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How can I become less affected by politics?

This is an easy one. Stop looking at the media so much. The media is not reality. It's a small negatively skewed snippet of it. There is so much more to life than the perpetual negativity we see in ...
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Hatred arising after a friend tried to make my fiancé cheat on me

If you are looking for a Buddhist answer you will have to accept that the Buddhist approach largely involves changing how you view the situation rather than changing what the situation is. You haven'...
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Is the Buddhist path one of 'selfless offering' or 'inner kindness'?

The two contradict only to a "confused" (=normal) mind - in which "self" and "others" are two separate things. To the enlightened mind, what's good for one is good for the other, because they ...
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are mundane acts of compassion meaningful?

Yes. Generosity, kind words and helpfulness are all meaningful to the Buddha, however small. From Vaccha Sutta: "I tell you, Vaccha, even if a person throws the rinsings of a bowl or a cup into ...
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How do you talk to someone whose loved one is dying?

Since I am old, this happens with some frequency. A single wordless look with metta, eye-to-eye, is all that is needed. If a hug would be welcomed (and only if it would be welcomed), then it can be ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

Buddha is cited as Victor for a reason: a good Buddhist is strong and certain - not weak and doubtful. These strength and certainty come from standing firmly with both feet in reality (Tatha) - ...
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Did the Buddha ever teach that we have a special responsibility to those we have injured?

the parable of the good samaritan The parable of the Good Samaritan isn't about "special responsibility to those we have injured". In the parable: The "certain man" was injured by ...
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Even if those offended are just ignorant about the word "Hinayana", why use it?

In my very first encounters with Buddhism I've always thought, that this is simply the distinguition between "maha" and "hina" in a sense of a larger fraction and a smaller fraction of the sangha in ...
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Why is nirvana not mara?

There are four terminological divisions of nirvana, and none of them is mara. Non-duality does not mean “that opposing terms depend upon each other”. Rather, we posit three types of dualistic ...
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Compassion and Wisdom

Yes, there is. There is a difference between compassion cultivated through the Brammaviharas and compassion cultivated through Vipassana. With the Brammaviharas, one can be as compassionate to the ...
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Dhamma makes one dispassionate then how can one be compassionate?

Maybe this article will be useful: Detachment and Compassion in Early Buddhism Viraaga literally means the absence of raaga: the absence of lust, desire, and craving for existence. Hence, it denotes ...
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Inauthentic Compassion and Friendship

One should associate with true friends and disassociate with false friends. One should associate with those are: (1) He is pleasant [loving]. piyo ca hoti (2) He is agreeable. manāpo ca (...
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Sunyata is the truth and compassion is not an illusion?

This answer is from the Theravada perspective. You are thinking about this from the frame of reference of Vedanta, where there is only one thing real and eternal, and the others are illusion (maya) ...
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How to teach sympathy/empathy in Buddhism?

Speaking as buddhist and a father of four (3 biological kids and 1 step-son). I don't think we should teach the passive unfolding. Like, we obviously can't say: "if they provoke you and you get ...
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What happens when your tank is empty, and you’ve got nothing left to give?

It's not about giving.. if you can live with good thoughts that's enough. You can give a little water to a thirsty animal, that's also a great thing. Keep your mind clean and good. Don't make your ...
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What happens when your tank is empty, and you’ve got nothing left to give?

It's not really about what you give, it 's about what you give up. What you let go. We can always give love. We can always send lovingkindness and compassion. We can give to ourselves if it is from ...
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Have all human beings got the capacity for compassion?

I will not repeat the very clear theoretical background that Lanka has put forward. It describes very well how human capability for compassion fits into buddhism. It doesn't say, I believe, that all ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

I have experienced some brief training as a novice monk in a short term monastic retreat in the Chinese Chan (Zen) tradition, and I can assure you that you get a lot of tough love. The disciplinary ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

and always agreeing on others view very wrong message, polite disagreement is completely normal try to overcome it by ceasing being meek and docile, because people are animals and take kindness for ...
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Feeding meat to pets is it a good karma or bad?

According to the Brahmanet Sutra you should not own any pets which typically eat meat, except dogs who guard your property. Part of the reason is that a bodhisattva should not be engaged in fostering ...
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