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Knowingly having to hurt a close person

Have you meditated on the reasons why you feel depressed being away from your hometown? Is it friends and your social life in your hometown? Or is it some other reason? If it is the friends and ...
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Can loving kindness, compassion and sympathetic joy be developed through Vipassana meditation?

Your concern is based on invalid definition of Vipassana/Vipashyana. "Watching equanimously your bodily sensations" is not what Buddha meant by insight meditation. Insight meditation is rigorous ...
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Knowingly having to hurt a close person

Two thoughts, not particularly Buddhist, but coming from Buddhist experience... You may consider this inspired by my practice and the teacher's instructions... One, regarding "the bad dream" ...
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Is it forbidden to fight to defend your possessions from a thief?

Resisting or protecting what you have is not forbidden. But you shouldn't kill. It is perfectly fine to say no to someone who is trying to take advantage of you. It's perfectly fine to have a non-...
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Best meditation techniques (mindfulness,vipassana,yoga,zazen,TM,etc) to beat behavioral addictions (food,sex,porn,gambling,internet,videogames,etc)?

OP: For a layman who wants to overcome behavioral addictions, ... which meditation techniques are the most recommendable? Please see this answer about a video talk by Yuttadhammo Bhikkhu on ...
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Knowingly having to hurt a close person

I'm not sure that "you have to". Do you have a choice about it? If so, you don't have to -- you can choose to, if you want to. If not, you don't have to -- it's not you doing it, it's just the way ...
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Can the mind be trained to maintain equanimity in the face of compulsive urges/cravings (without giving in / acting out)?

Please refer to my answer on "How can I forget my old girlfriend?" Urges and cravings come up because we seek sources of external energy. We assume that these things can give us something: make us ...
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What is the difference between householder and renunciation equanimity?

It's good to get aware of issues of different kind of equanimity not only because most modern, especially lay teacher, even whole "schools" actually teach the dangerous "household-...
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Can you reconcile (professional) ambition with buddhism?

In AN 8.54, the Buddha teaches the four qualities that lead to a lay person's happiness and well-being in this life: consummate (or accomplished) in initiative, consummate in vigilance, admirable ...
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What is the right practice around empathy?

In Tibetan Mahayana, there's an official doctrine for this, called The Union of Wisdom and Compassion. Compassion or Empathy means, you can see it from their side. The child is crying over her broken ...
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Practice of the other three Brahmaviharas

Oh i wished i could stick my answer on my previous post so that i don't have to rewrite everything. In order to The practice of the other 3 Brahmaviharas Karuna Mudita and Uppekha, you need to be ...
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How to get involved in feelings maintaining Equanimity?

It is your perception which recognises and classifies it as funny or not. Tired with it arises the sensation which is pleasant, unpleasant or neutral. You have to be equanimous towards it. Also if ...
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Can you reconcile (professional) ambition with buddhism?

On one hand, I would like to be my best self in professional life and make significant contributions to my field, but when I have this mindset I experience negative emotions like insecurity, ...
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How do experienced Buddhists preserve their equanimity and well-being in unfavourable circumstances?

Would you consider suicide as a solution? A big NO...., suicide is not a solution, it creates more problems. Which tools given in Dhamma do you think would be useful if one had to survive ...
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Is Upekṣā (equanimity) a feeling or simply numbness?

Feelings are like clouds in the sky. They are seen, but we don't build our houses on them. Clouds come and go, sometimes bringing rain and wind and sometimes not. SN36.19:5.3: In one explanation I’ve ...
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Is Upekṣā (equanimity) a feeling or simply numbness?

If we define numbness to sensory input as Upekṣā, we should be able to reach Upekṣā by severing our sensory inputs. But it does not happen that way. The problem is not in the sensory inputs. The ...
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If that which is aware of fear is not fearful then isn't that which is aware of happiness not happy?

You are correct in one part and making a faulty assumption in another. You are correct that observing mental/emotional states with a kind of scientific detachment puts the subjective point of view in ...
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Can the mind be trained to maintain equanimity in the face of compulsive urges/cravings (without giving in / acting out)?

1. Acknowledge that you have a craving (be honest with yourself and try to watch it in a curious manner) 2. Realize, that you dont have to give in immediately 3. Acknowledge that you have a choice (...
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Can the mind be trained to maintain equanimity in the face of compulsive urges/cravings (without giving in / acting out)?

Yes, that is what the Satipatthana meditation is about. It works for all types of cravings. It makes you immune to cravings at first, but if you keep practicing till the end, craving wouldn't even ...
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What is the difference between householder and renunciation equanimity?

(E) Therein, what are the 6 kinds of equanimity of the household life (cha gehasitā upekkhā)? (25) On seeing a form with the eye, equanimity arises in a foolish, confused, worlding, in an ...
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What is the difference between householder and renunciation equanimity?

One way to approach the question is from the perspective of meditative practice. This answer is based on my meditative experience and discussion with Theravada teachers. It's important to keep in ...
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What is the difference between householder and renunciation equanimity?

Here is my interpretation of what's written in that sutta. Householder equanimity is clueless equanimity. It is equanimity of someone who does not realize the three marks of existence and the three ...
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Tolerating Sensations VS Diminishing them

I'm not sure I follow your vocabulary (e.g. you distinguish dukkha, anxiety, suffering, sensations, etc., which I'm not sure I do or can). a person in mundane life experiences a plethora of ...
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