Questions tagged [daily-life]
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How to be meditative and involved at work?
At work, I try to be mindful, deliberate, and calm. I found with the help of meditation and being mindful makes me less distracted and less stressed at my work or whatever I do. But I also feel being ...
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Attitude towards harmful behaviors
Whenever I'm confronted with behaviours I find potentially harmful, I get angry. One example of this is when I witness motorists speeding or otherwise making risky maneuvers (going after the light has ...
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Is this considered wrong? (Related to art)
I have a question. I like to draw, and recently think of selling my art (commisssion). But I mainly draw fanart (fanart of celebrities, movie characters, etc).
My question is, in Buddhism, is selling ...
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Finding the balance of thinking and working
Today I realized that I am an overthinker. I postpone things because of thinking, planning. I missed lot of time due it.
But by thinking I found lot of new stuff. Those thinking is the main cause for ...
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How do I slow down and start living according to my values? How do I change the direction of my life?
For some time, I have been practising different types of meditation and yoga, and I have also tried to study a bit of Buddhism, from which I have got the main values that guide my life (I cannot say I ...
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Thinking vs Talking in mind
Sometimes, I caught me on talking in mind. Sometimes my tongue moves according to it. Sometimes I talk to myself. This feels very fast and hard to control.
There also intuition like thinking. For a ...
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What to focus on in the practise of sati?
Recently, I started to be aware of my actions as stated in Sathipattana sutta.
Today, I was aware about my movements when I moving a object. And I placed it in a wrong place. This happened multiple ...
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Trying to find causes of everything
Is trying to find causes of everything not a good practise? Isn't having rational mind a good thing?
I know that the Lord Buddha advised us to not to think about beginning of life. Because it make us ...
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Always analysing deeds: sati and samadhi
In daily Life, I always trying to focus on single good thought so no space for bad. When I did something, I tend to analyse it wether it is good or bad. It is deep most of the time because I am trying ...
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How to deal with people and colleagues who are angry, complaining or seeking attention?
For some reason I'm a magnet to bad people or people who are chronic complainers or attention seekers. They often come to me when they need to talk or vent. Especially at work. I don't really want to ...
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Today, I killed
At work, a tiny little flying insect landed on my desk. At first I thought he was dead because he wasn’t moving, so I gently pushed him to see if he reacted, and he moved so I left him alone. Some ...
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I have forgotten how to live
The previous years of my life feels like a dream. I was happily living, consumed with studies, learning things, watching youtube and stuff, enjoying a lot, mind was busy in various entertaining stuffs....
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How did the Buddha debate?
Was he trying to convince or persuade people? Did he go towards them or did he let them come to spread the Dhamma? How did he react when he was not understood or listened?
I have noticed that I ...
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Why work on one thing at a time?
Why work on one thing at a time according to the buddhism ? Did Lord Buddha advise us to do that ?
Are there any deep desires in multi-tasking ? (Like wanting to gain more in short amount of time)
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Is procastinating lengthen the samsara?
I know that good or bad karma lengthen the samsara. Similary, Is procastination / laziness lengthen the samsara ?
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How do I recognize the attachment to certain things?
How do I know whether I am attached to ceratain things or not ?
Examples:
When we attached to the taste we will trying to find more & more tasty foods. We can reduce that by getting a simple ...
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Would a wise person avoide situations where other could perform lot of demerits?
Would a wise person avoide situations where other could perform lot of demerits?
Or different asked: Would a wise person go out only if meritorious reactions are suspected?
What do you think, or ...
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Improving Sati-Sampajañña (situative wisdom)
Although one can cultivate sati (recollection/mindfulness) through meditation & good conduct (silā), & one can learn wisdom via book knowledge as well as via direct seeing (for example rising &...
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How does teaching of Buddhism deal with waste? How does teaching of Buddhism deal with acceptance even it causes unhappiness?
I'm curious to know and understand more how would a Buddhist deal with wastage under the following circumstances :
i)If it was an impulsive buy and you don't like the item after that and at the same ...
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The "working-ground" (kammatthana) of the five hindrances
My question is about the following passage (taken from the section on the five hindrances here):
One who earnestly aspires to the unshakable deliverance of the mind
should, therefore, select a ...
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How can I live life knowing other people work so hard for so little and people and animals suffer
I cry, I don't know why.
I just feel things so deeply and want to solve everyone’s problems
I don’t know but I can’t help it, it’s just in me, I can’t distance myself from their suffering, because ...
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Family feuds... is there a path that walks through the fire without burning oneself?
thank you for reading this.
my mother was born in a very large family. there were 10 girls, and 7 boys. There have always been feuds among the girls. Every holiday season was a mine field of whom ...
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How to deal with obstacles (with Sutta reference)
Are there any Suttas that explain how to deal with (unexpected) life obstacles? It seems that in this regard Buddhism seems to be a bit passive? I might be wrong.
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Setting foot in two different boats
First some introduction:
I am in my ending teen years and like a normal teen would aspire for success, I aspire for it too. But there is a catch... I don't want to get too lost into material world, ...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?
Namo Buddhaya.
For my survival I work but I do not like the work. I am always thinking of escaping it. But if I escape from it then how will I eat ? It is my only source of income.
My question is :...
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What does Buddhism say about boredom?
Very often when I meditate, or in everyday life, there are times when I get bored. I don't have to do anything. And often I go on YouTube to get busy.
It is the same in meditation, very quickly I get ...
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How to exercise goodwill in social circle?
Knowing that people in our social circle are not versed in the Dhamma, they seek gratification through the sense spheres (sensuality).
For example, most people like to be praised and engage in idly ...
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Leave pain while enjoying life?
I'm really interested in Buddhism, but I have a hard time motivating myself to follow the five precepts. I don't particularly want to stop eating meat, let alone stop drinking and/or smoking.
Can I ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?
Hello to all of you and thank you for your time in answering the questions here.
I have a big problem with my feelings. I have a huge emotional lack, which means I've never moved on with my old ...
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Does Buddhism have an answer to disturbing sexual fantasies?
I have extreme sexual fantasies that hurt me (submission, candaulism, etc.).
Because of the internet and pornography many young people have increasingly extreme fantasies, and when they are attached ...
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Pushing onself too much?
Is there a thing of pushing oneself too much to practice and doing too much which will cause someone to quit take a break for some time ? what about too little ?
how you determine the middle way ...
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Information on the best vow/Baare to do for a child's health and safety
I am a Sri Lankan Buddhist looking for help ..
Our child is very sick and doctors have said any help is difficult to be given at this time for her or operated on.
I would like to ask for ...
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How to be kind when you don't like people or the world?
I'm not sure I make a very good Buddhist. The thing is I really don't like people. They constantly disappoint me. I find most people to be so stupid. Take for example half of America and the idiotic ...
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What is wrong with my vision of karma?
We are consciousness housed inside a physical form. We started off as the nothingness of the universe ... all potential. Then we were bound to this form just as someone capturing air in a bag. ...
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What should I tell other people about giving money to a Beggar?
This question asks whether, what, or how to tell other people about giving money to a beggar.
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I was seated inside the bus today and I saw a man begging for while selling some incense sticks ...
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How does a Buddhist survive in a harsh world?
The following video got me thinking:
Machiavelli’s Advice For Nice Guys
Machiavelli believes that being kind and compassionate is good, but one often needs to learn to be harsh and ruthless in order ...
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Buddhism and fornication
Most of the people follow the 3rd precept of lay buddhism without knowing the actual meaning of it. Personally, even I don't know the actual meaning of it. Most of the people including me understand ...
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The odd phenomenon of cycle of emotions
it is a well-observed fact that that the cycle of emotions never cease to exist, but they do follow a defined route which I shall refer to in this question as the SFE route namely:
A sensation-----...
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What exactly is Buddhism? Where does it help me? How can I start?
I just discovered this website and it seems really interesting!
But now I ask myself: "What exactly is this? What exactly is Buddhism? How can it help me? Where does it help me?" etc.
I really want ...
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Is Karma different for accidental killing than intentional killing?
Ever since I have started following Buddhism, I have stopped killing any type of insects but during the course of time I have accidentally killed few insects when I had no intentions of harming them ...
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Did the Lord Buddha say anything about magic and fortune telling?
Did the Lord Buddha say anything about magic and fortune telling? I just want to know because in this modern world everyone is following some astrology (Fortune tellers). People believe what ever ...
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Chop wood, carry water: why? [duplicate]
A very famous, so famous it may be apocryphal, zen quote says:
Before Enlightenment chop wood carry water, after Enlightenment, chop
wood carry water.
What does this mean? Specifically, is the ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?
I have been doing meditation for long time and have felt a change in me. I have started developing strong compassion, and due to this I am speaking very politely to everyone and always agreeing with ...
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Awareness in the body : ticklish/tingling feeling
I'm trying to anchor my awareness while sitting at the desk.
When bringing awareness to the body , I'm getting a tickling/tingling in the body . So to make it bearable I'm trying to move attention ...
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If we tell lies to save lives, will that be a sin?
This page, Lay Buddhist Vows, says,
Do not distort fact
This one is usually translated as: don't lie. Again: it wider than that. Sometimes the use of words can make something seem ...
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How to emotionally cut free from an individual?
My friend meditates daily (non-Buddhist). He finds that from time to time a very annoying person tries to seemingly drag power and energy from him like a magnet.
Can any one explain how he can escape ...
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what is the purpose of the Buddhist marriage ceremony?
A fundamental tenet of Buddhism is freedom from attachments. If that is so, what is the purpose of the Buddhist marriage ceremony? It seems to be a contradiction, a celebration of attachment within a ...
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Escape the suffering?
if believe we can escape the suffering of this world and the limits of our material existence by observing and practicing a set of practices. for Christian, we know that the way of “escape” is only ...
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prior life what hope can we have related to our present life?
If our present existence is the result of something we could not control (from a prior life), what hope can we have related to our present situation in this life?
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Buddhists are rather serious people, won’t wear make-up and never have any fun [closed]
People tend to think that the disciples of the Supreme Buddha take life seriously. I feel that there is a grain of truth to this. Is this observation of others true? If so to what degree? I’m in ...
