Questions tagged [parents]

The first and primary caregivers, considered important in Buddhism for their service, love, and close karmic relationship to their children.

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My parents want me to get married, should I honor their request if I'm not interested in marriage?

I come from a culture where marriage is seen as a must. Both of my parents are good parents, they never harm me in anyway, took a very good care of me. I am now almost 30 and they really want me to ...
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Stories and teachings that glorify adult children and speak against toxic parenting

I have seen that in Buddhist as well as Hindu traditions, parents are considered as benevolent beings who should be venerated and put in a pedestal. Stories, verses, and myths about praises for ...
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Do I need parents' permission to renounce?

I had a dilemma for a long time and I need your help please. I’m from India, 29 years and belong to a conventional Indian family, staying with my parents. Since last 4 years, I have wished to renounce ...
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Renouncing property and wealth

My question is about supreme peace that is received from renunciation. When people renounce a major portion of their possession and title, they are believed to get supreme peace. Where I can get a ...
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How can I talk to my mother (who idle-chatters) without getting angry?

Specifically with my mother. I talk with her on the phone and when we have already talked for a while, say half an hour, she keeps talking and bringing new pointless futile topics and expanding on ...
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How should I offer a compassionate ear to my mother while setting healthy boundaries?

I hope you are all well. I have been studying Buddhism for a few months and I am very grateful for the teachings. I've visited this website frequently for similar questions and this is the first ...
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gratitude towards & repaying the debt to one's parents

Consider these two texts: https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/kn/iti/iti.4.100-112.than.html the part that contains: Mother & father, compassionate to their family, are called ...
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Devotion to parents

As a Buddhist, I believe devotion to mothers is very important if we want to have a good life. Since I was child I followed my mother's instructions until I became an adult. This included getting ...
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How to redeem a wasted youth?

I wasted my youth. I am 35 years old. I had a toxic relationship with my parents, especially my mother. My career never started and am still looking for a fresh start and finding it humiliating at my ...
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Parents suppressing the teaching

I love my parents, but for some reason they do not understand my teaching and misinterpret what I say and won't listen to me. Their misinterpretations led them to take all of my books on Buddhism I ...
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How do I practice the Dhamma in an environment where it's not supported?

My parents, try to hinder my practice of the Dhamma by verbally & aggressively putting the Dhamma down to me, almost every day. They believe I am being "brainwashed" by monks I watch online or ...
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Permission to ordain from absent father

I want to become a monk in the Theravada tradition and have already obtained permission from my mother. My father does not live with us and never has, so according to the following passage from the ...
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How should a Buddhist approach honoring parents who abused them?

As a Buddhist, we are called upon to honor our mother and father. However, how should this be applied in a situation where parents were abusive, neglectful, and harmful? When engaging the parents is ...
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What to do if parents not agree on my willing of becoming a monk? [duplicate]

I am a 24 year old male and i am very interested in joining a Buddhist monastery and becoming a monk so that i can give my life a right and peaceful purpose. But my parents follow Hinduism and think ...
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Family feuds... is there a path that walks through the fire without burning oneself?

thank you for reading this. my mother was born in a very large family. there were 10 girls, and 7 boys. There have always been feuds among the girls. Every holiday season was a mine field of whom ...
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Support for Parents

In the Mangala Sutta, the Buddha says that one of the highest blessing is to support one's parents. Was this just meant for the lay people? Because elsewhere, he praises solitude and being alone in ...
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Duty to parents?

There are maybe 80 questions about 'parents' already but perhaps this one hasn't been asked. What are a Buddhist's responsibilities or duties towards their parents? Listen to advice? Do what they ...
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Permission of your parents in your renunciation

I have thought about this since a long time, and now I am ready for renunciation, accept teachings and practise Buddhism in a monastery. I told my parents about these future plans. They said they were ...
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Fathersday - how would a western disciple of the Buddha make use of this fest?

How and why would a "modern" or "western" follower of the Buddhas teaching celebrate this day, and use it to pay gratitude to his father as one of his/here first God and the other three Gods? Maybe ...
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What are the benefits of caring parents?

The Dhamma says that not helping parents is evil and preaches to take care of the elderly parents. What can be some positive outcomes the children will get by helping the parents?
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Asking about Parent-Child relationship karma. Is it bad if I don't wanna go visit my dad?

My parent seperated since I was young and I was rise by my mom. Right now my dad is not in a good condition and unfortunately my aunt and uncle from my dad's side doesn't like me much. Too be honest I ...
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How to develop compassion while avoiding attachment?

The Buddha stressed compassion in his teachings. It seems that the more one tries to be compassionate towards people, a natural tendency of attachment develops. For example, it seems that if I try to ...
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Can bad kammas be eased by apologizing?

For example if I have lied to my parents and can the bad kamma be deleted when I apologize to them? What is the difference between the bad kamma that are committed to parents and ordinary people?
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Not listening to parents is bad karma?

This is something that I keep hearing from my grandmother that annoys me so much. Although I am of age (26 to be precise), I am still expected to listen to almost every word that my parents say (at ...
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Is it fair to ordain a child even when they refuse?

Based on the knowledge I have the only law for a layman in Buddhism is that no child can be ordained without the permission of the parents. However, something I see in this society (especially in ...
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Metta for dead father

During a meditation I have practiced Metta, as I have learned it, I sent Metta to; myself a good friend a "neutral" person a difficult person all four of the above equally and then gradually the ...
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What is correct punishment for children?

If you see advising doesn't work with a child, are there acceptable punishments mentioned in Buddhism? I know that Buddhism does not accept physical punishment, so I am asking about any other form of ...
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Is there anything one can do to save the deceased from the consequences of their Kamma?

I generally had the understanding that there is no way one can save the deceased from the consequences of their Kamma. At most, we can send Metta to the deceased which may comfort them wherever they ...
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Is there any mention of child adoption in any Buddhist writings and what is the view on child adoption with regard to Buddhism?

Being married, I have of late been coming across the dilemma of whether to have a child or not and if yes, if a biological child or not (which by itself may be another question which I may ask ...
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Fun teaching techniques for children meditation class

Can someone help ? i am looking for fun teaching of meditation and Buddhist teaching from age 4 ~ 13 old. Also help with morality, environmental protection, chanting, Buddhist religion's etiquette ...
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How to talk to a friend about "lack of control" in what happens to her son?

I know a friend, who doesn't practice buddhism, and who is always worried about her young son. She is always concerned about everything that could go wrong, or things which could happen out of her ...
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A Good Career for a Buddhist?

I am a business woman and my job is stressful. It is entirely motivated by greed. I want to leave my career but I have a dream to help poor people in my country and also to make my parents proud of me....
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Suggestions for Buddhist themed crafts and activities for children

I organise an afternoon where we invite parents and children to out my local Buddhist centre. I put on some craft type activity for the children and then we do a mini reflection and a story. The ...
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Should a Buddhist advocate the learning of a martial art?

I'm listening to a lecture series about child development and in the first lecture it advocates teaching children martial arts as an aid to enhancing their self-control. I would quite like my daughter ...
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Does having a child has a negative/positive impact in karma?

The question aims towards to creating a new life and not to the desire from which said life is concived. Other way of this question would be: the act of giving a life which can be seen as a being with ...
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Teaching Buddhist concepts to a child

The post here specifically refers to introducing Buddhism to a child as well as meditation and recitals. The question i am seeking to answer though is the introduction of concepts such as clinging, ...
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How the Buddha retained his awareness?

The Buddha (siddhartha, as per me) was a human being. He felt pain, happiness, dullness, recession for himself, his family(age-wise) and other one's and etc. How he retained his awareness? Was there ...
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How do you tell a 4-year-old who the Buddha was?

I'm in the process of organising a family day at my Local Buddhist Centre. I'll be taking my 4-year-old daughter with me and she will once again ask me who is the Buddha? Previously I have always ...
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How to explain what Buddhism is?

My mother and I come from a non-Buddhist culture/background/society/country/family. At one point when I had an opportunity to explain to her what Buddhism is, I was doing well (i.e. she was listening ...
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Do monks not have responsibility towards parents and family?

In this age, getting enlightened is not sought after by many as in Buddhas era. So I assume it must be harder for parents to accept such a decision. But monks who decide to ordain also have ...
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Ordination and support from parents

If one intends to ordain, say in Thailand, and one lives in India - would it be right/moral to ask support from one's parents (since one is not yet ready/able to support oneself)?
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What does the Pali canon, and other respected work, teach about parenting?

What does the Pali canon, and other respected work, teach about parenting, particularly early fatherhood? In particular the many possibilities for dukkha which arise?
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Can a person reach enlightment living an average life, married with children?

As the Bodhisattva had to leave his wife and son behind to become the Buddha and as the monks do a similar thing (avoiding marriage etc), I would like to know if this is some kind of precondition to ...
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Why do Buddhists have children? [duplicate]

In Buddhism they teach that life is suffering, that it's all about pain (which is true) and that you should try your best to achieve Nirvana and become someone who won't have any more rebirths. This ...
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Should a Buddhist pay homage/bend to his parents?

I once heard we should pay homage (bending, prostrating or some similar) to our parents on their birthday. If that is correct, for who else should we pay homage/bend to? Monks and parents only?
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Should a Buddhist have Children?

In Buddhism having a rebirth is itself a origin of all the Dukhhas. Doesn't it imply that Buddhist laymen who are married should not have children to stop this cycle of rebirth. This leads to a more ...
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Relationship with bad parents (kamma and issues)

One of the main sources of bad kamma in Buddhism is doing wrong to your parents and not taking care of them. Buddha said it is very very hard to repay your parents, however how should one behave if he ...
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How to combine Buddhism with being a parent?

Buddhist philosophy says that we shouldn't get attached and try to form bonds with something and desire or crave it because everything is essentially impermanent and this will lead to suffering. But ...
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How and when should a child be introduced to Buddhism?

My son will be four soon. I would like to introduce him to Buddhist philosophy, and some meditation practices. However, stillness is, at this point, completely foreign to his personality :) My wife ...
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How to help non-Buddhists understand a young person's desire to be ordained as a monk?

Many non-Buddhists do not understand the appeal or the benefits of becoming a monk. They may not be able to understand why one would want to live such a simple life, and they may not take the decision ...
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