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How Buddhist practice relates to human sexuality and sexual relationships. Topics can include sexual practices, heterosexuality, homosexuality and transgender issues.

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Lust - How Can it be Overcome?

I am an above beginner level meditator - I have been practicing Vipassana meditation regularly for past 6-7 months - By regularly, I mean 1hr of sitting meditation at least 5 times a week. I have ...
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Masturbation: Does it break the 3rd precept?

According to this answer, it seems like masturbation is not considered sexual misconduct or breaking the third precept. However, the whole point (in general) of keeping the precept is to make good ...
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What is the attitude toward homosexuality in Buddhism?

I am specifically interested in the attitude of Theravadan Buddhism toward homosexuality (if it has one at all.) I don't recall ever seeing any references to homosexuality in the suttas...I do recall ...
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Am I condemned for an extramarital affair?

A long time ago I had a romantic relationship with a married woman, and later I regretted. How is this seen in Buddhism?
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Sexual Desire, Masturbating and Asuba Bawana

I have been wanting to ask this question for some time. So basically caught up in the social norms, i used to watch porn videos and masturbate and got a bit attached to it. Kept on doing it for a few ...
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What does Buddhism literature and tradition say about transgender folks?

This may seem like a question that is far too modern for an ancient tradition, but when I traveled in Thailand I learned that katoeys (male-to-female) are a legal gender in Thailand. What does ...
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Marriage and porn

We all know the limits of a married person.We all know the definition of cheating in Buddhism. But Buddhism existed in a time Porn did not exist. So if a married person watch porn is it cheating?
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Is it possible to experience powerful sensations, such as orgasm, without getting attached to it?

I used orgasm as an example because it is usually the strongest sensation one can feel due to everything involved and all the chemistry released in the body. Also, I would say that sexual activity ...
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Is celibacy intrinsic to Buddhism?

I was reading about Buddhism in Wiki and I just am not able to make out if celibacy is a must for Buddhists?
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Controlling one's sexual thoughts

How does one control one's thoughts? ESPECIALLY the uncontrollable desires related to sexual drive which are built deep into our conscience. Answers are DEEPLY appreciated.
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Dealing with Lust

I am wondering about the nature of lust and its remedies. I know Buddhism posits that lust depends on the sense organs, and contact with an object. Thus, I've read it promotes decreasing this contact ...
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What do Buddhists do to prevent sexual desires?

Does Buddhism do anything to prevent sexual desires? Do they do anything to lower sexual desires? Prevent eating certain foods or something similar?
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What is a pandaka?

I can understand that within the social context of the historical Buddha, being homosexual or bisexual could have possibly been damaging to the Sangha's image as there is still a lot of gay/bisexual/...
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Is homosexuality a sin? [duplicate]

"Homosexuality" is a hot topic everywhere in the world now. But is it a sin according to Buddhism? Does it cause a breaking of the third precept? I have heard in a sermon that people are born gay ...
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Why is lust considered as being unskillful?

Sexual lust and pornography in Buddhism is considered as being unskillful, but for me it is not clear why. If all parties involved consented to taking part in sexual acts, I don't see why they are ...
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Celibacy and contradiction with modern medical science

Buddhism stress on Celibacy at the same time insists on revoking everything that could not be proved by scientific method or rational thought. I am a graduate student of physics and I found that ...
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Sexual disinterest

Is it possible that Buddhist practice could cause a lack of interest or even repulsion of sex? Lately I have tried to have sex a few times and I felt uninterested and repulsed by it. I was so ...
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In what way(s) does engaging in sexual activity affect meditation practice?

Does sexual activity (masturbation and beyond) hinder vipassana meditation practice? If so, does anyone know through experience or references exactly how this activity affects the practice? For ...
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What is special about physical contact in the context of erotic/sexual behaviour?

When staying at buddhist monasteries (Theravada for me so far) there are the Eight Precepts to be followed. I am familiar with the eight precepts. Regarding the precepts " This bothers me already for ...
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metta towards women

This related question already has an answer: Avoiding Lust in Hinduism? This is a bit strange to ask, but I'll proceed anyway. In specifically Buddhism (I'm a Hindu though) there are prescribed ways ...
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How can a person be abstinent?

How can a person be abstinent and overcome all sexual urges including self-gratification in accordance with the Buddhist tradition ? What prescription do the teachers give to get over such obstacles ?
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Vajra Posture vs Lotus Posture -- the same or male vs female?

I always thought that "Vajra Posture" and "Lotus Posture" were simply two names for the same thing. But recently somebody told me that Vajra Posture is for males and Lotus Posture for females, though ...
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The Third Precept and Prostitution

For a Buddhist who is single, do occasional "visits" to the brothel break the observing of the Third Precept? In other words, the Third Precept is perfectly "intact" when one engages in such activity (...
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Theravada perspective on transgender people

What would be the Theravada approach to people who have a transgender experience? As far as I understand it, the mind does not have a gender. So should a Buddhist, out of compassion alone, indulge a ...
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Buddhist attitude towards prostitution and non-procreative sexual activity

I would like to ask a question from a Theravada Buddhism perspective. In the Sutta it's said having sex with particular people is considered as sexual misconduct: He has no intercourse with girls ...
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Taking care of our sexual energy

In the Five Mindfulness Trainings as presented in the tradition of Thich Nhat Hanh, the third one - called "True Love" - says: I am committed to learning appropriate ways to take care of my sexual ...
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Buddhism and fornication

Most of the people follow the 3rd precept of lay buddhism without knowing the actual meaning of it. Personally, even I don't know the actual meaning of it. Most of the people including me understand ...
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Why are some bodily fluids missing from the "Thirty Two Parts of the Body" teaching?

"There are in this body head-hairs, body-hairs, nails, teeth, skin, flesh, sinews, bones, marrow, kidneys, heart, liver, pleura, spleen, lungs, intestines, intestinal tract, stomach, feces, bile, ...
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When is it love? When is it attachment?

I have this misunderstanding about love and attachment as they relate to one another. It's hard to put in words, so I'll try with some examples first. My understanding is that love is something you ...
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How did Buddha deal with people that were sexually attracted to him?

Is there any known case, where someone was sexually attracted to Buddha?
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Can homosexual monks or nuns ordain, if not WHY?

Namo Buddhaya! (I am a Theravada Buddhist) The Vinaya says monks & nuns cannot be together in private (it would be an offense). But what if someone is a homosexual, how would they go about ...
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What makes someone take rebirth with non heterosexual inclinations?

How can someone take rebirth with non-heterosexual inclinations? What specific karmic acts will lead to rebirth with this trait of non heterosexuality?
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Does Buddhism have an answer to disturbing sexual fantasies?

I have extreme sexual fantasies that hurt me (submission, candaulism, etc.). Because of the internet and pornography many young people have increasingly extreme fantasies, and when they are attached ...
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Feeling scared/ having aversion to looking at "pretty" women

I have been doing buddhist practices and trying to keep the precepts for a few months, after an intensive retreat. I have been noticing recently that I have automatically started to avoid looking at ...
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Infidelity in marriage

If you are in a sexless marriage where your wife absolutely denys you any sex or intimacy no matter what, is it OK to cheat? What is the Buddhist rules on that? I understand that my wife's behavior ...
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Is masturbation a sin when we do it to avoid intercourse with other people?

I masturbate to avoid having sex with other people. I've masturbated quite a lot. I don't want to have sexual intercourse with anyone else though I love sex. I've been keeping my body away from sexual ...
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Sexual Misconduct involving Breast (Women)?

I have read somewhere (possibly Dalai Lama) that certain sexual activity comes under sexual misconduct (like Oral, Anal ...). So my question is whether using breast for sexual activity is considered ...
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Sex Before Marriage

I met this wonderful girl sometime back and we had a great thing going. We understood each other very well and have lived in great pleasure and happiness. Initially we started dating. after sometime ...
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Sexual deviance (zoophilia, etc)

If homosexuality is okay because it is never explicitly stated in the canonical texts, then how about zoophilia, or necrophilia? Those aren't explicitly stated in the texts too, so are those 'okay'?
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Three Questions about Sexual Desire

I am wondering a few questions in regard to sexual desire and Buddhism. Is fantasizing a form of craving and thus worse than sexual activity without it? What are the mental processes involved? How ...
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If sex is prohibited, how do we survive?

Sex can lead us to suffering in many ways; however, if all of us are just like Lord Buddha according to his story, wouldn't humanity become extinct?
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Question on sexual immorality and a family situation

I recently, and accidentally, found out one of my very close family members has been watching pornography on my computer. He had borrowed it and had used it apparently for his own purposes one night. ...
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Sexuality, marriage and the fourth precept

Let's say a person were to seek for, and enter a monogamous heterosexual relationship and eventually marriage, but actually he or she is either homosexual or bisexual (but more inclined to ...
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Sexual thoughts coming with full pace to silent mind

I'm being very mindful and aware nowadays. My mind is now very much quite and I am able to watch handful of thoughts in day to day life. The problem is at a particular instant of quite mind, sexual ...
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Can a girl & a boy be friends

I didn't use to have much boys as friends but with time I made several boy friends from which some were really close. I want to know what has Lord Buddha chanted about a girl & a boy being friends?...
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Buddha's view on sexuality

In contemporary society (apart from religion) sex is mostly seen as something pleasurable, which is done even without considering childbearing. As far as I can see, Buddha taught extensively to lay ...
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How to cultivate sexual energy with Meditation?

How a person can cultivate his own sexual energy to creative one with the help of Meditation? can we handle Sexual energy when it arises with breathing technique or Meditation?
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What is sex without attachment to sense pleasure actually like?

What is sex without attachment to sense pleasure actually like? Does it feel different? Do you only ever have sex to please the other person? I'm asking both about the relationship and the act itself. ...
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Are accepted social norms and the law of the land moral sexual conduct according to Buddhism?

I read the following on the internet: In my opinion, Buddha looks at sex from four angles. Hindrance to attain Nibbana or even one-pointedness Generally accepted social norms. Kindness towards ...
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Eightfold path & gender dysphoria

Would the eightfold path help someone transcend gender dysphoria? Is gender dysphoria a matter of clinging or a matter of hardwired biology?
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