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What kind of life is required for practicing Metta?

Here's the quote from Karaniya Metta Sutta: "This is to be done by one skilled in aims who wants to break through to the state of peace: Be capable, upright, & straightforward, easy to ...
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The Justice Thought & System & its Morals?

Namo Buddhaya! Here are my questions regarding justice systems & their morals: Would it be skillful & moral to report someone to a principle, a police officer, or any sort of authority ...
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Anapanasati and Compassion

I'm wondering basically whether anapanasati can result in as much compassion as metta. Though the focus is different, can these two meditations have the same potential for altruism? Does meditating on ...
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Can homosexual monks or nuns ordain, if not WHY?

Namo Buddhaya! (I am a Theravada Buddhist) The Vinaya says monks & nuns cannot be together in private (it would be an offense). But what if someone is a homosexual, how would they go about ...
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Arahants, Precepts, Monasticism, & Worldly Things [closed]

Namo Buddhaya! I had four questions pertaining to conduct & the Buddha: (I am Theravāda Buddhist) How could the Buddha have been on this Earth as an Arahant if Arahants can only be reborn in a ...
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Handling Poisons?

Please help with these questions! :) What is the most skillful way to handle someone who is angry? What is the most skillful way to handle someone who is deluded? What is the most ...
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Killer Neighbors

Namo Buddhaya! My neighbor is a hardcore Christian & is a very nice man, the only thing is that he goes outside every once & a while with a water gun & kills insects (and even shoots ...
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Going to a Catholic School

Namo tassa bagavato arahanto samma sambuddhasa (Sorry, I am not fluent) I go to a Catholic High School & I have a theology class that preaches only their truths & say it is the supreme truth ...
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Avoiding debates & looking into Planes/realms

What should I do if a lot of my friends and family are trying to prove Buddhism wrong with the laws of impermanence or planes of existence, & I do not want to debate this with them as I do not ...
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Permanent Matter?

My friend told this to me & now I am confused. Isn't the amount of matter in the universe the same, no less, nor more, because nothing is ever lost, nor created, everything causes everything,...
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The Animal Plane & Evolution?

(Please Theravada perspective if possible) NAMO TASSA BAGAVATO ARAHANTO SAMMA-SAMBUDDHASA (I am not fluent, forgive errors) These are my following questions: Do animals feel emotions just like ...
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How do I practice the Dhamma in an environment where it's not supported?

My parents, try to hinder my practice of the Dhamma by verbally & aggressively putting the Dhamma down to me, almost every day. They believe I am being "brainwashed" by monks I watch online or ...
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What are the different meditation types & how to do them?

I know there are many types of meditation, but can someone help clarify the following questions on meditation: - What types of meditation is essential for the practice & why? - How do those types ...
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How do I deal with Aversion?

I practice the Dhamma & I try hard to show loving-kindness, but I end up sometimes getting very mad at people or irritated. I try Metta meditation, but is there anything else I can do to try and ...
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Mental Release from Breath Versus Metta

I asked a friend who is a meditator about my practice of compassion, and he suggested I do breathing meditation because it helps liberate the mind from overthinking, as well as relaxes the person. ...
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How does metta sutra develop loving kindness

Metta sutra says "May all living beings be happy minded." This seems illogical to me as all living beings cannot be happy minded at a particular moment of time. I also feel that contemplating on ...
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Gratitude, Movement and Compassion

I noticed all the emotions mentioned in the title have a certain similarity. Does Buddhism talk about movement or gratitude? Similarly, movement seems to occur spontaneously, but gratitude and ...
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Compassion's Unity

My question is two-fold. First, I believe that metta is classified as a meditation object involving concentration. Yet, in this study, researchers suggest it is a mixture of focused attention (e.g. ...
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According to the Dhamma monks have no rights?

There is the case where a monk is content with any old robe cloth at all. He speaks in praise of being content with any old robe cloth at all. He does not, for the sake of robe cloth, do anything ...
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Reconciling metta & avoiding fools/immoral people

The Buddha repeatedly said to avoid ignorant, immoral people as much as possible, but isn't this - at least a little - opposed to kindness? I associate kindness with being benevolent, caring & ...
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I have some metta problem

I have personal problems with the metta practice. I would say may I/u be happy and i woulg go in this wish fulfilment mode. Imagining myself and others happy would create a jinni in the bottle ...
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Question about metta

Does metta mean that we should not ignore people? Is it possible to forcefully and assertively tell people their wrong doings? What about scolding? My reservation: If one always remains kind it's ...
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Anapanasati and Metta

Background Hi all, i have been practicing Metta and self-compassion meditation for a while but have just switched (back) to following the first couple of exercises in the Anapanasati Sutta (...
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What *is* intrinsically real? Is the “unconditioned”, “absolute”, or “ultimate” intrinsically real?

To better see the relative, insubstantial nature of phenomena, maybe it is helpful to think about this another way, that is, seeing what is not relative, not conditioned, not empty. It has been said ...
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Most effective meditation techniques to develop empathy, love and compassion for others?

I feel like a very cold and sensual person. Easily attracted to sensual pleasure but very cold and numb when it comes to bonding with other human beings. I want to change, and therefore I want to make ...
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Can loving kindness, compassion and sympathetic joy be developed through Vipassana meditation?

As far as I understand, Vipassana meditation trains attention and equanimity. Which makes sense because you are basically doing body scans all the time and remaining equanimous to bodily sensations, ...
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How can one avoid the suffering after getting cheated?

Today I suffered severe disappointment because I thought I was cheated some amount of money. I couldn't complain to anyone because I had no proof. And I suspect those who cheated me will also cheat ...
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Am I feeling pity or compassion?

I'm confused. The 50+ year old nanny whom I hired to take care of my firstborn has just resigned a week ago. Before she left, I willingly gave her about 25% more than the salary we agreed upon. I also ...
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Metta phrases about safety in ancient and modern times

Background I've been practicing with metta phrases adapted from the Visuddhimagga, and i've seen the same thing in other places: Part of the meditations focuses on safety, which is perhaps not as ...
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Is it possible to exercise Metta to all or is Metta only a mental state only? If so how does one act to remain dispassionate?

Love, I mean the common one which cares only to the beloved and is indifferent to others, is accessible to many, but as I understand it this is the near enemy of Metta, not truly Metta. My question is ...
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Does this statement by Buddhadasa Bhikkhu conflict with traditional mettā meditation?

I'm a beginner and I'm studying (and trying to practice) both meditation on breathing and mettā meditation, and in the book Anapanasati by Buddhadasa Bhikkhu, which i'm following with some initial ...
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what is the love described in Buddhism?

I heard from Buddhist monks love is "kamachannda" and definitly a "Klesha"(hindrance).When I analyze the definition of love in in Oxford Dictionary it states; An intense feeling of deep affection(a ...
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How to view people with metta and karuna?

There are definitions of metta and karuna here: What are metta and karuna? There's a metta-bhavana meditation. I'm wondering how to practice these socially, though, e.g. as a lay person when talking ...
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How to do metta for a long time (before sleep)?

Usually i do a short metta after vipassana - saying good wishes to myself than to someone close than to people i like lsess and less and in the end include all beings i want to do metta before ...
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Is it common for Buddhists in eastern countries to be close-minded and lacking in diversity? [closed]

I have noticed a definite tendency for Buddhists east of Great Britain to be very narrow-minded and conservative compared to those further west. The same effect is noticeable in the United States ...
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What is one's relationship with the world upon attaining Nirvana (and how do we work to get there)

There seems to be this ongoing debate both within the Buddhist Tradition itself and with the world-at-large as to how a practitioner should relate to the world. The Buddha himself forsook his family ...
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Metta towards a non-sentient entity or substance (e.g. rice)?

Is there a Buddhist tradition or practice, which involves developing or showing metta towards a non-sentient entity ... for example, towards a jar of rice? If not, why not? Is it theoretically ...
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I hate human beings how can I develop metta? [duplicate]

I don't like human beings because of their ego centric nature. They have destroyed nature- plants, species, morality, love, harmony etc. I just wish whole human species vanish or come to end. They ...
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Sending metta to fictional charcters ?

Is there a point sending metta to fictional characters like in a movie or a computer game ?
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How can I become less affected by politics?

since I started my buddhist practice some five years ago, I have made great advancements. I think I've become much more accepting and loving towards others. I used to be cynical and arrogant and I ...
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Fastest way to Samadhi

I have heard that Metta Meditation is the fastest way to a samadhi mind. How effectively fast is it? How is Metta properly cultivated as a meditation? As in how to develop the Vitakka Vicara on metta ...
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References on Rupa and Arupa Jhana through Brahma Vihara

I am looking for freely available resource on achievement of Jhana through Brahmavihara. What are such references? Also I would like to dig deeper into what Bhanthe Vimalasiri has written on the ...
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Does practicing Brahmavihara to get insights leads to Nibbana?

I read the books of Bhante Vimalaramsi that is using the practice of Brahmavihara to reach a state that is called Tranquil Aware Jhana and then to generate insights from the fourth rupa Jhana. Has ...
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metta, anxiety, and anger

I have been practicing mindful breathing for about one or two sittings a day, and done a few retreats. I have a big problem with metta, even directed at myself. after trying to practice metta I often ...
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How to inculcate metta in me?

Metta was natural to me when I was young. I didn't give much thought to it then. Now I find it difficult. So many thoughts come when I want to donate to charity like, is it a recognized charitable ...
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Unfriendly and unapproachable faces - Metta Practices

I'm kind of curious, some people may have looked a little aloof and cold from the outside, and get commented on this too but deep down she/he isn't like this. She/he are probably just quiet and doesn'...
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Should I limit the time I do metta?

Metta feels great. It is unconditional love on tap. So, could there be too much of it? It is addicting.
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What does Buddhism say about dealing with negative people?

I live and work around a person (relative) whom is constantly negative in my life. He always belittles me about what I do, and whenever I succeed at something, he claims it was luck. When I fail at ...
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A few quetions on metta

I was practicing metta meditation today and the thought came up: "What if your wish for happiness for one person (Person A) causes another to suffer indirectly (person B)?" My understanding of the ...
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Conceptual reality, mettā, ignorance

According to some commentaries/abhidhamma, all unwholesome states are rooted in ignorance; that ignorance is, according to Pa Auk Sayadaw, the ignorance that sees things as concepts, e.g., a man a ...