reconciling metta & avoiding fools/immoral people

I think it's a matter of degree, not entirely black-and-white -- how stable you are, how much contact there is between you and of what type, etc. A monk's giving a formal dhamma talk to a polite ...
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What are metta and karuna?

There are clear definitions given in Chapter IX -- The Divine Abidings of the Visuddhimagga: Now, as to the meaning firstly of loving-kindness, compassion, gladness and equanimity: it fattens (...
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How can I be happy at other's happiness?

OP: How can I be happy at other's happiness ? How can I develop my willingness to see others' being happy ? One of the Brahmavihārās meditation subjects is Muditā which is to develop delight at other'...
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Fear of Samsara in Others

This is pretty normal, I'm guessing most practitioners go through this phase. You have a certain - valid but incomplete - understanding of Dharma, and so you interpret your observations from this ...
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Fear of Samsara in Others

This answer is from the Theravada perspective. When you feel like you fear or dislike people because of their mental traps and neurotic dramas, you can use this opportunity to cultivate the ...
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Isn't giving to attain good Kamma "greedy" and therefore Unwholesome (akusala)?

there are no truly altruistic actions I think that is an 'extreme' view (and therefore 'wrong') -- Buddhism tries to discern a 'middle way' i.e. which avoids extremes -- see also right view. I believe ...
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Are loving-kindness and compassion (metta and karuna) special kind of attachments?

So is it correct the in order to practice metta and karuna, we need to have an attachment to begin with? Well, attachment is a default software built into the core kernel of every human's "operating ...
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Is the Buddhist path one of 'selfless offering' or 'inner kindness'?

'selfless offering of oneself and efforts' or 'inner kindness' Let's put it this way: When one want to offer selflessly, one needs to have the right resources and capabilities as pre-requisites. ...
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How does a Buddhist survive in a harsh world?

In MN8 it says: "But herein, Cunda, effacement should be practiced by you: (1) Others will be harmful; we shall not be harmful here — thus effacement can be done. (2) Others will kill ...
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What are metta and karuna?

Metta is a feeling of love or loving-kindness and is cultivated in a variety of ways. You can listen to various techniques and talks on dharmaseed or find a teacher with whom you vibe with and watch ...
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Reconciling metta & avoiding fools/immoral people

There is a funny sutta where Punna wanted to live among bad people and the buddha questionned him on his skils "Lord, there is a country called Sunaparanta. I am going to live there." "Punna,...
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Reconciling metta & avoiding fools/immoral people

I think it is a very wise advice. Immoral, ignorant people are selfish, narcissistic, unable to feel guilty and can harm others easily. The immoral people are also "fool" so I think the word "fool" ...
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Best way to develop different meditation practices (simultaneously or not)

The first thing that must be said is that metta, the Brahma-vihara, samadhi, and mindfulness meditation (vipassana) are closely related and are major practices of Theravadin Buddhism. Metta, of course,...
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Best way to develop different meditation practices (simultaneously or not)

Ideally what you should be doing is a different kind of Ānāpānassati Meditation. What almost everyone will try to do is the "breath mediation” or “mindfulness of breathing”. Very few of us know that ...
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How to think about the four immeasurable minds?

All life is interdependent. Therefore the happiness of one individual depends upon that of others. The Buddha taught the Four Immeasurables - loving-kindness, compassion, appreciative joy and ...
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How to think about the four immeasurable minds?

It was interesting to note Thich Nhat Hanh’s take on the word MUDITA. Now you have given further interpretation to the Satara Brahma Vihara: Metta (loving kindness), Karuna (compassion), Muditha (...
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How to think about the four immeasurable minds?

Say you are an American. (as I do not know your nationality) Now imagine that there is only this earth without any boarders. (no countries but one world) Now imagine we all help and look after each ...
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