Questions tagged [personal-practice]

Questions containing or motivated by some aspect of personal experience. The experience can be during formal Buddhist practice or during everyday activity however the experience will be related to Buddhist practice or doctrine. The questions will necessarily have a subjective quality however the question or answers will contain references to Buddhist scripture, doctrine or an established teacher.

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Any advice on leg numbing during sitting?

It happens at about 20 minutes every time lately... either in half lotus (a traditional position that i would like to honor), or with one leg laying in front of the other, or indian style... doesnt ...
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Caught between two worlds

Hi my Name is Tobias and I am 31 years old. Of course there is a personal story behind my question and a lot of causes and conditions that led to my current situation but in brief the question goes ...
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Should a Buddhist feel offended by misuses of Buddha's name or image?

I have just found out that there is a person producing and selling a beer in my town called "Buddha Beer" with Hotei's picture on it. Initially I found it offensive and disrespectful (marketing ...
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Can you attain stream entry without meditation?

Venerable sir, Lately I have been wondering if there is a proper technique that can be used in order to attain stream entry rather than meditating. I have a few experiences with loving kindness ...
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How to deal with bad past karma that makes my current life miserable?

Before I practice Buddhism,I've made mistakes and hurt other. Sometimes I thought what happen to me now is the effect of what I did. I try to keep doing positive things but sometimes I could not ...
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Meditation and 'not trying to change anything'

I've been practicing mindfulness meditation for around three months now. I've heard many times that a key aim for meditation is to be with whatever thoughts and feelings are present, without trying to ...
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Explaining non-attachment to the very attached

I've been told by someone close to me that my meditation and desire to let go are very threatening to her. She sees sense desires, ego and attachments as very natural and wholesome, and my way of life ...
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Strange feelings after meditation and mindfulness practice?

I started to meditate half a year ago with my first Vipassana retreat in Bodhgaya. I'm trying to meditate every day since then. Around two months ago I started to practice mindfulness and try to bring ...
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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

My partner has an active interest in Buddhism and I have been confused about his state of mind for two years. Kindly help us out. The past two years have been a depression time for my family and ...
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What should I choose, Life or Nirvana?

A little personal story ahead also sorry for the long post... Story: Three years back my life was a disaster, I was as far away from Dhamma as possible, I was into the dark side of modern life. ...
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How to deal with people and handle rude language?

How should one properly handle cases in which people use a rude language and indulge in idle talk or gossip, according to the Buddhist teachings? How to speak or act with a pure thought when people ...
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Clenching teeth and pressing tongue against roof of mouth

This may sound similar to this question, but it's not the same. This practice appears to be similar to the Khecari Mudra of Hindu yoga, but it's not the same, because the tongue need not be inserted ...
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How to wake up properly after a nights sleep?

My mind tends to be more unbalanced after waking up than before going to bed. I try to observe breath and sensations but the mind is pretty muddled. This raises the question if the mind is making ...
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A Good Career for a Buddhist?

I am a business woman and my job is stressful. It is entirely motivated by greed. I want to leave my career but I have a dream to help poor people in my country and also to make my parents proud of me....
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

For at least half of my life I've had an extremely strong desire to be in a relationship/have a girlfriend and though I've tried, I've been unsuccessful and this has brought me tremendous suffering to ...
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How do I make non-buddhists help understand I operate with a different view?

I have started on my path not very long ago and because I'm very unsure where it will take me, I am hesitant to label myself as a Buddhist or even a meditator or such. Also where I live, eastern ...
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Is it possible to “over-train” in samatha meditation?

Every morning I set aside one hour for meditation -- primarily just counting breaths, but occasionally abdominal noting. My overall aim is to achieve some kind of basic tranquility so I can then ...
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Why is meditation making me more angry?

Can someone tell me what's wrong? I am extremely new to the art of meditation in general. My mind, in general, is always cluttered with either office worries or personal worries. When I remove my ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

I have been doing meditation for long time and have felt a change in me. I have started developing strong compassion, and due to this I am speaking very politely to everyone and always agreeing with ...
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Ultimate Lack of Discipline

I noticed that despite all my resolutions and intentions, I am still not much better than when I attempted to change. Therefore, I ask the following: What could a person particularly lazy and ...
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Question about how to generate more motivation to meditate.

I just wanted to hopefully get some ideas on how some of the fellow users of this site motivate themselves to meditate on a more frequent basis. What ultimately motivates each one of you to continue ...
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How does Dating work in Buddhism

What does the Buddha say about dating, in general? This is a fairly open-ended question, and any scriptural references would help. I would have lustful thoughts when I look at a pretty girl (though I ...
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Anapanasati Buddhist meditation

So I thought I really need to ask this question about Buddhist meditation specifically, Anapanasati. Basically I sit cross legged and count breaths for 15 minutes as advised on the Internet for ...
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What is the minimum amount of time needed for a productive meditation sit?

This question leads on from the comments on this post What is the minimum amount of time that one could productively sit in meditation? For instance if I only had five minutes to sit should I do it ...
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How to address wrong view

Did the Buddha give any teachings on how to deal with individuals spreading wrong view? If someone is expounding their beliefs in a public forum under the guise of the Buddha's teaching, given the ...
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Problem concentrating during Vipassana meditation

I am having trouble maintaining concentration for long periods of time. I make my breath slightly hard and then pull my mind back to it and then carry on as normal. But it's quite hard to have a long ...
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What is the best strategy to confront Non-Buddhist ideology?

I am sure everybody in this world thinks that 'my religion is the only true religion' etc and its variables. As we live in a diverse society, in today's age of information we invariably bump into ...
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That “Electric Feel” body sensation during meditation

Meditation skill level: greater than beginner, less than adept. Before I can get to the Electric Feel, we need to come to a mutual understanding on how I get there. I have a specific technique to my ...
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Panic arising in meditation

I am a relatively new (about four months) meditator. My meditation technique is closing my eyes and focusing on the sensation of the breath as it passes in and out of my throat. Today I was ...
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Sleep - What about it?

What are the proper relax / Sleep practices for a practitioner of meditation methods? As to Buddhist point of view what is sleep and how to cope with it?
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Textual reference vs. Direct insight [closed]

Somewhat loaded question... According to Buddha, what is more reliable -- textual reference or one's own direct insight that came from experience? If one's own insight is in conflict with a text, ...
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Overwhelming thoughts - Mindfulness and awareness

So I have read and know something about awareness and doing regular tasks with attention and focus. But recently there has been chaos with my job and cause for consternation. Thoughts keep arising ...
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Software programming/Art and Buddhist Practice - Pursuing creative activity

I have read this question but I'm seeking more advice. So it is quite obvious in the activity of software programming that we cannot help but think about programming concepts and also end up creating ...
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How to deal with body pain during meditation?

I am doing vipassana meditation as taught by Goenka. I get numbness and tingling in my feet from nerve pressure while sitting cross legged. I put up with it for quite a long time and then the ...
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How to be mindful while studying?

I am a science student at an university and I practise mindfulness in the Mahasi tradition. My question is, how can I be mindful while studying? This is a very important question for me since most of ...
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As a Buddhist how do I get over hatred towards my previous religion?

I am filled with genuine hatred towards my previous religion. My hatred is not directed towards other religions it's just towards my past. And this constantly bubbles up during meditation. I don't ...
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Is playing computer games an unwholesome activity?

Recently I've slipped back into playing computers games. This morning I had a moment of clarity and realised that for me it is not a good activity and I've uninstalled them and I feel a lot better. ...
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My interests have changed. I wonder how to keep my previous life?

Lately, I have experienced a great breakthrough in my meditation. Being able to keep equanimous in front of deep sankharas I couldn't deal with before. My heart and mind are filled with happiness and ...
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Shamata and vipassana - loss of willpower

I've been meditating (somewhat regularly) about one or two years back. Mainly shamata, and vipassana lately. Today I feel that my willpower is considerably lower than before. I mean, I used to be ...
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The Bane of Social Media

I looked up 'social media' in the questions, but didn't find an answer precise enough for my inquiry. Basically, I came to the conclusion that 1) social media fragments attention drastically by ...
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Do metta practices and anatta contradict each other?

When I was taught the Metta Bhavna meditation practice it was suggested that I repeat the following to myself May I be well May I be happy May I be free Then again repeating the same again to ...
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Can the Buddhism.SE site function as “the Sangha” for me?

I don't have access to a Sangha just now, and I do frequent this very well conceived and helpful site. Recently I was writing a comment about no longer being a programmer because it was too isolating ...
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Trouble understanding “sensual misconduct”

Is this phrase analogous to over-indulgence in sense pleasures, or is indulgence in any sense pleasure at any level considered a form of misconduct? Thankya
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“Guard the sense doors”- What does this mean, and what is it's application?

What does it mean to "guard the sense doors"? What is the practical application of this concept in daily life? For example, does this concept mean that a heterosexual male should entirely avoid ...
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How to not slip into Nihilism from Vipassana?

I am sensing this disenchantment from letting go. Meditating on impermanence feels like nihilism to me. There is a fleeting moment of joy from the liberation and just watching emotions go by. And I ...
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Can meditation cause you to sleep less?

Over the last few months I've started meditating late on a night (as well as my usual morning practice). I'm finding that I am sleeping less but not feeling tired because of it. Is there any ...
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Can a Buddhist be ambitious?

Over the last few months I've distanced myself from my sangha and from Buddhism in general. I still meditate but no longer identify as a Buddhist. One of the things I've noticed is the return of some ...
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Maintaining the emotional state achieved in meditation through the rest of the day

I've been practicing meditation for a while now, basic breathing and mindfulness meditation, and lately I've added some contemplation to my "routines", usually with music, and the result is absolutely ...
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What are the advantages/disadvantages of meditating with eyes closed?

I'm not normally distracted by noise, touch, smell or taste when I meditate. But I do keep looking and looking and looking. Sometimes I'll fixate on a crack between the spars of wood on the floor, ...
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What would Buddhists do to get rid of the feeling of insecurity in relationships?

Sometimes I feel insecure and worry about my current relationship. I try to live with mindfulness each day, but it seems very hard because I still cannot forget my bad past experience. What should I ...