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Questions containing or motivated by some aspect of personal experience. The experience can be during formal Buddhist practice or during everyday activity however the experience will be related to Buddhist practice or doctrine. The questions will necessarily have a subjective quality however the ...

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Can a girl & a boy be friends

I didn't use to have much boys as friends but with time I made several boy friends from which some were really close. I want to know what has Lord Buddha chanted about a girl & a boy being friends?...
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How can mindfulness/awareness be employed effectively for Forgiveness?

I don't want to harbor ill-will anymore and I want to forgive others for what they did to me and also forgive myself for my past actions. So I remain aware and mindful of the thoughts of ill-will ...
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Should we feel good about life?

It was intense suffering which bought me to the path of Dhamma. But now as I practise I see that I have started defining my life through the lens of suffering. Even if I practise non-attachment and ...
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Why can't I appreciate my own life?

I am young, today I turn 23, and my life is fast. I am a research student where my work is enjoyable, changing constantly and so invoking that I lose myself in it. My friends are family are fairly ...
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As a lay follower how to deal with uncontrollable sexual urges?

I have totally refrained from sexual misconduct and after reading the answers about Masturbation to the previous question on this site I have even refrained from that. Also, I have practically zero ...
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Can meditation heal physical diseases?

I recently read the Discourse to Girimananda Thera. In it, the Venerable Girimananda was "afflicted with a disease, was suffering there from, and was gravely ill". The Blessed One was petitioned by ...
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Can an objective criticism of somebodies work, which might hurt feelings, violate 'Right Speech' precept?

If we write or verbally express an objective criticism of someone's work, for e.g. if I write a bad(but honest) review of my friends movie, or if I tell my friend that I don't like her cooking (...
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What is the best strategy to confront Non-Buddhist ideology?

I am sure everybody in this world thinks that 'my religion is the only true religion' etc and its variables. As we live in a diverse society, in today's age of information we invariably bump into ...
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As a Buddhist how do I get over hatred towards my previous religion?

I am filled with genuine hatred towards my previous religion. My hatred is not directed towards other religions it's just towards my past. And this constantly bubbles up during meditation. I don't ...
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Practice of Dhamma and loss of masculinity

Since the practice of Dhamma, I have experienced a loss of masculine nature like I am almost becoming a woman. I have given up aggression, anger, I make sure I am polite, not indulge in harsh speech (...
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What is a Buddhist approach to reducing envy?

Envy is an explicitly unwholesome mind-state, according to Buddhist doctrine. Unfortunately I am experiencing strong envy lately. Can somebody please provide any and all resources to help understand ...
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Is there any biological constraint to attain Nibbana?

This question may look like a copy of this question, but I am asking in a broader sense including age limit. The historical reference of a person attaining Nibbana in oldest age is Joshu, apparently,...
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How did the Buddha subdue fear and terror while standing, sitting, etc.?

The Bhaya Bherava Sutta (MN4) states the following: ...I stayed in the sort of places that are awe-inspiring and make your hair stand on end, such as park-shrines, forest-shrines, & tree-...
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Need some pointers about the current phase

I know this is a big letter but it is important. Would really appreciate your help. My spiritual path very much goes along with my career. I knew since my school days that I never wanted to be part ...
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Health anxiety - how to deal with it?

Health anxiety is defined in the quote below. A person suffering from it may mistakenly believe certain fluctuations in bodily sensations to be dangerous or a sign of impending critical illness, and ...
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Non duality in daily life

What is this like in daily life ? How does it manifest when dealing with insults? Ambition? Materialism?
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Can you be an atheist Buddhist? [duplicate]

I know the self to be false. I accept the genera guidelines on living but I know of no real evidence about reincarnation or karma. Is it possible to accept part of this teaching? Is the teaching ' we ...
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Unintended but mindless action resulted in death of a living thing

I am very new to Buddhism and am learning the teachings, so I am reaching out. I avoid hurting any living thing at all cost, but this morning while walking my dogs I was texting and I crushed a snail. ...
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Food enchanted by spells (SN 7.8)

The Aggikasutta (SN 7.8) below states that the Buddhas do not eat food enchanted by spells i.e. food that was chanted over for the Vedic fire sacrifice. Does the Buddha reject ritually chanted over ...
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How do I practice ' see things as they are'?

Further to the answers to this question, I want to understand what literally is 'see things as they are' or as the sutta states, Yathā-bhūta-ñāna-dassana. My questions are, I understand that if I ...
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Why does the Buddha, in the Pali Canon, periodically engage in harsh speech?

Throughout the Pali Canon you can find instances where the Buddha appears to engage in harsh speech that seems to be contrary to the noble eighfold path. There are several important points/...
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Effectiveness of Body Contemplation (Asubha Bhavana)

Does someone actively practise this type of meditation for a longer period of time? I feel like that it does not really work. Is there something to keep in mind to increase its effectiveness? I think ...
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What is Aarya Upavaada?

Based on a real situation, I have come across some people who claim to be Sotapanna and Sakadaagaami.. When i have gotten angry or upset about something they said or did, i was told i am committing ...
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How to mitigate the negative karmic effect of killing

I'm a graduate student studying plant-insect interactions. My research, necessary for my degree, requires me to collect (kill) a few hundred insects. Are there any suttas, or general Buddhist ...
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What does “developed in discernment” mean?

From the Lonaphala Sutta: Now, a trifling evil act done by what sort of individual is experienced in the here & now, and for the most part barely appears for a moment? There is the case ...
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During insight meditation

During meditation consciousness of ear nose eye tongue body sensation have disappeared. No sensations for a while and start emerge of thoughts. When see the thoughts clearly there are spaces ...
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Why is third precept always translated as sexual misconduct instead of sensual addiction? [duplicate]

According to answers in this question, the third precept does not just cover sexual misconduct, but also sensual addiction for all senses (e.g. chocolate addiction), based on the translation for "...
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Avoiding inner narration while practising Anapanasati

I began meditating a few months ago with the help of guided online meditations for a long time from different sources and read some articles on how to do Anapanasati while continuing my practice. ...
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Thinking during Vipassana meditation

Please correct me if I'm wrong. From what I read, the purpose of Vipassana meditation is to get insight, and wisdom about one self, in order to achieve a better life and eventually nibanna. The ...
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Did the Buddha have advice about dealing with social anxiety?

Does anyone know if the Buddha said anything about social anxiety and how to deal with it? I believe social anxiety is common in our day and age because people are more isolated now, but may not have ...
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Did the Buddha teach meditation to lay people?

During his lifetime, did the Buddha teach meditation to lay people, or did he teach meditation only to monks? Are there any references to this in the Pali Canon or commentaries? It's clear that all ...
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Studying in nepal

A friend of mine has decided to move to Nepal,to study there. In his country there are no Nepali embassy should He contact them online? Links would be appreciated. Thanks in advance!
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Not breaking the first precept vs. developing compassion

In Theravada, we have established that eating meat does not break the first precept in many Buddhism SE questions (for example, this question and other questions linked in its comments). However, ...
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When something goes wrong

One hears of religious psychosis, with a 'Buddhist' element. As well as people who convert to or begin to study / practice Buddhism and seeming different, somehow worse; more solitary or unconcerned, ...
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What are the consequence of speaking without having got leave?

Dhammika and interested on reflecting, Coming from a basics-topic here (sadhu to work on it), my person, allows himself, "disturbing" like always, likes to push forward to actions and walk the talk ...
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What is the proper way to foster generosity and gratitude?

I can see how generosity and gratitude are important as means to foster right resolve. But what if someone do good things sometimes due a sense of obligation, but also cause much harm to you? For ...
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If Kombucha Tea (trace amounts of alcohol) is used as medicine, is it considered a breach of conduct?

I drink kombucha, a fermented and very slightly alcoholic tea, in order to ease recurring gastrointestinal distress. Although I use this drink as a tool, is it considered a breach of the fifth precept?...
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Usefulness of Madhyamaka to personal practice?

In my opinion, the Sutta Pitaka and Mahayana Agamas (the Mahayana equivalent of the Pali suttas) discuss the nature of the self (anatta, empty of self, dependent arising) in such a way that it is ...
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What is arupa jhana (5th jhana)?

When meditation experience mind without body loss sensation about the environment where I am and feel like mind is in the sky by hearing voice of birds.is it a jhana?
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Is Buddhism a religion?

I want to know that what is Buddhism and is it a religion or just a philosophy or a exercise ? I really want to know more about it , is there a book about learning Buddhism?
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Emptiness and Om

Somewhere reading the book i found something sensible like 'You think you're right , i think i'm right but at last we're neither right neither wrong.' So what is that which is neither right neither ...
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How to exercise goodwill in social circle?

Knowing that people in our social circle are not versed in the Dhamma, they seek gratification through the sense spheres (sensuality). For example, most people like to be praised and engage in idly ...
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How to view people with metta and karuna?

There are definitions of metta and karuna here: What are metta and karuna? There's a metta-bhavana meditation. I'm wondering how to practice these socially, though, e.g. as a lay person when talking ...
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Leave pain while enjoying life?

I'm really interested in Buddhism, but I have a hard time motivating myself to follow the five precepts. I don't particularly want to stop eating meat, let alone stop drinking and/or smoking. Can I ...
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Marriage and Buddhism [duplicate]

What I have read says that the cessation of all passion is one of the goals in Buddhism. However I was already married when I started this practice. How can I be a good husband and a good Buddhist at ...
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Permission of your parents in your renunciation

I have thought about this since a long time, and now I am ready for renunciation, accept teachings and practise Buddhism in a monastery. I told my parents about these future plans. They said they were ...
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Is there a Buddhist explanation for why envy manifests as hatred?

I have observed that when I am envious of somebody, I feel an impulse to malign them, and sometimes experience feelings of hostility toward them. Is there a textual explanation for this phenomenon?
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Samatha meditation feels a space at the top of the head?

When doing walking felt a space at the top of the head. After done some meditation the space began to expand .What is this?And there is a kind of a heart beat like inside the space.
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Saving the stink bug

Real question (this happened today). Imagine you're meditating by the fireplace. Outside is cold winter with snow. You have achieved a nice level of concentration, and suddenly you see a stink bug ...
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Clothes and appearance: How does it matter in daily practice?

Just yesterday my person met 'his' son, now a young man after not having seen his face for good 10 years, involved in a gender-emancipation and pseudo-liberal discussion on a social media. Now here ...