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Questions tagged [personal-practice]

Questions containing or motivated by some aspect of personal experience. The experience can be during formal Buddhist practice or during everyday activity however the experience will be related to Buddhist practice or doctrine. The questions will necessarily have a subjective quality however the question or answers will contain references to Buddhist scripture, doctrine or an established teacher.

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What is the process for cleansing a very negative action?

Several years ago I did something that was totally legal, but very much against my upbringing, my world-view, and my ethics. It was a spur of the moment thing and I have regretted it massively ever ...
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How do you balance your desire for liberation with your wordly desires?

I'm in a strange situation right now (weird for me, at least). These past few days have been intense days of reflection on the Dhamma, which generated two effects at the same time in my overall life: ...
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Validity of Meditation Experience

I have tried meditating on public transport. There, I find I meditate as sharply as when sitting formally. Yet, I find this suspect. Is it possible to believe one is concentrated and meditating ...
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How do you talk to someone whose loved one is dying?

What can you say to someone whose loved one (e.g. spouse or parent) is dying? Assume if you can that in the West, e.g. Europe and America, although people (strangers) might have heard the first thing ...
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Remaining in first jhana, while walking, talking, eating

Is it possible to attain the first jhana, then remain in first jhana, while walking, talking, eating and performing other daily activities? Or does one remain in first jhana only while in sitting ...
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Despairing About Meditative Regularity

I have set the amount of time I meditate (focused attention/shamatha) at merely 15 minutes per day. Despite this, despite all my best efforts, I seem to still skip a day or two now and then. Why is ...
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Aversion and Mahayana

I think Andrei might have commented once that the suttas are mostly about (liberation from) lobha (including craving and attachment) as a problem, and Mahayana is about dosa. That's probably an ...
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Audio guided meditation recommendations?

I know how many of you feel about guided meditations, but I am introducing meditation to some fellow university friends, and one of them is telling me he is having an incredibly hard time while ...
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Time and Frequency of Meditation

I have read psychological studies and commentaries by meditators that frequency is more important than duration for meditation. Thus, 10 minutes seven days a week is more beneficial than 70 minutes in ...
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Taking out the plank from one's own eye

Is there any equivalent quotation from the Buddhist scriptures to the following from the Christian Bible (Matthew 7:3-5)? Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no ...
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How do you pray correctly in Buddhism?

I have been calling myself a Buddhist for as long as I can remember, but I have never done it right. I notice that my mom would chant the mantras from the book, while usually I would just say anything ...
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Buddhism to change the world

According to Buddhism, should one change oneself or change the world and why.
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How important is constancy in meditation practice?

I'm going through a period of meditating every day which is not how I usually practice. Before I would meditate 5-6 times a week then deliberately not do more as I would seem to 'run dry' and lose my ...
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Maximum productive time for a meditation sit?

I've been searching around forums for the maximum time that is productive to do a single meditation sit. There are lots of comments around over 20 minute mark for effectiveness and sitting for the ...
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The kamma of silence and/or “not acting”?

Aside of Silas there is the matter of kamma which includes always the mind. What's the impact of acting "political correct" or "according to laws", Sila, while having unskilful intentions? Whould ...
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Irritation due to breathing noises in dojo

This might seem a silly question, but unfortunately I am extremely oversensitive to human noises. I don't mind meditation with the noise of traffic, or a thunderstorm, or the monotonous drone of a ...
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Is severing negative communication with an “incompatible” person a big no-no in the Buddhist pracice?

A close relative of mine who I shared the living space with has passed away recently from an unrelated injury. The relative was a good person but inherently "bossy", always getting their own way and ...
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How do you handle when someone tries to instill guilt in you?

From a perspective to hindrances to meditation this may fall under remorse and regrets, but not very apt in that sense. Using Buddhist philosophy to get over and respond, how do you handle when ...
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Moderation in meditation for lay people

Vipassana-style meditation has been adapted to treat patients to prevent recurrence of depression and anxiety through MBCT, and to treat chronic pain and stress through MBSR. More info on this can ...
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What is the Buddhist Perspective on Dreaming?

I met my family who has already died in my dream. He told me something bad about my partner. Should I believe him?
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What should I choose, Life or Nirvana?

A little personal story ahead also sorry for the long post... Story: Three years back my life was a disaster, I was as far away from Dhamma as possible, I was into the dark side of modern life. ...
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Other physical (samatha) meditation objects besides breath?

Does Buddhist samatha meditation allow for physical meditation objects other than the breath? I have noticed I feel much more contentment with the physical sensation of "back straight". Please give ...
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Is it possible to have/know explicitly other/more details about the way out of suffering than the Buddha did?

(One of the reasons for asking this question is that I thought that maybe some people needed some extra/other knowledge/insight in order for the Noble Eightfold Path to become more accessible to them.)...
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Is the experience of suffering or enjoyment equivalent or completely reducible to physics terms like “repulsion”, “attraction” etc.?

What do you think? I believe the experience of suffering or enjoyment is not reducible to physics terms like "repulsion", "attraction" etc. I cannot see "suffering" or "enjoyment" arising out of ...
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How does one know if one is destined to attain Nibbana?

How does one know if one is destined to attain Nibbana? (In future lives)
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increased body temperature during meditation

Is it common during samatha for the body temperature to rise enough to cause some isolated forms of sweating? Specifically around the head, like where a hat would set and sometimes across the upper ...
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How Lord Buddha's Way Make Me Out Of This Depression!

I don't know If I should ask this here or not. But I am depressed enough and not able to find a way to get out of this situation to live life happily as I used to do before. In my office I met a ...
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What does it mean to find a teacher?

I have seen people beeing adviced to find a teacher countless time. I am interessed in the practicalities of finding a teacher, since I live in France and I have never met any buddhist in my entire ...
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How to avoid apathy in the absence of self?

I have noticed in my meditation / mindfulness practice the following: as the idea of self dissolves, the ideas of compassion, happiness, sorrow, and basically everything that a "person" might ...
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Is there any meditation technique to develop the feeling of Gratitude?

It has occurred to me that if I have a sense of gratitude towards life and towards what has already been given to me then it's not possible to develop desires. I don't know why gratitude is not one of ...
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Too much Dhamma in modern age

Ajahn Brahm’s quite interesting position on "too much Dharma" and studying Abhidharma might be conveyed in this citation: I think of our modern age is that too much Dhamma. So much Dhamma that ...
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Why the view “I am the owner of my karma” not contradict anatta?

Why did the Buddha advise lay people and monks to think, "I am the owner of my kamma, the heir of my kamma; I have kamma as my origin, kamma as my relative, kamma as my resort; I will be the heir of ...
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How do zen practitioners balance the mix between Buddhism detachment and Taoism attachment?

On this site there's a topic Is there common ground between the Tao Te Ching and Buddhism? where one of the answers says: A commentator of the Taoist philosopher Guo Xiang's work and a Taoist ...
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A noobs balance. Where to go on my journey?

I’ll keep this short and sweet. Recently I’ve been pondering the idea of becoming a professor of Eastern Religions, particularly Buddhism. I can’t put my finger on it exactly, but something about ...
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Going to extremes?

In this answer, I wrote a little addendum that picks on a little tick that I find common amongst all kinds of Buddhists. That moderation is a virtue in and of itself without regard to what the object ...
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Swapping around the three Jewels

The Buddha stated in SN 6.2 that he doesn't have a teacher but instead look up to the Dhamma, and in MN22 he states: Bhikkhus, when the gods with Indra, with Brahmā and with Pajāpati seek a ...
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What is a skillful way to meditate in the midst of a migraine headache?

When the Bod-hisattva Quan the Am, who has been such a source of inspiration of peace workers in Viet- nam, saw into the reality of the five aggregates giving rise to emptiness of self, she was ...
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Sutta reference or teachings about Sleep timings?

In a Vipassana retreat you are made to wake up at 4 am, also similar is the case in the Zen retreat. I have read numerous articles on advantage on waking up early. Are there any Sutta references ...
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How to navigate the impracticality of Sigalovada sutra?

Consider the advice of Buddha about friends and Wife in the Siglovada Sutta. friends and colleagues so respected reciprocate with compassion in five ways: by protecting you when you are vulnerable,...
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Can a girl & a boy be friends

I didn't use to have much boys as friends but with time I made several boy friends from which some were really close. I want to know what has Lord Buddha chanted about a girl & a boy being friends?...
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How can mindfulness/awareness be employed effectively for Forgiveness?

I don't want to harbor ill-will anymore and I want to forgive others for what they did to me and also forgive myself for my past actions. So I remain aware and mindful of the thoughts of ill-will ...
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Should we feel good about life?

It was intense suffering which bought me to the path of Dhamma. But now as I practise I see that I have started defining my life through the lens of suffering. Even if I practise non-attachment and ...
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Why can't I appreciate my own life?

I am young, today I turn 23, and my life is fast. I am a research student where my work is enjoyable, changing constantly and so invoking that I lose myself in it. My friends are family are fairly ...
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As a lay follower how to deal with uncontrollable sexual urges?

I have totally refrained from sexual misconduct and after reading the answers about Masturbation to the previous question on this site I have even refrained from that. Also, I have practically zero ...
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Can meditation heal physical diseases?

I recently read the Discourse to Girimananda Thera. In it, the Venerable Girimananda was "afflicted with a disease, was suffering there from, and was gravely ill". The Blessed One was petitioned by ...
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Can an objective criticism of somebodies work, which might hurt feelings, violate 'Right Speech' precept?

If we write or verbally express an objective criticism of someone's work, for e.g. if I write a bad(but honest) review of my friends movie, or if I tell my friend that I don't like her cooking (...
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What is the best strategy to confront Non-Buddhist ideology?

I am sure everybody in this world thinks that 'my religion is the only true religion' etc and its variables. As we live in a diverse society, in today's age of information we invariably bump into ...
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As a Buddhist how do I get over hatred towards my previous religion?

I am filled with genuine hatred towards my previous religion. My hatred is not directed towards other religions it's just towards my past. And this constantly bubbles up during meditation. I don't ...
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Practice of Dhamma and loss of masculinity

Since the practice of Dhamma, I have experienced a loss of masculine nature like I am almost becoming a woman. I have given up aggression, anger, I make sure I am polite, not indulge in harsh speech (...
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What is a Buddhist approach to reducing envy?

Envy is an explicitly unwholesome mind-state, according to Buddhist doctrine. Unfortunately I am experiencing strong envy lately. Can somebody please provide any and all resources to help understand ...