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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

What matters is what you do when you are single. If being single means using prostitutes to satisfy one's sensual desires, it could lead one further away from the path as compared to a person who ...
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What are the benefits of caring parents?

The Buddha says that there are two people that you can never repay, no matter what you do. They are your mother and your father. Again the Buddha said that there is one way that you can repay for all ...
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Unguided retreat

Time table Best is you have a time table. Wake at about 4 am and be seated by 4.30 am. Schedule breakfast at about 6.30 am and lunch at 11 am. Skip dinner but perhaps you can try to have a light tea ...
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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

As you've said, it all varies from individual to individual. The bottom line is one should not do what other people expects one to do. Instead, do whatever is best for oneself in terms of peace, ...
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What types of physical dwellings are most conducive for Buddhist lay life living?

There is a recommendation on suitable lodging for monks and nuns in AN 10.11 quoted below. However, there are no recommendations for lay persons as far as I am aware. I would say any physical dwelling ...
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Feeling scared/ having aversion to looking at "pretty" women

Ajahn Chan, the famous monk of the forest tradition, once did a practice to avoid looking at any woman. When the practice ended and he took a look at the first woman; he described it as deeply ...
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What canon do you follow to modify the Buddha's views as knowledge advances?

Dhammika all over the world, those who have found certain faith, reflect daily by recitation the sublimness of the holly Dhamma. [Yo so svākkhāto] bhagavatā dhammo, The Dhamma well-expounded by the ...
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What canon do you follow to modify the Buddha's views as knowledge advances?

It would depend on the information, but when in doubt, I go back to the basics of the Four Noble Truths, and the Buddha's last words of "Be a light unto yourself." and would see where the new ...
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Upostha Sila in normal daily life

You might not be able to do this the traditional way. But Sila is a promise to abstain. The promise can be to the Triple Gem of another person. Best is to make the promise to the Triple Gem. ...
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What could a lay follower do to increase his zeal to become a monk?

I could easily have written your query. At this time however there are a few differences which may be helpful if shared. Am in my mid 40’s. Never thought that it was actually possible. Met a ...
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What did Buddha say about dysfunctional families for novice practitioners?

I can only agree with Dhammadhatu's last paragraph. Get yourself going first, for if you are suffering inside you cannot help others and your inner rescources will become less and less. This is not ...
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What are the prescription regarding a bhikkhu or a monastery having a lay-attendant?

Go on as a formal assistant to monks, even better as novice or monk, good householder, as it is good if you have ways to associate with the Venerables. The rest is all a matter of individual deeds (...
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What types of physical dwellings are most conducive for Buddhist lay life living?

Where ever right view prospers, good householder. Living on good place, therefore is one of the basic great blessings. To reside in a suitable location... is the highest blessing and Countries to ...
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Practical question - Meal prepping and Diet ideas for a lay buddhist

some easy quick dishes I make here: https://lucid24.org/misc/qigor/recipes/index.html my main staple, is I get a bunch of fresh organic veggies, rotating some veggies in and out according to season ...
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What are the benefits of caring parents?

looking for benefits is like doing business. When ever you care or help your parents or others who cannot help in return, As per bhagavad gita, krishna said you will get more energy and inner peace. ...
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What are the benefits of caring parents?

Helping parents engages the mind in the moral 'right view' of knowing what has been received as benefaction (gift; sacrifice) from one's parents & one's resultant reciprocal obligations (good ...
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Happiness for laypeople

If you want to be happy, just give up everything in your mind . What I meant was do not have any kind of attachment to anything, at least try not to have attachments , the lesser the number of ...
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Happiness for laypeople

There is a handy list of linked suttas at this link IV. The Happiness Visible in This Present Life P.A. Payutto's A Constitution for Living is most excellent & includes the sutta reference for ...
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Journaling for Buddhist laypeople

With the intention of increasing Sati some monks advise to recall daily events. Maintaining a Journal or Diary will help towards this. The number, clarity and detail of what you recall is not so ...
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What is the proper etiquette when greeting/meeting a Venerable?

You bow one time when you meet the monk and you bow one time when you depart. You bow to the Buddha statue when you offer flowers, incense sticks, oil lamps etc. or when you chant some verse in front ...
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What did Buddha say about dysfunctional families for novice practitioners?

What did Buddha say about dysfunctional families for novice practitioners. There is a sutta (Iti 74) where the Buddha said a child can be morally/dhammically superior, equal or inferior to their ...
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What canon do you follow to modify the Buddha's views as knowledge advances?

I tried to understand (classical) Buddhist doctrine even though I have modern preconceptions (from a "modern scientific" education). Generally IMO "modern science" and "Buddhism" are different topics:...
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How different is "joy of ownership" in the Dīgha,jānu Sutta from clinging onto one's wealth?

How different is “joy of ownership” in the Dīgha,jānu Sutta from clinging onto one's wealth? Actually the answer's already provided in the sutta itself. If one clings to one's wealth, s/he won't be ...
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severe flu-like symptoms with profound malaise after intensive meditation

While aches and pains sound very general and while severe chill symptoms are not familiar to me, often various 'excess wind' (prana) & physical/nervous tension (nervous system) symptoms can occur ...
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Are there any sila / vinaya for mind?

There are three types of Sankhara. Mano,Vaci and Kaya. Avoiding Vaci Sankhara and Kaya Sankhara considered Sila. They are also called "Papa" Suppressing Mano Sankhara considered as Samadhi. These are ...
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What should I avoid to maintain sati?

the condition for sati is proper attention I say that mindfulness and situational awareness is fueled by something, it’s not unfueled. And what is the fuel for mindfulness and situational ...
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Buddhist Therapists?

For the United States there is a great resource: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/buddhist For the UK: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/buddhist After filtering for location ...
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How can someone integrate the Buddhist philosophy on life's purpose into daily life?

The essence of dukkha (suffering) is clash, conflict, discord, disharmony - of some kind, whether inner conflict in one person's mind or outer conflict between persons or groups of people. The ...
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