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Does accusation helps a person change his values or a better ways is to tell a story with moral?

I have a friend say Dev. He always involves himself in flattery of rich people knowingly or unknowingly. Its clearly visible that he shows off in front of rich people or try to gain their friendship ...
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How to deal with fixation towards an old relationship?

I broke up with my girlfriend a couple of years ago. We haven't talked to each other since then. A few months back we met at a job interview. We spoke to each other and she was very friendly. I ...
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Wrong meanings commonly associated with the notion of Gratitude

What are the common/widespread wrong meanings that people associate with or assign to the word 'gratitude'? As we know, the society is made up largely of families, and those in turn are made of up ...
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Personal relationships and properly ending them

Upasaka Karl mentioned in an answer: Relationships have a beginning. And because they have a beginning, they also have an end. Thoughtless endings, ghosting and worse, hurt both parties. It is sad to ...
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How to deal with difficult in-laws?

What are some "skillful means" of getting through holidays, birthdays, graduations and etc. when your in-laws are constantly making passive aggressive statements about you or the way you ...
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Buddhist take on parents staying together for the children?

How would one go about figuring out if it is wise to stay together for the sake of the children or if it is time to split up? What would be the guiding principles for figuring this out based on ...
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How to rebuild a relationship after a breach of trust?

What are the Buddhist norms & guidelines for rebuilding a relationship after a breach of trust?
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What's the advice for dealing with an abusive partner?

How would one deal with a verbally or otherwise abusive partner who gets upset over nothing and let's anger loose? Assuming the abuser realizes they have a problem but are unable to solve the ...
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Doctrine to address or alleviate someone's sense of betrayal?

Does Buddhism say anything about suffering as the result of having a sense of "betrayal" -- perhaps a sense of someone else having committed an "injustice"? I think that for some ...
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When is it love? When is it attachment?

I have this misunderstanding about love and attachment as they relate to one another. It's hard to put in words, so I'll try with some examples first. My understanding is that love is something you ...
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How do monks transcend the desire for relationships & sex?

Being a 'genuine' monk means a certain kind of dispassion towards the world. How is sexuality & 'relationship craving' effectively dealt within a monk? I am pretty sure a lot of monks struggle ...
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What is meant by the impossibility "A Buddha can not help someone not related to him"?

What is meant by the impossibility "A Buddha can not help someone not related to him, no relative of him"? Is said to be one of the three things a/the Buddha can not do. How should that be understood?...
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"Buddha does not claim to be a creator of lives or the Universe.", true?

Ven. and good Buddha-Parisatas, A statement from a commercial Website here says: "Buddha does not claim to be a creator of lives or the Universe." Is that right, or wrong and how to understand such ...
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Is there any source saying that Buddhists can temporarily form relationship to help people?

There are many good answers in the question Would Buddhists help non-Buddhists continuing their attachments?. I'll summarize some of the points here: Buddhism only teaches that things don't last, not ...
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Would Buddhists help non-Buddhists continuing their attachments?

Let's take 2 examples: A Buddhist notices a crying girl. After asking it turns out that she lost her mother, and don't know where to find her Alice and Bob has a complicated relationship. Bob wants ...
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What's the effect of association with outcasts?

Even if out of "compassion", what's the effect of association with outcasts, even appear as "family-member" of such? What's the effect of being related to those who are actually turned over the bowl? ...
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Days related to Buddhism

Growing up in a conservative family, I saw my community elders choose a good day for events or celebrations. Including, a good day to travel, a good day to start a business, a good day for haircut ...
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What to do that wise would not disappear again?

My person, just seeing that you are certain gifted to be, possible not so aware, gifted to have another Noble one around here thought it would be good to be asked an importand question: What needs to ...
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What motivates a fully awakened person in a loving relationship?

Loving relationship here is meant specifically as a mutually intimate partnership like husband and wife and boyfriend and girlfriend. There would be the case where one would become fully awake and ...
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Sex Before Marriage

I met this wonderful girl sometime back and we had a great thing going. We understood each other very well and have lived in great pleasure and happiness. Initially we started dating. after sometime ...
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if the self is an illusion - all my relationships are illusion too?

If the self is an illusion - of little importance - where does that leave my relationships? All the people I know, have a relationship with this 'fake self' of mine -- so the relationships are ...
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Personal Relationships while on the path?

Since studying and attempting to adhere to the buddhist path as a lay follower, lately I've been finding it very difficult to connect with friends who are not on the same path. I note that much of the ...
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Help! I'm in love with enlightened man

Pardon my English .I was lucky enough to meet this man . This man is living Buddha . He is not a monk. Lives simple life. He is such a mystery. I'm in love with enlightened man. It's not recent ... ...
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Is allowing or seeking detachment a bad karmic influence vis a vis rebirth?

If I let relationships and other things go as a way of embracing detachment then will there be karmic "retribution" or will it leave some hole that will force me into rebirth?
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How do you have a relationship

Buddhism has made me realise that everything is impermanent and undergoing the process of destruction including intimate relationships however if I know this then why is it still so painful when it ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

For at least half of my life I've had an extremely strong desire to be in a relationship/have a girlfriend and though I've tried, I've been unsuccessful and this has brought me tremendous suffering to ...
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Ordaining vs normal life

Lord Buddha left the normal life due to frustration he got seeing those four instances of human life. In today when people get the same frustration they call it as depression, and motivate further to ...
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Caring is wrong?

Is caring is a bad thing according to Buddhism ? Because as I experience caring leads us to suffering. But caring can come in so many levels such as we do help a person normally as a result of our ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

I have been doing meditation for long time and have felt a change in me. I have started developing strong compassion, and due to this I am speaking very politely to everyone and always agreeing with ...
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Does buddhism allow for families?

I have studied Buddhism for a few years now, on and off, and this one question has been bugging me for a long time. Please correct me if I am wrong, however, the way that I understand it is that ...
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What does Buddhism say about how to manage other people's anger?

What does Buddhism say about how to manage other people's anger? Does Buddhism suggest any specific attitude when we are facing angry people, especially when they are unable to control their anger and/...
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"Human Dignity" in Buddhism

Can we find a concept of "Dignity" or "Human Dignity" in Buddhism? My understanding is that in the Western World the concept of Human Dignity is used to justify that each of us deserves to be not only ...
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Betraying People

Today people are betraying each other in different levels without considering relationships and bonds. For example scenarios: Children betrays parents and ignore them Boy/Girl cheats on Girl/Boy due ...
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Relationships : What is Love?

Recently i was wondering about Love and these thoughts came to my mind, i want to know if they are correct or not. As to Buddhism all sorts of love is "Attachment". And the is no such thing called a ...
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Polyamory in Buddhism

What does Buddhism say about polyamory? By polyamory I mean a consensual romantic relationship that involves more than two adult people, which may or may not involve sexual contact. Is it wholesome, ...
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Do buddhists fall in love?

I'm new to the concept of Buddhism, and am failing to understand perhaps something very basic. I understand that one is not expected to hold anything close or dear as it is impermanent and could ...
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What are the Buddhist teachings on how best to live a married life?

Does Buddhism describe how best to live a married life? Please provide some short excerpts. Thank you.
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What would Buddhists do to get rid of the feeling of insecurity in relationships?

Sometimes I feel insecure and worry about my current relationship. I try to live with mindfulness each day, but it seems very hard because I still cannot forget my bad past experience. What should I ...
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How does the practice of Buddhism look at preconceived ideas, assumptions or notions?

Often in conversation or interaction, one may have preconceived ideas, assumptions or notions. For example, since humans are creatures of habit and over time, one may have recognized a pattern of ...
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How do you help or take on the sufferings of others?

In the past month or so, a number of people i know are suffering in a number of ways e.g. cancer, allergies, etc. Especially when a child is concerned, i am inclined to 'take on' their suffering. ...
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How does one practice Buddhism when experience is limited by the 6 senses?

If one is limited by the senses and the formation of the sense, how does one practice Buddhism which espouses interrelatedness and interconnectedness? For example, if i simply taste the grape i have ...
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Work, Love, and Buddhism in the modern setting

I am curious as to what the stance of Buddhists would be towards a couple of issues. Would it be possible to maintain a career, one that you dedicate a lot of time towards and that you actively ...
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Attachment to other people and beings?

How does one live a life with multiple relationships (family, girlfriends, friends, pets, etc) while not being attached to them(being aware it will end eventually and therefore do not dwell in Dukkha ...
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Any authentic sutta from any tradition that gives guidance on what kind of partner to choose?

Any authentic sutta or part of sutta from any tradition that gives guidance on what kind of sexual relationship partner to choose? I'm thinking the Vimalikirti sutra should say something about such ...
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Is it okay to leave your suffering family behind when you have an instinct to attain Nirvana?

I see my society cherishing and nourishing their respected beloved ones and living at their best. I've tried to do that but I have many unanswered questions. How can I help myself to attain Nirvana ...
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How to deal with loved ones who don't support you? [closed]

I am very close to someone in my family. I have supported her through rough times and offered my advice. However, she does not support me for the one thing I want in life. I am working hard to achieve ...
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How To Keep Loving Without Reward?

Changes can easily come about in all of us, even those we love and trust. When this happens, how do we keep loving them without expecting anything?
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Is it possible to have a romantic relationship without attachment?

Is it possible to have a romantic relationship without attachment? Just based on pure love and with equanimity?
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What is Buddhism's view on divorce?

In some religions, marriage is perceived as eternal and is a bond that can not be broken. I believe I have read that marriage in Buddhism is not a formal or well-defined institution as it is in ...
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Does avoiding a person mean I have not truly forgiven them?

This individual has been belligerent in the past causing a lot of grief to myself. I've felt a great deal of animosity towards this individual in the past but after some time forgave them. The ...