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"Monks" includes everybody?

It is an effect by wrong way commentary reading of the western professors and thai professors, because they have not enough skill to read pāli tipitaka and commentary. Commentary just want to said: ...
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How does one decide whether one lives a lay married life or a celibate life?

If one is married, one can first understand that desire is more often asymmetrical than not. One can also observe resentment arising out of asymmetrical desire. Asymmetrical desire therefore provides ...
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Help with balance between meditation practice and lay life

Is it possible to find a balance? Yes. In fact, it is necessary to find balance. The path is more than immersion. In fact, the practice is three-fold and comprises: wisdom, ethics, and immersion: ...
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How does one decide whether one lives a lay married life or a celibate life?

Firstly, you should avoid having a romanticized view of either the lay married life or the celibate monastic life. Being a married person, you may find that your spouse, children and in-laws may ...
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Help with balance between meditation practice and lay life

I struggled with a similar problem for years, maybe decades. You see, the goal I set for myself back in 1995 was to figure out what that enlightenment thing was all about without leaving the world. My ...
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Unintentionally killing insects when playing sports and running

Formally the Vinaya, or Buddhist monastic law, states this about killing: pli-tv-bu-vb-pc61There is no offence if it is unintentional; if (he is) not thinking; if he does not know; if he is not ...
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When is the best time for ordination?

When you become dispassionate in continuing the lay life or when you get enough confidence that you can successfully fend off the temptations of lay life, it is worth considering ordination. I would ...
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Must Lay Arahants become Buddhist Monks?

If and when a lay-follower attains arahant-ship, he or she has to either enter the Order that very day or else must attain parinibbàna. This is a Dhammata. This is conformity to the Dhammaniyāma – a ...
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How should Buddhism be introduced to a country?

Good householder, By generosity, respect and goodwill toward the Gems, through the carrier (or vehicle) which is the Sangha of Monks, this Dhamma-Vinaya would have foundation to get introduced and ...
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I have a question, but feel it's far to sensitive to share here

Remarkably, for every single question I would have asked the Buddha or the Sangha, I've always found an answer in the suttas. There are a lot of suttas, so searching them can be overwhelming. The ...
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Is the dharma thicker than both blood and water?

Look after your family. When shit goes down, they will be the ones who help you out or look after you. You probably can't rely on people that are peripheral to your life or whose interest in you is ...
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Must Lay Arahants become Buddhist Monks?

My person is not sure about "on that very day" and sees the "seven days", mentioned in the Suttas more resasonable. As quoted by Upasaka Saptha Visuddhi in the anicent discussion, the relations ...
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Can a girl & a boy be friends

According to Bodhisattva, if you are unmarried then treat every boy and girl like your sibling. So, your question can be boiled down to, "Can siblings be friends?" to which I will answer, "Siblings ...
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How to deal with people and colleagues who are angry, complaining or seeking attention?

Good listeners are often magnets for people who talk. Significantly, any emotional affirmation given while listening can perpetuate that very talking. Such emotional encouragement can stem from our ...
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How does one decide whether one lives a lay married life or a celibate life?

I am very conflicted between a lay married life and celibate life of serious practice. Anybody have the same dilemma? How did you solve it? Ultimately it's a decision that only you can make for only ...
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Is begging for alms acceptable for lay persons?

I dont know how the word 'begging' came into Buddhism. BHIKSHA is a sanskrit word which translates nearly to Begging in Modern Indian social sense. But the word is rooted into Pali as the donation to ...
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Proper way of offering

To repeat what Sampath posted (except, in an answer instead of a comment), the answer is "yes". This reference, quoting from Abhidhamma in Daily Life -- Dana (charity) -- repeats that it's ...
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Is begging for alms acceptable for lay persons?

When one is observing Uposatha one is living on charity or donations of others. Also in many traditional meditation centres which do not charge a fee, this is the case, as one is living on the ...
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Is begging for alms acceptable for lay persons?

IMO I don't see anything wrong with lay people who aren't monks or nuns, but are keeping 8 or 10 precepts and spending most of the their time in spiritual practice and asking for almsfood. I don't ...
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Is begging for alms acceptable for lay persons?

I think begging is OK for a layperson as far as it is not practiced as a profession. The problem is begging has become a big business practiced as chrities.
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How to deal with difficult in-laws?

I first encountered the Buddhist perspective on resentment with DN33. It quite startled me because no action was required other than letting go. The day I read this, a car tried to run me over in the ...
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