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Why we can not fulfill our desires?

What characteristics in universe have that doesn't let us to fulfill our desires ? Why we get more and more desires through fulfilling desires ? (What characteristics of desires have that we have to ...
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Is wanting to do something = desire?

Is wanting to do something = desire ? Doesn't enlightened people want to do anything ? They just react to whatever comes ? ( "react" may not be a suitable word). A related question that I hope to ask ...
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How do enlightened people think?

Most of our thoughts are caused by desire. So, what are the thoughts of a person who has no desire? Another way of asking the same question: if we remove desire based thoughts, what will remain? ...
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Can trying to control the mind also lead to attachment?

When we become attached to our body, we do workouts, wear make-up and do lots of other things to gain good looks. When we become attached to our money, we work to get more and more money. Similarly, ...
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How come enlightened people don't have any laziness?

I just heard that enlightened people have zero laziness. How is it possible? What is "laziness" ? What is the connection between laziness and ego/desire? Edit: Also that monk said: "Laziness is ...
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What is admiration? How to stop craving it?

After a deep contemplation of why I couldn't move on from a relationship I found that it was because I am not getting admiration from anyone else. Actually, in past she admired me when no one else did....
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Overcoming sensual craving for food

I've become interested in Buddhism a couple of months ago, and I try to meditate daily, which had very positive effects on my anxiety and overall feeling so far. I am prone to feeling overwhelming ...
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What is the difference and relation between chanda and cetana?

In this website, it's stated that: chanda: intention, desire, will. 1. As an ethically neutral psychological term, in the sense of 'intention', it is one of those general mental factors (...
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Can there be an action free from the taint of desire? If there can be, what is the nature of that action?

There must be a desire to even bring a glass of water to drink. Without desire, no movement is possible. First, there is a sensation of thirst; out of that thirst, there is the desire for drinking ...
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Could unwholesome craving cause the wholesome desire for enlightenment?

From this question, we see answers stating that one has the wholesome desire for enlightenment, and not craving for enlightenment. In this question, we read about the difference between desire (chanda)...
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Why is desire the root of suffering?

I fail to understand how this teaching would ever help man become productive. Please help me understand this. Not everyone seeks nirvana and some people want to better the world, not only for ...
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How do you balance your desire for liberation with your wordly desires?

I'm in a strange situation right now (weird for me, at least). These past few days have been intense days of reflection on the Dhamma, which generated two effects at the same time in my overall life: ...
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“I want Happiness” / “Remove `I` and `want`” story

A man said to the Buddha, "I want Happiness." Buddha said, first remove "I", that's ego, then remove "want", that's desire. See now you are left with only Happiness. If the story given above true? If ...
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What tools does a Buddhist have to engender others to take a wiser approach?

Mum is regularly woken in the night by panic attacks which bring on uncomfortable physical sensations that she takes so seriously she has been known to ring the paramedics (always unnecessarily). ...
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Is Will Power required to renounce sense pleasures?

Is there will power & endurance required in order to renounce worldy pleasures? I am particularly speaking of those people who did not experience (profound) meditative bliss à la sukha or various ...
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Difference between desire (chanda) and craving (tanha)?

What's the difference between desire (chanda) and craving (tanha)? From my understanding, tanha is always unwholesome but chanda can be wholesome or unwholesome. How is this the case? Craving (tanha)...
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Why is lust considered as being unskillful?

Sexual lust and pornography in Buddhism is considered as being unskillful, but for me it is not clear why. If all parties involved consented to taking part in sexual acts, I don't see why they are ...
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Can the mind be trained to maintain equanimity in the face of compulsive urges/cravings (without giving in / acting out)?

Are there any practices or habits that one can employ, either frequently or on a daily basis, to train one's mind to remain still and equanimous in the face of compulsive urges or cravings, without ...
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How can one apply the skills developed through Vipassana meditation to overcome FMO/PMO (fantasy, porn, masturbation, orgasm) addiction?

As far as I understand, Vipassana meditation trains attention and equanimity. Both sound as great skills to have in order to battle addictions. However, after having attended a 10-day Vipassana course,...
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Wanting something

How do I deal with healthy desires like wanting to get a relationship etc? Is it wrong intention to want that or is it good if it stems from non-ill will, renunciation etc.? Likewise, it's bad if I ...
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Why are desires in The Five Hindrances only about “sensual” desires?

The five hindrances consist of sensual desires. ill-will, sloth and torpor, restlessness and doubt. I have often wondered why the first hindrance are limited to sensual desires as this is leaving out ...
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Wheel of life and bodhicitta

Why is the desire/attachment in the middle of the Wheel of Life considered negative and the desire of bodhicitta considered positive? What is the difference between them?
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Sexual Desire, Masturbating and Asuba Bawana

I have been wanting to ask this question for some time. So basically caught up in the social norms, i used to watch porn videos and masturbate and got a bit attached to it. Kept on doing it for a few ...
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Is Buddhism against scientific attitude?

According to Buddhism, the cause of all suffering is desire and liberation from desire would lead to the cessation of suffering. But isn’t curiosity a desire? Is Buddhism against scientific attitude? ...
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The question of why do we have craving

In Buddhism everything boils down to we as humans and animals crave. Craving is the root cause for suffering and rebirth. So the question becomes why are we hard coded to crave. Is there any ...
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Can the seeds of desires bowed in the past lives can now be eradicated from the mind completely?

Desires are the seeds which have effects later or sooner. Can we destroy such seeds without experiencing their effect or Karmas?
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What is the Difference between Desire and Compulsion?

What is the difference between desire and compulsion? When do I know that something is a desire and when do I know that something is a compulsion? Can there be compulsion in sexual thoughts even if I ...
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buddhism in real life

In the Dhammacakkappavattana Sutta the Buddha said "desire is source of all suffering". So we cannot avoid suffering in life. It is a part of life. However, he also said there was a path to the ...
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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

In most Buddhist traditions, monks are expected to follow an austere life without being married or involved with another person, but what about lay people who are not going to become monks? ...
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“Guard the sense doors”- What does this mean, and what is it's application?

What does it mean to "guard the sense doors"? What is the practical application of this concept in daily life? For example, does this concept mean that a heterosexual male should entirely avoid ...
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Three types of characteristics to achieve a goal

I have heard in a lot of sermons about how an individual achieve a goal. Even Buddha had the same type of characteristics. As far as I know they are Determination Consistency Desire to see and end of ...
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How is the “self” able to recognize the interplay between the cognitive process and “desire”?

I read in Going for Refuge & Taking the Precepts by Bhikkhu Bodhi that "cognition is subservient to wish", and "in subtle ways concealed from ourselves our desires condition our perceptions": ...
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sense of achievement oriented behavior

I had a previous question on the need to feel proud of ourselves. I was neutrally observing my thoughts and feelings when I was feeling proud of myself or feeling ashamed of myself. This led to a ...
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Detachment : What are we really parting from?

I was thinking about detachment today and this thought occurred in my mind... We like what we see,hear,touch,smell,taste & think. This liking turns into attachment over time and this is the ...