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Hatred arising after a friend tried to make my fiancé cheat on me
The issue is mostly between you & your fiancé (rather than the guy) since it is your fiancé that must establish appropriate boundaries with the guy. If he is to remain your friend, naturally he ...
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How can I become less affected by politics?
This is an easy one. Stop looking at the media so much. The media is not reality. It's a small negatively skewed snippet of it. There is so much more to life than the perpetual negativity we see in ...
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Hatred arising after a friend tried to make my fiancé cheat on me
If you are looking for a Buddhist answer you will have to accept that the Buddhist approach largely involves changing how you view the situation rather than changing what the situation is.
You haven'...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?
Every worker has a duty to become proficient in & do their work. A proper leader must nurture this. Also, rude speech is improper in the workplace; just as rude speech is improper in Buddhism.
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Is the Buddhist path one of 'selfless offering' or 'inner kindness'?
The two contradict only to a "confused" (=normal) mind - in which "self" and "others" are two separate things. To the enlightened mind, what's good for one is good for the other, because they ...
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What is the view of Buddhism in correcting others' view in spite of their willingness to accept it?
If an enlightened mind sees that helping someone is beneficial to them, then would they do it even when the helped doesn't proactively
ask?
Yes. They would help without being asked, as the Buddha ...
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are mundane acts of compassion meaningful?
Yes. Generosity, kind words and helpfulness are all meaningful to the Buddha, however small.
From Vaccha Sutta:
"I tell you, Vaccha, even if a person throws the rinsings of a bowl or
a cup into ...
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How do you talk to someone whose loved one is dying?
Since I am old, this happens with some frequency. A single wordless look with metta, eye-to-eye, is all that is needed. If a hug would be welcomed (and only if it would be welcomed), then it can be ...
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Even if those offended are just ignorant about the word "Hinayana", why use it?
In my very first encounters with Buddhism I've always thought, that this is simply the distinguition between "maha" and "hina" in a sense of a larger fraction and a smaller fraction of the sangha in ...
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Even if those offended are just ignorant about the word "Hinayana", why use it?
If the mind is 'offended', it is not actually practising the 'Hinayana' (Pali) path. Therefore, the question is non-sequitur.
How many Hinayana practitioners have reached the goal of Arahantship ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?
Buddha is cited as Victor for a reason: a good Buddhist is strong and certain - not weak and doubtful. These strength and certainty come from standing firmly with both feet in reality (Tatha) - ...
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Compassion and Wisdom
Yes, there is. There is a difference between compassion cultivated through the Brammaviharas and compassion cultivated through Vipassana.
With the Brammaviharas, one can be as compassionate to the ...
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Why should I give a bowl full of rice to a monk if there is no rebirth?
Buddhism is not an obligatory religion but a religion of voluntary individual participation. There is no obligation to feed monks for non-Buddhists who have not gained appreciation and thus gratitude ...
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Dhamma makes one dispassionate then how can one be compassionate?
Maybe this article will be useful: Detachment and Compassion in Early Buddhism
Viraaga literally means the absence of raaga: the absence of lust, desire, and craving for existence. Hence, it denotes ...
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Inauthentic Compassion and Friendship
One should associate with true friends and disassociate with false friends.
One should associate with those are:
(1) He is pleasant [loving]. piyo ca hoti
(2) He is agreeable. manāpo ca
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"true love", compassion and suffering
Don't people who are more compassionate suffer more because they
experience the suffering of other people?
The above appears to be the Western/Christian meaning of compassion, namely, "to suffer ...
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Sunyata is the truth and compassion is not an illusion?
This answer is from the Theravada perspective.
You are thinking about this from the frame of reference of Vedanta, where there is only one thing real and eternal, and the others are illusion (maya) ...
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How to teach sympathy/empathy in Buddhism?
Speaking as buddhist and a father of four (3 biological kids and 1 step-son).
I don't think we should teach the passive unfolding. Like, we obviously can't say: "if they provoke you and you get ...
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Right situation for Teaching Dhamma or giving advice
According to the suttas, the general principle is to offer Dhamma only when asked (AN 9.5). The Buddha set this example in MN 26, when he waited for the Brahmā Sahampati to ask the Buddha to teach.
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Hatred arising after a friend tried to make my fiancé cheat on me
There are 3 parties:
you
fiancé
3rd party
What you have is worry, hate and anger. This is normal for a worldling but this creates bad Karma and lower future for you.
Your fiancé is compassionate ...
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Feeding meat to pets is it a good karma or bad?
According to the Brahmanet Sutra you should not own any pets which typically eat meat, except dogs who guard your property. Part of the reason is that a bodhisattva should not be engaged in fostering ...
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Have all human beings got the capacity for compassion?
I will not repeat the very clear theoretical background that Lanka has put forward. It describes very well how human capability for compassion fits into buddhism. It doesn't say, I believe, that all ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?
I have experienced some brief training as a novice monk in a short term monastic retreat in the Chinese Chan (Zen) tradition, and I can assure you that you get a lot of tough love. The disciplinary ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?
and always agreeing on others view
very wrong message, polite disagreement is completely normal
try to overcome it by ceasing being meek and docile, because people are animals and take kindness for ...
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What does Buddhism say about pragmatic retribution?
There are countless examples of non-retaliation being depicted as admirable.
One that comes to mind is this one: Is That So?
Not that you'll necessarily find the mere fact that it's "admirable" is ...
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What does Buddhism say about pragmatic retribution?
The word 'retribution' means:
...punishment inflicted on someone as vengeance for a wrong or criminal act.
The examples provided are not retribution but are matters of equity & justice.
From ...
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How can I become less affected by politics?
As a Buddhist, to be engaged in mainstream politics is very difficult because we cannot know the real truth of politics, unless we are absolutely certain.
For example, I have heard some of the most ...
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