Questions tagged [suffering]
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Comparing suffering of humans to people from higher realm
In the story of Prince Nanda, He equal the most beautiful female humen on earth to a died monkey as compared with a women from higher realm.
Lord Buddha said that The king of all earth is like a ...
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How should I offer a compassionate ear to my mother while setting healthy boundaries?
I hope you are all well.
I have been studying Buddhism for a few months and I am very grateful for the teachings. I've visited this website frequently for similar questions and this is the first ...
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How would be the world if there is no suffering?
Imagine a world (a planet with humans) without suffering that the people in there are always happy,nothing to worry about.What would be the characteristics of that world ?
At least,Can we define the ...
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Animals: why did the Buddha remain silent? [closed]
I know there have been discussions about vegetarianism, but my question is not exactly that.
I know that:
The Buddha allowed eating meat for monks, if it is clear that the animal was not killed on ...
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Should we care about what others think?
Should we care about what others think? If so, to what level? (Most of the time, those thoughts creates suffering).
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Must I continue a relationship with my abusive parents?
My parents were physically and mentally abusive to me as a child. As an adult, they have never recognized what they have done to me and even try to guilt me into having a relationship with them that I ...
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Rejecting clinging to both pleasure and displeasure
I recently listened to a talk by Ajahn Chah, in which he mentions (@ ~14:20-14:53) that wisdom is found when one clings to neither pleasure nor displeasure. This really created a dilemma in my head ...
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How does a Buddhist care for others' suffering?
Please forgive me, I know really little about buddhism. From what I heard, the Buddhist will try to find relief from suffering by meditation and trying to be selfless. But what about others that are ...
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When is it love? When is it attachment?
I have this misunderstanding about love and attachment as they relate to one another. It's hard to put in words, so I'll try with some examples first.
My understanding is that love is something you ...
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Choose option in suffering?
Hair fall suffering..
Breakup suffering.
Self criticism suffering.
Separation suffering .
Not to get what is want .
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Opposite of buddhism
Is there anything considered the opposite of Buddhism? I have guesses and I'm thinking contrasts might give interesting insights.
In my limited understanding, the concept of an "opposite" to ...
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“true love”, compassion and suffering
According to Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, "true love" has four elements:
Loving kindness: this produces a lot of joy and happiness.
Compassion: it makes us and the other people suffer less.
Joy: "If ...
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Formless Realm Suffering Question
What I would like to know is how does an entity (stream of consciousness) experience suffering if it doesn’t have a physical body? Like say in the hell realm or any of the lower formless realms. Is ...
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Who am I? Who am I without past memory?
Who am I? Am I my memory? For example, I am hindu. I am engineer. I am Rajput.
Who am I without past memory? Am I my past memory? I am engineer. I am hindu.
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Waves of Sadness
I've cut out many addictive behaviours recently, and in line with what I read about addictive things, I've experienced the return of feelings of great sadness and discouragement. Seemingly without ...
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The Justice Thought & System & its Morals?
Namo Buddhaya!
Here are my questions regarding justice systems & their morals:
Would it be skillful & moral to report someone to a principle, a police
officer, or any sort of authority ...
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11 year old daughter suffocated, was dead and was resuscitated now in a state of reduced concsciousness
I am a father of a now 13 year old daughter. She was born with the genetic disorder Achondroplasie (Dwarfism, "small people").
At the age of 11 we decided that she should undergo leg-extension surgery....
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Does Buddhism endorse pacifism in times of injustice?
How would a monk or a Buddhist answer look like in dealing with injustices like murder, rape, torture?
If we refer to Dhammapada 3, the victims get instructions how to deal with those misfortunes, ...
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Suffering in Meditation Versus in Daily Life
I feel like this is a naive question, but I'm wondering what is the difference between experiencing discomfort and distress in meditation versus in daily life outside of meditation. Do the same ...
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What is the process for cleansing a very negative action?
Several years ago I did something that was totally legal, but very much against my upbringing, my world-view, and my ethics. It was a spur of the moment thing and I have regretted it massively ever ...
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Is life not blessing or mystery but suffering in Buddhism?
Just like the title my question is as simple as it gets.
Please give your thought as short as possible. I just wanna confirm my idea.
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Is there a kind of consulting service in Buddhism?
Similarly to psychotherapy counselling/consulting service, is there an equivalent form in Buddhism, in that the counselor is trained in Buddhism instead of clinical psychology? I haven't heard of such ...
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When would a Buddhist want to attach?
I understand that Buddhism is meant to end sufferings. The Buddhists welcome everything and don't clinging when it's gone. They don't necessary cut existing attachments (knowledge, relationships), but ...
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Information requested on Buddhist monks self-immolation mental technique
Thích Quảng Đức was a monk who immolated himself to protest against the repression by the Vietnamese government in 1963. It was filmed how he adopted the full-lotus posture an fire was set on him. The ...
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If a buddhist had the opportunity to stop the holocaust by killing hitler, should he or she do it? [duplicate]
This is basically a philosophical question, in the light of buddhist ethics.
Suppose a buddhist person were in a situation in which he could stop the jewish holocaust, but the ONLY way he or she ...
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What did Siddhartha really meant by ending suffering
I constantly hear from buddhists that "happiness is inside of you" and that thinking you can get away from suffering by wanting to be somewhere else, or wanting to be with someone else or stuff like ...
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Is there an antibuddha?
Is there a figure in Buddhism corresponding to the Christian notion of such? And what would that mean, practically?
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Is Buddha a source of suffering?
Buddha said he taught only the suffering , origin of suffering , cessation of suffering and path to cessation of suffering.
He also said whatever arises must perish and that is why whatever arises is ...
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Suffering due to non-self-related preconceived notions in Theravada
According to this answer:
However, there is another type of suffering that cannot be fixed with
anatta! This type of suffering comes from attachment to forms other
than oneself, forms that have ...
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What is a skillful way to meditate in the midst of a migraine headache?
When the Bod-hisattva Quan the Am, who has been such a source of
inspiration of peace workers in Viet- nam, saw into the reality of the
five aggregates giving rise to emptiness of self, she was ...
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Unintended but mindless action resulted in death of a living thing
I am very new to Buddhism and am learning the teachings, so I am reaching out. I avoid hurting any living thing at all cost, but this morning while walking my dogs I was texting and I crushed a snail. ...
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Does suffering entail being overwhelmed for the person who is suffering?
Also are there behaviors that all humans do when they suffer? For instance, do all humans try to alleviate suffering when they experience it?
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Addiction and Suffering
I have experienced minor addictions lately, such as overeating or social media; these topics have been addressed on this site previously.
I now have a more general question. I am wondering: which is ...
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If our present suffering is the result of bad karma from a prior life, what is the real present remedy for suffering in this life?
Can all suffering be alleviated in this life through our efforts with the Eight Fold Path? Why engage in any effort related to the Eight Fold Path, if the only true benefits are to be realized in the ...
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Do thoughts influence everything? Or is this an illusion?
What does Buddhism think about/or is it accepted in it that we influence everything with our (un)conscious thoughts and emotions and impressions (because these are also some form off thoughts right?) ...
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Which Buddhists denominations agree with the difference between pain and suffering as in many DBT texts? Which disagree?
'Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.'
I'm not sure I like the adjective 'optional' because I think it's insensitive to tell someone who's been injured that their suffering is some switch to ...
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How should I respond to people who fake suffering?
Namo Buddhaya.
Yesterday a person came to me and said he was bit by a dog and then he asked for money to buy medicines as he had none as he was poor. I gave the money to him.But I wonder whether ...
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What to do after becoming free from suffering and attachments?
Suppose I'm free from suffering, free from attachments, untouched by pain and pleasure, with absolute, constant calm and peace of mind; feeling profound compassion towards all beings (from an ant, to ...
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How can one avoid the suffering after getting cheated?
Today I suffered severe disappointment because I thought I was cheated some amount of money. I couldn't complain to anyone because I had no proof. And I suspect those who cheated me will also cheat ...
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How can Buddhism help me to get rid of a suffering due to a disease?
I came to know about Buddhism very late in my life. It is the time for me to relearn the fundamentals of life. But I struggle with everyday activity. I lack energy. In fact I have a diabetes. My past ...
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Are the physicists suffering?
Physicists are scientist who study the reality and draw conclusions about it scientifically. After studying what Buddha said it appears to me that Physicists are trapped in a wrong world. They believe ...
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Should my happiness be dependent on the suffering of others?
Once I asked a wise man "Why should I be happy?" He said "Because there are people more miserable than you. Thank God that at least you are better than them."
There are couple of depressed kids living ...
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Cause or how to get rid of ocd compulsions
Since quiete some years I'm suffering from ocd compulsions mainly characterized by repeating simple actions like closing the door, putting light on and off, typing something several times, etc.... And ...
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Can humiliation be liberation?
Do you think that pointing out ego fixations publically serves to free students of their egos? What do you think are the advantages, and drawbacks of this teaching method? Why do you think it works or ...
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Cessation of suffering is the main goal of Buddhism, but is cessation of suffering the end goal or does Buddhism pursue Joy beyond end of suffering?
I ask the above because Socrates in the Republic has proven that the cessation of suffering is a quietude of the mind, an illusion or a jugglery not real. What we should we aim according to him is not ...
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Buddhism on depression?
I've seen some posts (questions and answers) talking about how feeling bad... is bad. Basically that you shouldn't feel bad because of... whatever reason. It varies.
My question is... how does that ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?
Hello to all of you and thank you for your time in answering the questions here.
I have a big problem with my feelings. I have a huge emotional lack, which means I've never moved on with my old ...
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How can I escape the suffering of losing my Father?
One day my Father will leave me. I love him a a lot. It will cause suffering when he leaves.
My question is : How can I escape the suffering of losing my Father?
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Renunciation and Negative Mysticism (Escaping from ones Dharma)
May All Beings be Truly Happy!
Is it possible that one can see that everything they have tried has failed, in a worldly sense, and has brought about suffering for themselves and others: has been ...
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How to lose identification with my body and physical appearance
Ever since I was a child I was very look concious. I took pride from my looks and took shame from them as well. I'm at a point where my sense of worth is mainly derived from such an unstable, ...
