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Should I limit the time I do metta?

Metta feels great. It is unconditional love on tap. So, could there be too much of it? It is addicting.
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What is the difference between 'compassion' and 'pity'?

This page of Dhamma Lists includes, Four Brahma-viharas (Highest Attitudes/Emotions) Heavenly or sublime abodes (best home). Near enemy is a quality that can masquerade as the original, but is ...
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How do we unconditionally love and wish people the best?

Deep down, I know there is a core that wants to love everyone for who they are. No matter who they are to me, the world, no matter how terrible of a person they are, no matter how much they make me ...
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What does Buddhism say about dealing with negative people?

I live and work around a person (relative) whom is constantly negative in my life. He always belittles me about what I do, and whenever I succeed at something, he claims it was luck. When I fail at ...
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How can I become less affected by politics?

since I started my buddhist practice some five years ago, I have made great advancements. I think I've become much more accepting and loving towards others. I used to be cynical and arrogant and I ...
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How to view people with metta and karuna?

There are definitions of metta and karuna here: What are metta and karuna? There's a metta-bhavana meditation. I'm wondering how to practice these socially, though, e.g. as a lay person when talking ...
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How does metta sutra develop loving kindness

Metta sutra says "May all living beings be happy minded." This seems illogical to me as all living beings cannot be happy minded at a particular moment of time. I also feel that contemplating on ...
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Conceptual reality, mettā, ignorance

According to some commentaries/abhidhamma, all unwholesome states are rooted in ignorance; that ignorance is, according to Pa Auk Sayadaw, the ignorance that sees things as concepts, e.g., a man a ...
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Unfriendly and unapproachable faces - Metta Practices

I'm kind of curious, some people may have looked a little aloof and cold from the outside, and get commented on this too but deep down she/he isn't like this. She/he are probably just quiet and doesn'...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

There seems to be this ongoing debate both within the Buddhist Tradition itself and with the world-at-large as to how a practitioner should relate to the world. The Buddha himself forsook his family ...
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What *is* intrinsically real? Is the "unconditioned", "absolute", or "ultimate" intrinsically real?

To better see the relative, insubstantial nature of phenomena, maybe it is helpful to think about this another way, that is, seeing what is not relative, not conditioned, not empty. It has been said ...
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Killer Neighbors

Namo Buddhaya! My neighbor is a hardcore Christian & is a very nice man, the only thing is that he goes outside every once & a while with a water gun & kills insects (and even shoots ...
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I have some metta problem

I have personal problems with the metta practice. I would say may I/you be happy and I would go in this wish fulfilment mode. Imagining myself and others happy would create a jinni in the bottle ...
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Can loving kindness, compassion and sympathetic joy be developed through Vipassana meditation?

As far as I understand, Vipassana meditation trains attention and equanimity. Which makes sense because you are basically doing body scans all the time and remaining equanimous to bodily sensations, ...
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What's the role of altruism in Buddhism?

In discussions about how to translate words such as averena (a negation of some quality), I've seen two general kinds of answer: or the compound word is not just the negation of the suffix, but its ...
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What is the view of Buddhism in correcting others' view in spite of their willingness to accept it?

I have these questions: If an enlightened mind sees that helping someone is beneficial to them, then would they do it even when the helped doesn't proactively ask? If they are hated by the helped, ...
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Does practicing Brahmavihara to get insights leads to Nibbana?

I read the books of Bhante Vimalaramsi that is using the practice of Brahmavihara to reach a state that is called Tranquil Aware Jhana and then to generate insights from the fourth rupa Jhana. Has ...
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To hell with metta - how to understand AN4.125?

Quote from Aṅguttara Nikāya 4.125 Paṭhamamettāsutta: Firstly, a person meditates spreading a heart full of love [...] If they abide in that, are committed to it, and meditate on it often without ...
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Resistance to Loving-Kindness

I have been continuing my meditation practice, and I feel there would be a great benefit from switching to a metta practice instead of breath. Yet, with metta, a strange phenomenon occurs. I am ...
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How do I practice the Dhamma in an environment where it's not supported?

My parents, try to hinder my practice of the Dhamma by verbally & aggressively putting the Dhamma down to me, almost every day. They believe I am being "brainwashed" by monks I watch online or ...
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Does this statement by Buddhadasa Bhikkhu conflict with traditional mettā meditation?

I'm a beginner and I'm studying (and trying to practice) both meditation on breathing and mettā meditation, and in the book Anapanasati by Buddhadasa Bhikkhu, which i'm following with some initial ...
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How to do metta for a long time (before sleep)?

Usually i do a short metta after vipassana - saying good wishes to myself than to someone close than to people i like lsess and less and in the end include all beings i want to do metta before ...
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Can homosexual monks or nuns ordain, if not WHY?

Namo Buddhaya! (I am a Theravada Buddhist) The Vinaya says monks & nuns cannot be together in private (it would be an offense). But what if someone is a homosexual, how would they go about ...
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Are loving-kindness and compassion (metta and karuna) special kind of attachments?

To alleviate someone from suffering, Buddhism teaches one to practice mettā karuṇā. But it seems to me that to thinking good about someone and wish them the best, we need to have a better version of ...
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How do I deal with Aversion?

I practice the Dhamma & I try hard to show loving-kindness, but I end up sometimes getting very mad at people or irritated. I try Metta meditation, but is there anything else I can do to try and ...
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The Animal Plane & Evolution?

(Please Theravada perspective if possible) NAMO TASSA BAGAVATO ARAHANTO SAMMA-SAMBUDDHASA (I am not fluent, forgive errors) These are my following questions: Do animals feel emotions just like ...
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The Justice Thought & System & its Morals?

Namo Buddhaya! Here are my questions regarding justice systems & their morals: Would it be skillful & moral to report someone to a principle, a police officer, or any sort of authority ...
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How can one avoid the suffering after getting cheated?

Today I suffered severe disappointment because I thought I was cheated some amount of money. I couldn't complain to anyone because I had no proof. And I suspect those who cheated me will also cheat ...
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Fastest way to Samadhi

I have heard that Metta Meditation is the fastest way to a samadhi mind. How effectively fast is it? How is Metta properly cultivated as a meditation? As in how to develop the Vitakka Vicara on metta ...
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metta, anxiety, and anger

I have been practicing mindful breathing for about one or two sittings a day, and done a few retreats. I have a big problem with metta, even directed at myself. after trying to practice metta I often ...
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How to inculcate metta in me?

Metta was natural to me when I was young. I didn't give much thought to it then. Now I find it difficult. So many thoughts come when I want to donate to charity like, is it a recognized charitable ...
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How are metta and dana related?

In accord to Dhamma, What is appropriate to give oneself? What is appropriate to give to others? Does dana ever go to oneself? Could oneself be seen impersonally as another that needs dana? ...
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Reconciling metta & avoiding fools/immoral people

The Buddha repeatedly said to avoid ignorant, immoral people as much as possible, but isn't this - at least a little - opposed to kindness? I associate kindness with being benevolent, caring & ...
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Metta towards a non-sentient entity or substance (e.g. rice)?

Is there a Buddhist tradition or practice, which involves developing or showing metta towards a non-sentient entity ... for example, towards a jar of rice? If not, why not? Is it theoretically ...
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What are the different meditation types & how to do them?

I know there are many types of meditation, but can someone help clarify the following questions on meditation: - What types of meditation is essential for the practice & why? - How do those types ...
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Is it possible to exercise Metta to all or is Metta only a mental state only? If so how does one act to remain dispassionate?

Love, I mean the common one which cares only to the beloved and is indifferent to others, is accessible to many, but as I understand it this is the near enemy of Metta, not truly Metta. My question is ...
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I hate human beings how can I develop metta? [duplicate]

I don't like human beings because of their ego centric nature. They have destroyed nature- plants, species, morality, love, harmony etc. I just wish whole human species vanish or come to end. They ...
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A few quetions on metta

I was practicing metta meditation today and the thought came up: "What if your wish for happiness for one person (Person A) causes another to suffer indirectly (person B)?" My understanding of the ...
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what is the love described in Buddhism?

I heard from Buddhist monks love is "kamachannda" and definitly a "Klesha"(hindrance).When I analyze the definition of love in in Oxford Dictionary it states; An intense feeling of deep affection(a ...
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Anapanasati and Compassion

I'm wondering basically whether anapanasati can result in as much compassion as metta. Though the focus is different, can these two meditations have the same potential for altruism? Does meditating on ...
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Not doing anything

q: Is not doing anything in a situation and just being mindful breaking any of the precepts?
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Different lyings

Here are my questions: Can lying be nonverbal? like in action? Is cheating lying? Is writing the wrong answer when you know the correct answer lying? Is skipping the line cheating, ...
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Compassion's Unity

My question is two-fold. First, I believe that metta is classified as a meditation object involving concentration. Yet, in this study, researchers suggest it is a mixture of focused attention (e.g. ...
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Most effective meditation techniques to develop empathy, love and compassion for others?

I feel like a very cold and sensual person. Easily attracted to sensual pleasure but very cold and numb when it comes to bonding with other human beings. I want to change, and therefore I want to make ...
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Am I feeling pity or compassion?

I'm confused. The 50+ year old nanny whom I hired to take care of my firstborn has just resigned a week ago. Before she left, I willingly gave her about 25% more than the salary we agreed upon. I also ...
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Zazen for metta reasons

Is it OK to use zazen for the purposes one would use metta meditation? Because I don't want to do any meditation except zazen.
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Jhana Explaination [duplicate]

Namo Buddhaya! Can someone please SIMPLY explain the EIGHT Jhanas, specifically: 1) What are Jhanas meant to do & why would one want to achieve them? 2) How does one specifically achieve ...
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Going to a Catholic School

Namo tassa bagavato arahanto samma sambuddhasa (Sorry, I am not fluent) I go to a Catholic High School & I have a theology class that preaches only their truths & say it is the supreme truth ...
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Arahants, Precepts, Monasticism, & Worldly Things [closed]

Namo Buddhaya! I had four questions pertaining to conduct & the Buddha: (I am Theravāda Buddhist) How could the Buddha have been on this Earth as an Arahant if Arahants can only be reborn in a ...
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Permanent Matter?

My friend told this to me & now I am confused. Isn't the amount of matter in the universe the same, no less, nor more, because nothing is ever lost, nor created, everything causes everything,...