Questions tagged [lay-buddhism]

Otherwise known as the householder path, the lay buddhist path is a path for non-monastic buddhists.

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"Dealing" with extremely superstitious people

This applies to all superstitious people in general, but especially to someone very close. My mom is extremely ignorant and superstitious. She comes from an uneducated village background from a third ...
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I'm feeling hopeless about life after nearly leaving Buddhism in order to marry

I was born a layman. I tried to have a loving life, but my partner wanted me to convert to her religion (Islam) to marry. I was ready to do so. When she left me, I realised how silly I was. Now I'm ...
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What's the roadmap to reach nirvana?

Considering I don't know anything about Buddhism expect it leads to something precious called Nirvana, what should be my approach to reach there? From my experience in academics I believe reaching the ...
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I am asking personal help, what is dragging me back?

Recently had an interview in which I didn't gave my 100 percent, it was failure but I am not new to it. But this time something different happened I was shaking from inside, and negative thoughts ...
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How do someone find romantic love?

As someone in his 30s, I wish to find a partner to grow old with. At the same time, it’s quite stressful that nowadays my family and friends are constantly pushing me to find someone quickly as I am ...
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How to increase my potential in daimoku?

What if i cant chaant on a regular basis ? I want to increase my number of hours and i don't understand how to do it ?
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Nibbana and correct view of Vijnana and Jhana

My Vijnana view from advaita Vedanta is deep and ingrained, it is false I know it but I need help to improve it because I read long time about conciousness the self I read much like these things like ...
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Where does morality come from in Buddhism?

I have a hypothetical question. Let's say I don't believe in karma, reincarnation, or any deities of any sort. I also saw in some texts and videos that, to achieve higher awareness, I should not ...
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Making a true promise "on the dharma"

Is making a true promise, on the dharma, good karma? Not asking about the precepts per se, but it was about precept centred behaviour (a lack of infidelity etc. from me): and now I feel blissed out, ...
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Did the Buddha appear for the sake of the immoral?

Mark 2:17 of the Bible says: And when Jesus heard it, he said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners.” Did ...
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What is vritti in buddhism?

Those yoga sutras of Patanjali and have come across called vritti. It's like a whirlpool in the mind not ocean. But what is the equivalent of vritti in Buddhism?
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Lying while playing a game

I have been looking into Buddhism and this is the question I found hard to answer. I do understand that lying in Buddhism is breaking the 4th precept. I also know that in case lying is required in ...
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Buddha's view on sexuality

In contemporary society (apart from religion) sex is mostly seen as something pleasurable, which is done even without considering childbearing. As far as I can see, Buddha taught extensively to lay ...
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Are there any differences between living in a meditation centre vs a monastery?

With all due appreciation for all positive interventions and with apologies for a seemingly dilettantish question, does anyone have any insight on the differences as well as on the commonalities of ...
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How do I practice not-self or Anatta whilst talking?

The Buddha has taught the concept of 'not self' (anatta) - which comes into play when we are dealing with our body, feelings, perceptions etc, to think that it's not actually 'my' body, or 'my ...
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Inferiority and being judged by other

I have been all my life judged by people, especially women including my sister and mom. I have also been rejected badly by some women or at least I made wrong judgements to feel that way. My question ...
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The Sangha extinguished, the Dhamma sold out: what now?

It's hard to imagine that there is any valid and not actually defeat group of monks out their, Dhamma has been sold out, reformed, reproduced and shared by blind. AI will soon be, or is already, your ...
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Is there a set of daily reminders and daily reflections one can contemplate on?

I am trying have a routine and life style that help me learn and practice dharma. I came across videos on YouTube where a monk from Thailand talked about evening routines, daily reminders etc. which ...
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Loneliness in Buddhism

I am wondering what is the antidote to loneliness, or the approach towards it, within Buddhism. I am finding myself quite lonely despite being previously familiar and at ease with solitude. I am ...
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Does the Samajivina Sutta imply that a Buddhist should only marry another Buddhist?

Does the Samajivina Sutta imply that a Buddhist should only marry another Buddhist? Or does it leave room for Buddhists to marry non-Buddhists?
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Building discipline & willpower from scratch

I have been smoking for about 5 years now. I never really 'started' one day, but it just made my day to day life more enjoyable, and it did so consistently, so I never had a reason to stop. Recently, ...
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Why lay people should give alms?

I do know alms giving is a chance for lay people to do good deeds, however I do not see the right intention of the monk. I feel the compassion is one sided. A lay person becomes homeless not because ...
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Can an art career distract from the Buddhist path?

I have aspired to be an artist since adolescence. I saw a Studio Ghibli movie and wanted to create that same magical feeling in others. However more recently, I think I have may have aspired only to ...
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What's the role of "blameless" in the Dhamma?

The word "blameless" is often used in suttas: https://www.google.com/search?q=blameless%20site%3Aaccesstoinsight.org AN 4.62 suggests it's highly good: Seeing clearly — the wise one — he ...
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How to deal with immense guilt over past acts of cruelty? Is sincere repentance and striving really enough?

I won't go into details, but I am dealing with horrible guilt and shame over cruel acts I have committed in the past. It feels like I am now come to terms with the significance of these actions, and ...
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Can reincarnation be proved with using a mixture of logic, science, and philosophical belief?

Let's go through the logic first. The following statements are suppositions that must be chronologically accepted. Matter is neither created nor destroyed. Matter is made up of atoms. I am made up of ...
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Personality and Conditioning?

The bulk of my personality is made up of other people's beliefs about what is lacking. These core beliefs rise up like bubbles and when the attention is placed on them, they burst into a rather coarse ...
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Mastery of skills outside the Buddhist path and desire

I have run into a mental trap about desire on the Buddhist path. I know desire is good if it is wholesome, ie say desire for enlightenment and etc. Yet what about a desire for the mastery of a skill ...
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Mindfulness in lay work

Mindfulness requires being non judgemental, but what should one do when the work requires judgement where a standard needs maintained? Is there a form of objective judgement that that can be used like ...
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Does "sunnata" mean "empty of your self"?

I read on the internet the following doctrinal statement regarding Buddhist Philosophy: Furthermore, they believe that the dhammas are "not empty" because they are merely empty of "...
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How to deal with anxiety associated with surroundings/environment?

I have moved to a big city from a suburban area recently. I hardly have to go outside home. Because of the current covid restrictions, I do WFH. I used to go cycling or walking everyday before. But ...
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Buddhist meditation for intrusive thoughts and anxiety

I struggle with anxiety and intrusive thoughts and I've found that meditation helps a lot to calm my restless mind. I am familiar with key concepts of Buddhism. I read a tiny bit about it directly and ...
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irrational fear of hell and damnation and spiralling, please help me?

I've posted on this Q&A site before when my grandmother just passed away, and some of the answers here really helped me feel a lot better and eased my fear enough for me to go back to my normal ...
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What are some of the ways to practice confidence/ self-confidence?

In many Buddhist doctrines, confidence or self-confidence is thought as a virtue. I am still struggling to see how it does not contradict with arrogance or pride. A few expansions are: "...
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Xin Ling Fa Men 心灵法门 - New "Buddhism"?

I've seen Master Lu live, i noticed this but not all agreed and their services are everywhere in the town So, i visited few temples and many of their members to understand more about this and the ...
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How do you know if you are competent in your job?

To my understanding, Buddhism teaches humility, humbleness. I am trying to practice this quality. But I have started to feel that no matter what I do, I am not good enough. How do you know whether you ...
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Online Funeral vs Actual Funeral (Buddhism)

This post is relevant to Buddhist Funeral Process Can i do it online like playing the recorded video as below with nice TV and nice sound system ? Funeral Chanting - Theravada Buddhism - Pali - ...
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Is there any consolation to have arrived at the Buddha dharma?

At times when the mind is critical of not having achieved the samsaric goals, is there any consolation to have arrived at the Buddha dharma, especially from a non-Buddhist background? If so, how will ...
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Ex-monk reliable Teacher?

While even most teacher today are ex-monks (someone who rejected the refuge and went back to the lower life), isn't it clear that such a person has own problems with his faith? How could one ...
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Non-striving and happiness

I have only an informal understanding of Buddhism, so please excuse the informal language used in this question. My intent is to understand Buddhism better, and I welcome any answers or resources that ...
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What is the best distance for kasina meditation between person and object?

Some websites show that it is ideal to get 1.5 m distance between the person and the kasina object. Is there any science behind the recommendation to get that specific distance?
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When it comes to commercial products, is there harm to choosing a more beautiful and well-designed option?

I am new to buddhism and this is my first question here. I hope I can provide something of value and that I am clear in my phrasing. So I have recently started learning about the teachings of the ...
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What is Buddhism's view on curse?

I have read various mythological and histories about curse where it has destroyed kingdoms and kings. Does curse have that power? If so, how it can be explained in relation to karma? What is Buddhism'...
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Why Become Buddhist?

I am interested in Theravada Buddhism. What are some concrete reasons as to why one should become a Buddhist?
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Compulsive desire to correct others

I'm often trying to correct others' views, opinions, and lifestyles. I feel a strong urge to correct when their actions are clearly bringing negative consequences for themselves and others. For ...
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I'm scared of the universe

So here is a quick "disclaimer": I know that the Buddha didn't answer metaphysical questions since it made no sense to him. He wanted to afaik limit/remove suffering as much as possible. Also I know ...
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Is it ok to eat after midnight after observing the 8 precepts?

if I observe the 8 precepts today,fast in the afternoon and eat at 12am the next day, is it considered a sin?
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Is there a point to delaying detrimental behaviours?

I noticed that for me, it is very difficult to cease certain behaviours, such as eating junk food for example. Does Buddhism suggest a benefit to delaying such behaviours to later in the day, as ...
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Attitude towards harmful behaviors

Whenever I'm confronted with behaviours I find potentially harmful, I get angry. One example of this is when I witness motorists speeding or otherwise making risky maneuvers (going after the light has ...
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Is this considered sexual misconduct?

If a person have a small Buddha statue in their room and they (sorry) masturbated in that room, is it considered sexual misconduct? Sorry if this question is unappropiate.

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