What matters is what you do when you are single. If being single means using prostitutes to satisfy one's sensual desires, it could lead one further away from the path as compared to a person who restrains himself to one woman and practices loyalty, kindness, doing good deeds together etc.
But if being single means being celibate and using one's free time ...
The Buddha says that there are two people that you can never repay, no matter what you do. They are your mother and your father. Again the Buddha said that there is one way that you can repay for all what they have done. That is to establish them in this Dhamma Path. It is not an easy task, as we are all full of defilements that muddy the waters and prevent ...
Best is you have a time table. Wake at about 4 am and be seated by 4.30 am. Schedule breakfast at about 6.30 am and lunch at 11 am. Skip dinner but perhaps you can try to have a light tea at about 5 pm.
Schedule about 1 hour after breakfast and lunch for coires.
Get to bed at about 9.30 pm and meditate in while lying down until you fall asleep.
As you've said, it all varies from individual to individual. The bottom line is one should not do what other people expects one to do. Instead, do whatever is best for oneself in terms of peace, happiness, and most important, suitable and favorable conditions to the learning, contemplation, and practice of the Buddha Dhamma. Please see DN 29, where the ...
Go on as a formal assistant to monks, even better as novice or monk, good householder, as it is good if you have ways to associate with the Venerables. The rest is all a matter of individual deeds (kamma). Do not waste one moment when kusala citta arises, as defilements are quick to return.
As for formal assistants: Community Officials:
All Community ...
I could easily have written your query. At this time however there are a few differences which may be helpful if shared.
Am in my mid 40’s. Never thought that it was actually possible. Met a Venerable at the local Vihara who stated otherwise and has taken me under his wing so to speak with ordination to be the outcome. Yes, it’s a long road, lots to learn. ...
Dhammika all over the world, those who have found certain faith, reflect daily by recitation the sublimness of the holly Dhamma.
[Yo so svākkhāto] bhagavatā dhammo,
The Dhamma well-expounded by the Blessed One,
Sandiṭṭhiko akāliko ehipassiko,
to be seen here & now, timeless, inviting all to come & see,
Opanayiko paccattaṃ veditabbo viññūhi:
It would depend on the information, but when in doubt, I go back to the basics of the Four Noble Truths, and the Buddha's last words of "Be a light unto yourself." and would see where the new information fit in with those. Without an idea of how a Teaching might be disproved, it is difficult to speculate.
If ultimately, it was somehow proven, and I feel ...
You might not be able to do this the traditional way.
But Sila is a promise to abstain. The promise can be to the Triple Gem of another person. Best is to make the promise to the Triple Gem.
Throughout the day recall the promise and see if you have broken it. If so take it again. If not make a determination to keep the posimie recollecting which precepts ...
It's not very wise to tend to think on making use of (let it be called) system graps and if really on a serious level of going forth, why thinking on certain outwardly ease and comfort, even on possibilities of keeping contact to those left at home.
Nothing wrong with leaving home but one should be honest to oneself and really willing to take on certain ...
I can only agree with Dhammadhatu's last paragraph. Get yourself going first, for if you are suffering inside you cannot help others and your inner rescources will become less and less. This is not about being selfish but I call it enlightened self interest.
Now, the Dhammapada is largely addressed to monks, but I think some of the quotes are still good ...
looking for benefits is like doing business.
When ever you care or help your parents or others who cannot help in return,
As per bhagavad gita, krishna said you will get more energy and inner peace.
To the society you become role model.
Don't expect anything in return from your loved one's.
If you want to be happy, just give up everything in your mind . What I meant was do not have any kind of attachment to anything, at least try not to have attachments , the lesser the number of attachments the more happy you will be.
You can have every physical thing in the world , (money , cars, houses etc) but do not have any kind of attachment ...
With the intention of increasing Sati some monks advise to recall daily events. Maintaining a Journal or Diary will help towards this. The number, clarity and detail of what you recall is not so perfect proxy to your Sathi practice. Also it increases memory to study and remember the Dhamma.
Also there is a concept of Pin Potha, which is a journal of all ...
You bow one time when you meet the monk and you bow one time when you depart. You bow to the Buddha statue when you offer flowers, incense sticks, oil lamps etc. or when you chant some verse in front of the statue.
I tried to understand (classical) Buddhist doctrine even though I have modern preconceptions (from a "modern scientific" education).
Generally IMO "modern science" and "Buddhism" are different topics: e.g. modern science provides models for the phenomena you observe through a microscope or telescope, which IMO is not at all what Buddhism is trying to teach.
How different is “joy of ownership” in the Dīgha,jānu Sutta from clinging onto one's wealth?
Actually the answer's already provided in the sutta itself. If one clings to one's wealth, s/he won't be able to have a balanced living, the necessary component to the joy of ownership:
"And what is balanced living? Here, a clansman knows his income and ...
There are three types of Sankhara. Mano,Vaci and Kaya.
Avoiding Vaci Sankhara and Kaya Sankhara considered Sila. They are also called "Papa"
Suppressing Mano Sankhara considered as Samadhi. These are also termed Kusala when practice in conjunction with Sila.
There is ...
the condition for sati is proper attention
I say that mindfulness and situational awareness is fueled by
something, it’s not unfueled. And what is the fuel for mindfulness and
situational awareness? You should say: ‘Proper attention.’
For the United States there is a great resource: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/buddhist
For the UK: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling/buddhist
After filtering for location it's possible to add many other filters, for example for types of therapy (CBT, ACT, MBSR, etc)
It's also possible to change the country in the upper right of ...
The essence of dukkha (suffering) is clash, conflict, discord, disharmony - of some kind, whether inner conflict in one person's mind or outer conflict between persons or groups of people.
The opposite of that is happiness, whose essence is peace and harmony.
A lay person could make meaningful contribution to society and make progress towards liberation from ...
When a person pursues a goal, there are two things to be considered:
The pursuit, which exists only in the past and the future. Pursuit implies a belief that something can be other than it is; it implies an evaluation of the world into the desirable and the undesirable.
The act of doing, which exists only in the present moment. We do, and inevitably we move ...
No. Unskillful bodily action, which encompasses sexual misconduct as it pertains to the five precepts of the laity, was defined by the Buddha thusly:
He engages in sexual misconduct. He gets sexually involved with those who are protected by their mothers, their fathers, their brothers, their sisters, their relatives, or their Dhamma; those with husbands, ...
I think that If you train at home eventually you will gradually become content with less and will come to see the drawbacks of home life. Longing for freedom from home life will arise. I think that is the best way.
One could be going forth on conviction too, then just need conviction i guess:) One such as this will have easier time convincing one self to go ...