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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

As my teacher explained, the reason we are needy and clingy is because we have not discovered how to be our own source of "energy". We are like babies depending on mothers' tits for nutrition, in this ...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?

As my teacher explained, living with the feeling of wrongness is the very essence of samsara. This constant feeling that you don't like your work, don't want to do it, and are forced to endure it ...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

From my own experience, at certain point in one's practice, one's ties with the regular world reduce so much that one no longer gets any energy from participating in mundane affairs ("There is nothing ...
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Should I hate them who else hates me?

Hatred never ceases through hatred in this world, only through non-hostility. This is an eternal law.
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

The one who wants to become a Buddhist should take refuge in the Triple-gem. It means taking spiritual guidance only from the Buddha, Dhamma and the Sangha. If you are a lay person, you are expected ...
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Do Buddhists need affection, physical touch or intimacy?

Marriage does not guarantee happiness (some married people are unhappy). This answer includes advice about how to choose a marriage partner. And chapter 6 of A Happy Married Life (which is titled "...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

How should an aspiring Buddhist aim to lead his life and relate to the world? Imo Buddhism do not tell you how you 'should' live your life. Other people tell you how you should live your life. ...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?

You don't have to love or hate your work. If happiness arises while at work, be mindful of it and if aversion arises while at work, be mindful of that too.
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"true love", compassion and suffering

Don't people who are more compassionate suffer more because they experience the suffering of other people? The above appears to be the Western/Christian meaning of compassion, namely, "to suffer ...
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How to teach sympathy/empathy in Buddhism?

Speaking as buddhist and a father of four (3 biological kids and 1 step-son). I don't think we should teach the passive unfolding. Like, we obviously can't say: "if they provoke you and you get ...
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Should I hate them who else hates me?

But how? I mean when someone blinded how they can realize their mistakes. And here Samana Johnan explained in his answer of my question - Does love mean crime? that it doesn't cease or conquer. I ...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

The Middle Way is not an extreme in itself. Mahayana swings towards concentrating on benefiting other first (more anatta-y), Theravada swings towards concentrating on benefiting oneself first (more ...
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Should I hate them who else hates me?

No. Hatred, even if well-reasoned and rationalized generates negative kamma and negative energy nearly the same as someone injuring their own body. “… Hate is that one thing, bhikkhus. Abandon ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

In Buddhism, it is taught a successful lasting relationship requires two people to share the same qualities, which would include the same life goals. Therefore, in Buddhism, before two people get ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

Did the relationship fall apart because there was something lacking within yourself? If so you can cultivate that piece and try to win her back (lots of guides on the internet for techniques on this ...
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What is the opposite of love?

Loving kindness(Metta) is a state of the mind that arises and vanishes. It's not something that exists. For loving kindness to arise, one should see the lovable nature of beings. It does not require ...
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Romantic love and Buddhism

Buddhism has two levels of teaching: (i) worldly/moral; and (ii) non-worldly. Non-worldly love is universal love of metta (refer to Sn 1.8); which does not include sexuality. Worldly moral ...
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When is it love? When is it attachment?

When is it love? There's Buddhist doctrine about the brahmaviharas which are three different kinds of love ... I hope you're well I don't want to hurt you I rejoice in your virtue/success ... plus ...
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How do someone find romantic love?

Buddhism strongly emphasizes identifying a compatible partner, as shown in the following two scriptures: Samajivina Sutta: Living in Tune Paṭhamasaṁvāsa Sutta: Living Together A summary with brief ...
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How do someone find romantic love?

I'm not a teacher, just a student. When I abstained for years from any kind of sexual relationships I found out I needed no one, as if my desire was gone, I started to see people differently, boys ...
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Caring is wrong?

Ordinary caring can lead to suffering but caring with wisdom does not lead to suffering. We avoid suffering ourselves while caring by developing wisdom.
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How to prevent self-deception?

If someone who has been practicing for over 10 years thinks they are aware and are everything but, what am I going to do? I think this issue you are raising is not really related to Buddhist ...
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What does love means?

The love that Buddhism teaches is Maitriya. It means that one would not do any harm to another from one’s mind, body, and words. The Supreme Buddha once told that, if you have kindness, love, and ...
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What does love means?

Buddhism explains there are at least three kinds of love: raga: lust pema: affection metta-karuna: unconditional love and compassion. The first and second kinds of love lead to sorrow, but not ...
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Do Buddhists need affection, physical touch or intimacy?

ZEN Buddhist priests and nuns may marry, and laypeople of any tradition do have intimacy at any level. From the Karaniya Metta Sutta: “Just as a mother would protect her only child with her life, ...
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Do Buddhists need affection, physical touch or intimacy?

Buddhists come under 4 groups: monks, nuns, laymen, laywomen. Monks and nuns are not allowed to engage in any romantic or sexual activity. They are not even allowed to touch a person of the opposite ...
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Do Buddhists need affection, physical touch or intimacy?

Very interesting question that you asked. The short answer to it is “yes!”. Buddhists who are well grounded in Dhamma do have intimacy. They have friendship, companionship and intimacy with the good, ...
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