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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

I have been doing meditation for long time and have felt a change in me. I have started developing strong compassion, and due to this I am speaking very politely to everyone and always agreeing with ...
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Returning to the marketplace - examples

In the Ten Ox Herding Pictures of Zen the final picture is commonly depicted as returning to the marketplace. Enlightenment is said to be doing the most ordinary things in a most extraordinary way. ...
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Answering Other's Questions About Oneself

Do all people practicing Buddhism have difficulty answering questions like these: What gives your life meaning? What do you like about yourself? Somebody asked me these questions, and I am having a ...
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Mindfulness when on the train, underground and bus

Many of us spend at least a couple of hours per day on public transport like bus, train or underground (for me it is around 2.5 hours). How could we use that time to develop right mindfulness?
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Ambition and Expectation

I'm very interested in the polarity between ambition and expectation. On one hand to be ambitious is to be confident, to be strong, to have faith. With that comes a sense of hope, expectation that ...
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How does one escape suffering when they cannot provide for those they love

Taoism and Buddhism say we should distance our self from suffering and accept life as is if we cannot change it. But what if we have serious clinical depression or cannot provide properly for those we ...
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What practices are included in (daily lay) life for a Buddhist? [closed]

There are a number of Buddhist traditions, each with different teachings and practices. What are the daily practices lay people normally live by? For instance, living by five or eight precepts, in ...
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Is Karma different for accidental killing than intentional killing?

Ever since I have started following Buddhism, I have stopped killing any type of insects but during the course of time I have accidentally killed few insects when I had no intentions of harming them ...
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Relationships with fools: Interpreting the Dhammapada

Dhammapada Verse 61: If a person seeking a companion cannot find one who is better than or equal to him, let him resolutely go on alone; there can be no companionship with a fool. This is ...
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Should a Buddhist lay-practitioner schedule his/her daily life

I'm currently considering making schedules for my daily life in order to counteract boredom and restlessness. Does anyone has experience with doing this and maybe can give me some tips? Is it ...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?

Namo Buddhaya. For my survival I work but I do not like the work. I am always thinking of escaping it. But if I escape from it then how will I eat ? It is my only source of income. My question is :...
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Caught in a bind; what to do?

I would imagine the following may be a bit odd to be asking here outright and dare I say it, a little egoic to do so, but I was referred to this place to ask questions, and I have some questions. But ...
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What is the Theravada Buddhist lay lifestyle?

I am thinking about becoming a Buddhist, particularly a Theravada Buddhist but I must know about the lifestyle so I can change my lifestyle a bit. There is no Buddhist temple around where I am so I ...
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No aim. No perspective. Begin of 30y. Scared about political-decisions. Paranoid. What should I do?

Please make sure you read the whole text before giving me an answer. I'm very serious about this and search a very good advise, something I didn't think before. This year I'll become 30 years and I'm ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

Hello to all of you and thank you for your time in answering the questions here. I have a big problem with my feelings. I have a huge emotional lack, which means I've never moved on with my old ...
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Stages of Life according to Buddhism

Like in Hinduism, is there any teaching on the stages of life in Buddhism ? P.S. Answers for this question will be great "Dhamma gifts" for my upcoming Birth day.
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How to get rid of hate?

I have a friend that I met few years back. He always look polite, look decent, and look helping others a lot. I did him a lot of helps that no friend would do to him. Later, when I needed helps he ...
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What does Buddhism say about boredom?

Very often when I meditate, or in everyday life, there are times when I get bored. I don't have to do anything. And often I go on YouTube to get busy. It is the same in meditation, very quickly I get ...
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If someone insults you what should you do?

There is a famous story of such an encounter between the Buddha and a ‘difficult person’ named Akkosina. Akkosina’s name means “Not Getting Angry” but he was the exact opposite of his name. Akkosina ...
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Buddhism and political correctness

I stumbled upon a question about the danger in lying and Andrei's answer caught my attention. He claims that '...key qualities of good character are: Honesty, Integrity, Responsibility'. Then it made ...
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Is austerity necessary in Buddhism?

I have been watching Buddhist followers for sometime now in India and it made me wonder if austerity is necessary in Buddhism ? Like if I wish to become a Buddhist do I need to give up on listening ...
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What does Diamond Way Buddhism say about obstacles at times of becoming more conscious?

N. D. Walsch claimed in one of his books that at the point in time, when a person "switches gears" to a higher level of consciousness, it frequently happens that events occur, which you perceive as ...
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prior life what hope can we have related to our present life?

If our present existence is the result of something we could not control (from a prior life), what hope can we have related to our present situation in this life?
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Improving Sati-Sampajañña (situative wisdom)

Although one can cultivate sati (recollection/mindfulness) through meditation & good conduct (silā), & one can learn wisdom via book knowledge as well as via direct seeing (for example rising &...
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Investing in Dharma?

In the Diamond Sutra Buddha said: Subhuti, if a person collected treasures as high as 3,000 of the highest mountains, and gave them all to others, their merit would be less than what would accrue ...
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Buddhism and fornication

Most of the people follow the 3rd precept of lay buddhism without knowing the actual meaning of it. Personally, even I don't know the actual meaning of it. Most of the people including me understand ...
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What does Buddhism say about intentionally killing dangerous insects and beings? [duplicate]

Recently I got into a long debate with some people on Reddit about killing pestilent, poisonous insects. Feel free to read it. There are some interesting scientific findings. Whatever the word is for ...
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Setting foot in two different boats

First some introduction: I am in my ending teen years and like a normal teen would aspire for success, I aspire for it too. But there is a catch... I don't want to get too lost into material world, ...
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What should I tell other people about giving money to a Beggar?

This question asks whether, what, or how to tell other people about giving money to a beggar. Scenario I was seated inside the bus today and I saw a man begging for while selling some incense sticks ...
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How to maintenance equanimity in the daily life?

I would like to understand in the short and simple how to deal in the daily life. When I have the emotion and I feel the sensation i.e. cold in my palm, what should I do next? I aware that this ...
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I saw a cat killing a mouse. Could have stopped it, but didn't

I saw a cat chasing a mouse outside of my house and kill it. I could have chased the cat away and saved the mouse's life but I just watched and didn't do anything. Not that I was enjoying what I saw ...
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Why have a legal/ justice system? Let karma take care of things?

We all know people who are living immoral lives committing crimes but getting away by bending the law towards their side due to wealth and influence. When ever I see or hear something like this I keep ...
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How do I recognize the attachment to certain things?

How do I know whether I am attached to ceratain things or not ? Examples: When we attached to the taste we will trying to find more & more tasty foods. We can reduce that by getting a simple ...
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Information on the best vow/Baare to do for a child's health and safety

I am a Sri Lankan Buddhist looking for help .. Our child is very sick and doctors have said any help is difficult to be given at this time for her or operated on. I would like to ask for ...
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Should Buddhists avoid Amazon and Starbucks out of concerns about tax avoidance?

Recently companies such as Starbucks and Amazon were accused of avoiding paying UK tax. Many people were quite upset about this and people began to boycott those companies involved. From a Buddhist ...
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How to deal with people and colleagues who are angry, complaining or seeking attention?

For some reason I'm a magnet to bad people or people who are chronic complainers or attention seekers. They often come to me when they need to talk or vent. Especially at work. I don't really want to ...
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What exactly is Buddhism? Where does it help me? How can I start?

I just discovered this website and it seems really interesting! But now I ask myself: "What exactly is this? What exactly is Buddhism? How can it help me? Where does it help me?" etc. I really want ...
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Did the Buddha give any advice on how to manage economy?

I was wondering if the Buddha did give any advice on how to manage personal economics? I assume that the advice would be the middle way as applied to everything else in Buddhism. To stay away from ...
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Doing daily or complex activities without attachment

Is it truly possible to do activities without expectations or some aspect of the self ideal attached to them? Does the Buddha explain anything of the sort? If yes, how to go about achieving that? It ...
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The “working-ground” (kammatthana) of the five hindrances

My question is about the following passage (taken from the section on the five hindrances here): One who earnestly aspires to the unshakable deliverance of the mind should, therefore, select a ...
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Planning Meditation Topics

Is it ever beneficial to decide on a meditation topic before beginning to meditate? For example, say I want to deal with a specific problem in my life, e.g. hatred towards a specific person, cravings ...
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How do I practice Buddhism to attain peace of mind and know the inner self?

I am distracted by the surroundings and at times lose my presence. I think deep down on the perspectives like meaning of life, purpose of life, focus on the one who really are, but get distracted many ...
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How to deal with obstacles (with Sutta reference)

Are there any Suttas that explain how to deal with (unexpected) life obstacles? It seems that in this regard Buddhism seems to be a bit passive? I might be wrong.
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How different is the lifestyle of male monks from that of the female monks?

Lifestyle means the daily activities carried out, the monasteries, the rules and regulations, etc. If there are more than one types of the traditions, then please focus your answer on Tibetan ...
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What happens when your tank is empty, and you’ve got nothing left to give?

Today I happen to read the article “Charitable giving by country: who is the most generous?” Then this question came up. When it comes to generosity, sometimes people look at what they’ve got and ...
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Today, I killed

At work, a tiny little flying insect landed on my desk. At first I thought he was dead because he wasn’t moving, so I gently pushed him to see if he reacted, and he moved so I left him alone. Some ...
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How to be kind when you don't like people or the world?

I'm not sure I make a very good Buddhist. The thing is I really don't like people. They constantly disappoint me. I find most people to be so stupid. Take for example half of America and the idiotic ...
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Cultivate wisdom or work on compassion?

People are different and have different skills and personalities. My partner is for example very good at visualization, she is very patient and also a fabulous cook! But she’s also a bit lazy (her ...
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Family feuds… is there a path that walks through the fire without burning oneself?

thank you for reading this. my mother was born in a very large family. there were 10 girls, and 7 boys. There have always been feuds among the girls. Every holiday season was a mine field of whom ...
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How to emotionally cut free from an individual?

My friend meditates daily (non-Buddhist). He finds that from time to time a very annoying person tries to seemingly drag power and energy from him like a magnet. Can any one explain how he can escape ...