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Which Buddhists denominations agree with the difference between pain and suffering as in many DBT texts? Which disagree?

'Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.' I'm not sure I like the adjective 'optional' because I think it's insensitive to tell someone who's been injured that their suffering is some switch to ...
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How should I respond to people who fake suffering?

Namo Buddhaya. Yesterday a person came to me and said he was bit by a dog and then he asked for money to buy medicines as he had none as he was poor. I gave the money to him.But I wonder whether ...
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What to do after becoming free from suffering and attachments?

Suppose I'm free from suffering, free from attachments, untouched by pain and pleasure, with absolute, constant calm and peace of mind; feeling profound compassion towards all beings (from an ant, to ...
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How can one avoid the suffering after getting cheated?

Today I suffered severe disappointment because I thought I was cheated some amount of money. I couldn't complain to anyone because I had no proof. And I suspect those who cheated me will also cheat ...
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How can Buddhism help me to get rid of a suffering due to a disease?

I came to know about Buddhism very late in my life. It is the time for me to relearn the fundamentals of life. But I struggle with everyday activity. I lack energy. In fact I have a diabetes. My past ...
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Are the physicists suffering?

Physicists are scientist who study the reality and draw conclusions about it scientifically. After studying what Buddha said it appears to me that Physicists are trapped in a wrong world. They believe ...
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Should my happiness be dependent on the suffering of others?

Once I asked a wise man "Why should I be happy?" He said "Because there are people more miserable than you. Thank God that at least you are better than them." There are couple of depressed kids living ...
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Cause or how to get rid of ocd compulsions

Since quiete some years I'm suffering from ocd compulsions mainly characterized by repeating simple actions like closing the door, putting light on and off, typing something several times, etc.... And ...
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Can humiliation be liberation?

Do you think that pointing out ego fixations publically serves to free students of their egos? What do you think are the advantages, and drawbacks of this teaching method? Why do you think it works or ...
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Cessation of suffering is the main goal of Buddhism, but is cessation of suffering the end goal or does Buddhism pursue Joy beyond end of suffering?

I ask the above because Socrates in the Republic has proven that the cessation of suffering is a quietude of the mind, an illusion or a jugglery not real. What we should we aim according to him is not ...
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Buddhism on depression?

I've seen some posts (questions and answers) talking about how feeling bad... is bad. Basically that you shouldn't feel bad because of... whatever reason. It varies. My question is... how does that ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

Hello to all of you and thank you for your time in answering the questions here. I have a big problem with my feelings. I have a huge emotional lack, which means I've never moved on with my old ...
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How can I escape the suffering of losing my Father?

One day my Father will leave me. I love him a a lot. It will cause suffering when he leaves. My question is : How can I escape the suffering of losing my Father?
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Renunciation and Negative Mysticism (Escaping from ones Dharma)

May All Beings be Truly Happy! Is it possible that one can see that everything they have tried has failed, in a worldly sense, and has brought about suffering for themselves and others: has been ...
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How to lose identification with my body and physical appearance

Ever since I was a child I was very look concious. I took pride from my looks and took shame from them as well. I'm at a point where my sense of worth is mainly derived from such an unstable, ...
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Meditation for Stress and Anxiety

I have read much about meditation and stress and anxiety, but I'd like to have an experiential perspective from people on here. 1) What's the Buddhist view about stress? What are the solutions to ...
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Is there an end to the suffering in general?

Buddha said that Nirvana is an end to the suffering of an individual. However if we think from a larger perspective, there is no end to the suffering as a whole. The world will get created again and ...
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How is suffering the supporting condition for faith?

In Upanisa Sutta Suffering is noted as a supporting condition for faith, I have a faint idea of how this could be, but I have a hard time following it as I did all other supporting conditioned listed ...
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Buddhism and misanthropy

Is it possible to be Buddhist and a misanthropist? I've realised I actually despise humanity and sometimes I fantasise about the sun exploding and wiping us all out. I believe that the majority of ...
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Can Buddhism lead to eternal happiness?

Does Buddhism propose the possibility of any state of consciousness which feels better than neutral? Many buddhist teachings I have heard so far (mostly by Alan Watts) seem to point to an "ideal" ...
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Does Buddhism focus on suffering too much?

The core of the Buddhist teachings are the four noble truths which talks about the existence of suffering. Other religions criticize Buddhism telling that this focusing on suffering makes the ...
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Helping Others Who Still Need to Suffer due to karma

I was wondering if helping others who are suffering prevents them from receiving their karmic dues. For example, if Person X caused great suffering to others, then according Buddhism, his Karma will ...
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Did the Buddha ever weep in his days of Enlightenment?

Did Buddha ever weep while in his days of Enlightenment? What does Buddha say about weeping? Did he ever weep, for instance, a death of a relative?
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Is suffering caused by oneself, others, by both, or spontaneous?

According to popular belief of Karma, suffering is caused by oneself. I would like to know: Is one's own suffering caused by oneself? Is one's own suffering caused by others? Is one's own ...
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Suffering more in order to feel less suffering? Living with suffering?

I have been reflecting on suffering and it seems to me that, since everyone is suffering and yet most people around me seem happy and contented, there is a way to live "happily" despite suffering that ...
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Why can't existence be mostly good?

My question has to do with existence itself. We all know there is suffering in life and that it is due to the fact that fenomena is ever changing, so any state (good or bad) is conditionated and will ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

For at least half of my life I've had an extremely strong desire to be in a relationship/have a girlfriend and though I've tried, I've been unsuccessful and this has brought me tremendous suffering to ...
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The path and the desire to reduce the suffering of others?

It seems to me that the Noble Eight-fold Path is designed to reduce the suffering of the self. But how do we use its guidance to reduce the suffering of others? If the Buddha was walking down a road ...
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Caring is wrong?

Is caring is a bad thing according to Buddhism ? Because as I experience caring leads us to suffering. But caring can come in so many levels such as we do help a person normally as a result of our ...
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love and caring is suffering

In my point of view everything we love finally ends up with sufferings. love is a root to suffering. But in the society there are plenty of people who lead very happy and non-suffering lives with love....
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buddhism in real life

In the Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta the Buddha said "desire is source of all suffering". So we cannot avoid suffering in life. It is a part of life. However, he also said there was a path to the ...
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How to prevent self-deception?

I have recently attended my first Vipassana 10-day course. I observe the moral precepts fully, practice diligently and attempt to proceed wisely on the path. I came into contact with Vipassana because ...
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Does the aim of enlightenment equal the aspiration of the end of all life?

In my understanding suffering -- craving and aversion and all which it results in -- exists in living beings to help sustain procreation, evolution, and life. Can the ideal of all beings attaining ...
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Escape the suffering?

if believe we can escape the suffering of this world and the limits of our material existence by observing and practicing a set of practices. for Christian, we know that the way of “escape” is only ...
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Two-arrows paradigm (Sallatha Sutta) — in the Mahayana?

The Sallatha Sutta (SN 36.6) in the Pali Canon is well-known in the Theravada and MBI (mindfulness-based-intervention -- MBSR, MBCT, etc) worlds for the two-arrows paradigm. The first arrow is a ...
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Scared of growing old – living in the moment

For those who are scared of growing old and death, what would be a well thought out response be? My first thoughts on it would be, if you learn to meditate, you are going to enjoy your old age, and ...
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Is it possible to be reborn for all eternity?

According to Buddhist teachings, is it possible to continue to reborn and suffer for all eternity? Suppose if a being never attained any merit, never was able to work through its old karma. Would it ...
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Translating “dukkha” as “reactivity”

Daniel Brown, on p. 6 of Pointing Out the Great Way, says this (emphasis added)... The Pali word typically translated as “suffering” is dukkha, which could also be rendered as “reactivity.” For, ...
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Zen & Dukkha — Is Everything Suffering?

Thich Nhat Hanh seems to deny a major teaching on dukkha/suffering common to both Theravada and Tibetan teachings -- the idea of all-perasive suffering ("the suffering of composite things",...
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Does buddhism allow for families?

I have studied Buddhism for a few years now, on and off, and this one question has been bugging me for a long time. Please correct me if I am wrong, however, the way that I understand it is that ...
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Love versus Hatred

I think Hatred and Love comes together. Sometimes people hate each other due to misunderstandings. But when the misunderstandings vanished they start to regret and Love each other. Other way ...
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Two interpretations of the three levels of suffering, Dukkha Sutta and Tibetan

There's a wrinkle in the teachings about the three levels of suffering. The Pali Canon, in SN 38.14 -- Dukkha Sutta -- has it thus (leaving things uninterpreted for the moment): the suffering of pain ...
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Can a Buddhist be ambitious?

Over the last few months I've distanced myself from my sangha and from Buddhism in general. I still meditate but no longer identify as a Buddhist. One of the things I've noticed is the return of some ...
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What is the meaning of *suffering*?

What is the meaning of the word suffering or (pali) dukkha when it is referred to in topics around Dhamma and Vinaya or Buddhism?
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How does one practice suffering well?

Correct me if I'm wrong, I understand a lot of buddhism is about relieving of suffering through practicing of detachment. Removing detachment is a long process. Until one removes those attachments, ...
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Pure Land Schools' version of the Three (or Four) Marks of Existence

I'd be grateful for references to some of the major Pure Land schools' versions of the Three (or Four) Marks (Seals) of Existence: Impermanence (anicca) Suffering (dukkha) No-self (anattā) ...
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Do you become unhappy when happiness disappears?

Do you become unhappy when happiness disappears? Or is there some other state of mind between happiness and unhappiness?
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Did the Buddha really say that “life is suffering”?

I often see the first noble truth (duḥkha) stated as "life is suffering". I have yet to come across a passage in a Buddhist text which phrases it like this - mostly they don't talk about "life" in ...
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Can a human being reside both in this world and Nirvana at the same time?

I've heard Samsara as the term to describe a world with suffering. And it's my simple understanding that Nirvana is the absence of suffering. Correct me if I'm mistaken. My question is fairly simple, ...
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Why did the Buddha suffer before he died?

I understand that the Buddha became severely ill prior to his death as a result of eating bad food. I also was under the impression that perfectly enlightened beings have obliterated, or rendered ...