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Would a wise person avoide situations where other could perform lot of demerits?

Would a wise person avoide situations where other could perform lot of demerits? Or different asked: Would a wise person go out only if meritorious reactions are suspected? What do you think, or ...
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Improving Sati-Sampajañña (situative wisdom)

Although one can cultivate sati (recollection/mindfulness) through meditation & good conduct (silā), & one can learn wisdom via book knowledge as well as via direct seeing (for example rising &...
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How does teaching of Buddhism deal with waste? How does teaching of Buddhism deal with acceptance even it causes unhappiness?

I'm curious to know and understand more how would a Buddhist deal with wastage under the following circumstances : i)If it was an impulsive buy and you don't like the item after that and at the same ...
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The “working-ground” (kammatthana) of the five hindrances

My question is about the following passage (taken from the section on the five hindrances here): One who earnestly aspires to the unshakable deliverance of the mind should, therefore, select a ...
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How can I live life knowing other people work so hard for so little and people and animals suffer

I cry, I don't know why. I just feel things so deeply and want to solve everyone’s problems I don’t know but I can’t help it, it’s just in me, I can’t distance myself from their suffering, because ...
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Family feuds… is there a path that walks through the fire without burning oneself?

thank you for reading this. my mother was born in a very large family. there were 10 girls, and 7 boys. There have always been feuds among the girls. Every holiday season was a mine field of whom ...
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How to deal with obstacles (with Sutta reference)

Are there any Suttas that explain how to deal with (unexpected) life obstacles? It seems that in this regard Buddhism seems to be a bit passive? I might be wrong.
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Setting foot in two different boats

First some introduction: I am in my ending teen years and like a normal teen would aspire for success, I aspire for it too. But there is a catch... I don't want to get too lost into material world, ...
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Should I do what I don't want to do?

Namo Buddhaya. For my survival I work but I do not like the work. I am always thinking of escaping it. But if I escape from it then how will I eat ? It is my only source of income. My question is :...
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What does Buddhism say about boredom?

Very often when I meditate, or in everyday life, there are times when I get bored. I don't have to do anything. And often I go on YouTube to get busy. It is the same in meditation, very quickly I get ...
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How to exercise goodwill in social circle?

Knowing that people in our social circle are not versed in the Dhamma, they seek gratification through the sense spheres (sensuality). For example, most people like to be praised and engage in idly ...
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Leave pain while enjoying life?

I'm really interested in Buddhism, but I have a hard time motivating myself to follow the five precepts. I don't particularly want to stop eating meat, let alone stop drinking and/or smoking. Can I ...
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How can I forget my old girlfriend?

Hello to all of you and thank you for your time in answering the questions here. I have a big problem with my feelings. I have a huge emotional lack, which means I've never moved on with my old ...
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Does Buddhism have an answer to disturbing sexual fantasies?

I have extreme sexual fantasies that hurt me (submission, candaulism, etc.). Because of the internet and pornography many young people have increasingly extreme fantasies, and when they are attached ...
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Pushing onself too much?

Is there a thing of pushing oneself too much to practice and doing too much which will cause someone to quit take a break for some time ? what about too little ? how you determine the middle way ...
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Information on the best vow/Baare to do for a child's health and safety

I am a Sri Lankan Buddhist looking for help .. Our child is very sick and doctors have said any help is difficult to be given at this time for her or operated on. I would like to ask for ...
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How to be kind when you don't like people or the world?

I'm not sure I make a very good Buddhist. The thing is I really don't like people. They constantly disappoint me. I find most people to be so stupid. Take for example half of America and the idiotic ...
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What is wrong with my vision of karma?

We are consciousness housed inside a physical form. We started off as the nothingness of the universe ... all potential. Then we were bound to this form just as someone capturing air in a bag. ...
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What should I tell other people about giving money to a Beggar?

This question asks whether, what, or how to tell other people about giving money to a beggar. Scenario I was seated inside the bus today and I saw a man begging for while selling some incense sticks ...
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How does a Buddhist survive in a harsh world?

The following video got me thinking: Machiavelli’s Advice For Nice Guys Machiavelli believes that being kind and compassionate is good, but one often needs to learn to be harsh and ruthless in order ...
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Buddhism and fornication

Most of the people follow the 3rd precept of lay buddhism without knowing the actual meaning of it. Personally, even I don't know the actual meaning of it. Most of the people including me understand ...
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The odd phenomenon of cycle of emotions

it is a well-observed fact that that the cycle of emotions never cease to exist, but they do follow a defined route which I shall refer to in this question as the SFE route namely: A sensation-----...
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What exactly is Buddhism? Where does it help me? How can I start?

I just discovered this website and it seems really interesting! But now I ask myself: "What exactly is this? What exactly is Buddhism? How can it help me? Where does it help me?" etc. I really want ...
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Is Karma different for accidental killing than intentional killing?

Ever since I have started following Buddhism, I have stopped killing any type of insects but during the course of time I have accidentally killed few insects when I had no intentions of harming them ...
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Did the Lord Buddha sad anything about magic and fortune telling?

did the Lord Buddha sad anything about magic and fortune telling, because i just want to know in this modern world every one following some astrology People (Fortune tellers) & People believe what ...
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Chop wood, carry water: why? [duplicate]

A very famous, so famous it may be apocryphal, zen quote says: Before Enlightenment chop wood carry water, after Enlightenment, chop wood carry water. What does this mean? Specifically, is the ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

I have been doing meditation for long time and have felt a change in me. I have started developing strong compassion, and due to this I am speaking very politely to everyone and always agreeing with ...
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Awareness in the body : ticklish/tingling feeling

I'm trying to anchor my awareness while sitting at the desk. When bringing awareness to the body , I'm getting a tickling/tingling in the body . So to make it bearable I'm trying to move attention ...
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If we tell lies to save lives, will that be a sin?

This page, Lay Buddhist Vows, says, Do not distort fact This one is usually translated as: don't lie. Again: it wider than that. Sometimes the use of words can make something seem ...
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How to emotionally cut free from an individual?

My friend meditates daily (non-Buddhist). He finds that from time to time a very annoying person tries to seemingly drag power and energy from him like a magnet. Can any one explain how he can escape ...
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what is the purpose of the Buddhist marriage ceremony?

A fundamental tenet of Buddhism is freedom from attachments. If that is so, what is the purpose of the Buddhist marriage ceremony? It seems to be a contradiction, a celebration of attachment within a ...
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Escape the suffering?

if believe we can escape the suffering of this world and the limits of our material existence by observing and practicing a set of practices. for Christian, we know that the way of “escape” is only ...
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prior life what hope can we have related to our present life?

If our present existence is the result of something we could not control (from a prior life), what hope can we have related to our present situation in this life?
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Buddhists are rather serious people, won’t wear make-up and never have any fun [closed]

People tend to think that the disciples of the Supreme Buddha take life seriously. I feel that there is a grain of truth to this. Is this observation of others true? If so to what degree? I’m in ...
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If someone insults you what should you do?

There is a famous story of such an encounter between the Buddha and a ‘difficult person’ named Akkosina. Akkosina’s name means “Not Getting Angry” but he was the exact opposite of his name. Akkosina ...
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What happens when your tank is empty, and you’ve got nothing left to give?

Today I happen to read the article “Charitable giving by country: who is the most generous?” Then this question came up. When it comes to generosity, sometimes people look at what they’ve got and ...
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Why have a legal/ justice system? Let karma take care of things?

We all know people who are living immoral lives committing crimes but getting away by bending the law towards their side due to wealth and influence. When ever I see or hear something like this I keep ...
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As a disciple of the Supreme Buddha, what would you do with an animal that is in severe pain?

You may get to see someone or an animal is sick and suffering in pain. You may be able to give that person or animal a medicine that helps relieve the pain somewhat. But sometimes there’s so much pain ...
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Is it not conceit when you compare yourself to other people?

Are we not thinking of ourselves as either you're better than they are, or equal to them, or worse that they are?
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I saw a cat killing a mouse. Could have stopped it, but didn't

I saw a cat chasing a mouse outside of my house and kill it. I could have chased the cat away and saved the mouse's life but I just watched and didn't do anything. Not that I was enjoying what I saw ...
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Should a Buddhist lay-practitioner schedule his/her daily life

I'm currently considering making schedules for my daily life in order to counteract boredom and restlessness. Does anyone has experience with doing this and maybe can give me some tips? Is it ...
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No aim. No perspective. Begin of 30y. Scared about political-decisions. Paranoid. What should I do?

Please make sure you read the whole text before giving me an answer. I'm very serious about this and search a very good advise, something I didn't think before. This year I'll become 30 years and I'm ...
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Is Buddhism the Way of Truth?

I mean, free from misguidance, from being wrong and misdirected? And if it the case, where is the evidence?
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Doing daily or complex activities without attachment

Is it truly possible to do activities without expectations or some aspect of the self ideal attached to them? Does the Buddha explain anything of the sort? If yes, how to go about achieving that? It ...
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What does Diamond Way Buddhism say about obstacles at times of becoming more conscious?

N. D. Walsch claimed in one of his books that at the point in time, when a person "switches gears" to a higher level of consciousness, it frequently happens that events occur, which you perceive as ...
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Cultivate wisdom or work on compassion?

People are different and have different skills and personalities. My partner is for example very good at visualization, she is very patient and also a fabulous cook! But she’s also a bit lazy (her ...
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Meditation - hot and expectant in the morning

I have been doing regular shamata meditation for three months now. By regular I mean at least two sessions of 24 minutes every day and sessions in between, f.ex ten minute sessions at work whenever it'...
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Investing in Dharma?

In the Diamond Sutra Buddha said: Subhuti, if a person collected treasures as high as 3,000 of the highest mountains, and gave them all to others, their merit would be less than what would accrue ...
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Stages of Life according to Buddhism

Like in Hinduism, is there any teaching on the stages of life in Buddhism ? P.S. Answers for this question will be great "Dhamma gifts" for my upcoming Birth day.
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How to get rid of hate?

I have a friend that I met few years back. He always look polite, look decent, and look helping others a lot. I did him a lot of helps that no friend would do to him. Later, when I needed helps he ...