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Why should one develop compassion?

Maybe a strange question, because for some people it's obvious that you should be compassionate. I'm just interested in knowing why. Hatred is unskillful, but why should one develop compassion ...
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Why does insight lead to to compassion?

Am I correct in asserting that an increasing level of insight into the true nature of things leads to compassion. Or to put it another way insight is a condition for compassion. From my reading it ...
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Compassion to friends: stepping in vs. letting them learn on their own

There is a story about how the Buddha will knock on your door if your house is on fire, but he will not kick it down because you have to answer the door yourself. This is analogous to the Four Noble ...
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Meditation, compassion: How to handle people who dominate you in the office?

I have been doing meditation for long time and have felt a change in me. I have started developing strong compassion, and due to this I am speaking very politely to everyone and always agreeing with ...
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Wisdom Devoid of Compassion

Some schools of Buddhism focus on the cultivation of wisdom/understanding as a way to reduce suffering in this lifetime and to move towards Nirvana. Other schools of Buddhism focus on cultivation of ...
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Practice of the other three Brahmaviharas

Metta has received plenty of attention and focus of practice. Even a search of Buddhism SE shows over 170 posts with the word "metta" in it. Comparatively, the other three Brahmaviharas are not so ...
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Buddhism vs. Nature and Real World

I'm not very experienced in Buddhism but while reading some articles and few books about it I wonder about one key thing.. If I am not mistaken, the compassion with other species is one of the key ...
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Hatred arising after a friend tried to make my fiancé cheat on me

Yesterday one of my fiancé's friends had a heart attack at 25 due to alcoholism. She stayed with him all night. When he was discharged she was sleeping at his house because she was too tired to drive ...
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Should I always put another person's interest before mine?

I try to become a kinder person. Sometimes I feel bad ( guilty) after not doing a service for someone, even if it's not in my benefit to do that thing. How can I understand when it's kindness toward ...
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Do metta practices and anatta contradict each other?

When I was taught the Metta Bhavna meditation practice it was suggested that I repeat the following to myself May I be well May I be happy May I be free Then again repeating the same again to ...
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What is the difference between 'compassion' and 'pity'?

This page of Dhamma Lists includes, Four Brahma-viharas (Highest Attitudes/Emotions) Heavenly or sublime abodes (best home). Near enemy is a quality that can masquerade as the original, but is ...
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Are practical solutions to everyday suffering that contradict Buddhism Upaya or avidya?

If we are caught in the great web of desire and aversion, and are roiling in Samsara, helpful or well meaning advise (to let go, to be in the moment, to inspect the emptiness of reality, to not ...
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Is there a compassion only Buddhist path?

In a recent version of the Buddhist Geeks podcast Rick Hanson said that recent academic research is showing that in the Pali Canon there were teachings indicating that compassion is enough to progress ...
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How can I become less affected by politics?

since I started my buddhist practice some five years ago, I have made great advancements. I think I've become much more accepting and loving towards others. I used to be cynical and arrogant and I ...
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What is Karuṇā? Is 'compassion' really a good translation?

Is compassion really a good translation for Karuna? I've been fooled by "patience" before, now I'm sort of suspicious of the other common translations for the paramitas. Does karuna in addition to ...
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How do you talk to someone whose loved one is dying?

What can you say to someone whose loved one (e.g. spouse or parent) is dying? Assume if you can that in the West, e.g. Europe and America, although people (strangers) might have heard the first thing ...
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Wisdom in practice

My day time job is with a Drug Helpline. This is an anonymous phone, chat and online Q/A service for drug and alcohol users and their relatives, friends, families and anyone with questions. This job ...
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What are the Buddhist teachings on how best to live a married life?

Does Buddhism describe how best to live a married life? Please provide some short excerpts. Thank you.
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Have all human beings got the capacity for compassion?

According to Buddhist doctrine and Buddhist scriptures, have all human beings got the capacity for compassion or are some humans born without the ability to feel compassion. I appreciate that this ...
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How to develop compassion while avoiding attachment?

The Buddha stressed compassion in his teachings. It seems that the more one tries to be compassionate towards people, a natural tendency of attachment develops. For example, it seems that if I try to ...
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Saving the stink bug

Real question (this happened today). Imagine you're meditating by the fireplace. Outside is cold winter with snow. You have achieved a nice level of concentration, and suddenly you see a stink bug ...
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How we can develop metta for terrorists?

Metta is benevolence towards all beings, without any discrimination, free of attachment and free of hatred. How we can develop metta for terrorists?
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How should I offer a compassionate ear to my mother while setting healthy boundaries?

I hope you are all well. I have been studying Buddhism for a few months and I am very grateful for the teachings. I've visited this website frequently for similar questions and this is the first ...
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Brahma Viharas Without Visualizing

I have a fairly straightforward question. When I visualize without aim, or even sometimes with aim, disturbing or aggressive images sometimes arise in consciousness. Can I practice meditations on the ...
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Does Buddhism have a significant notion of justice

Owen Flanagan in this podcast argued while Buddhism has an extremely well developed notion of compassion, it doesn't have a significant notion of justice. He contrasts this with ancient Greek ...
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Two Extremes of Metta

I've practiced metta, or attempted to, with mixed results. Sometimes I'm wondering even how to practice metta, and in my mind it feels like I'm just repeating "How can I develop compassion? How can ...
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Why do enlightened beings want to save sentient beings? Does everyone want to be saved?

Does enlightenment always comes with compassion so that all enlightened beings aspire to save sentient beings from sufferings? Or is the question 'why' only showing that I am using my discriminating ...
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are mundane acts of compassion meaningful?

Did the Buddha say anything of the value of mundane acts of generosity which may temporarily alleviate the suffering of others in a temporary, worldly way, but do not free others from from suffering? ...
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Sunyata is the truth and compassion is not an illusion?

It’s curious that if you study Buddhism you need to understand that Maya is an illusion and life is a product of cause and effect of past karma, so is deceptive. All my emotions are deceptive but ...
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Compassion and Wisdom

Does wise practice of compassion ever lead to suffering or bliss for the practitioner? Is there a difference between compassion cultivated through the Brammaviharas and compassion cultivated through ...
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What are metta and karuna?

I'm wondering what these terms, mettā and karuṇā (loving-kindness and compassion), mean. Are there suttas in which they're defined, otherwise where do the definitions come from? Is there any ...
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Paths of Buddhism & Possibility of Compassion

I have read about different types of paths for spiritual aspirants. Namely: Śrāvakayāna Pratyekabuddhayāna Bodhisattvayāna Of the first, Asanga states their faculties are limited: "...
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Why do I learn the most from people that suffer?

When ever I see an individual that is suffering and I am able to tolerate their suffering, is also when I seem to learn and grow the most. Spiritual leaders get me on the path but the so called 'bad ...
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Can someone address this critique?

I found a rather compelling critique on the Internet and would like to ask you to answer this. He probably misunderstood dukkha, however, he is somewhat right on the nihilism aspect of buddhism. In ...
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How to think about the four immeasurable minds?

I am curious about how to think about the four immeasurable minds in a practical way, please help me make sense of them (see detailed question below) Background In the book Teachings on Love by ...
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Feeling versus Analysis in Compassion Meditation

I believe I have read within the Dalai Lama's works that there exists (at least) two kinds of compassion meditation: Generating the four abodes within oneself, in a more concentrative and affective ...
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Feeding meat to pets is it a good karma or bad?

I switched my diet to complete vegetarian diet just out of compassion towards animals. However I am confused about feeding meat to my pet dogs. Feeding meat to one animal will directly or indirectly ...
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What is the difference between love, compassion, sympathy and empathy in Buddhism?

The Buddha has been said to be compassion however i have not seen compassion described. What does it mean to be compassionate? How is it different to love, sympathy and empathy?
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Compassion vs the invisible hand and capitalism

Compassion and empathy encompassing all beings seems to be the Buddhist ideal. How do Buddhists reconcile this today with Adam Smith's invisible hand? I.e., the idea that following our self-interest ...
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The fear of committing to a monastic lifestyle

I have a persistent fear of going without food that prevents me from giving monasticism a full shot. Some background: I suffered for approximately 4 years with something called cyclic vomiting ...
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Even if those offended are just ignorant about the word “Hinayana”, why use it?

Why use a word thought by some to be offensive even if the meaning isn't meant to be offensive? There is no other word that can be used? Would using another word (or phrase) be compassionate towards ...
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How to avoid apathy in the absence of self?

I have noticed in my meditation / mindfulness practice the following: as the idea of self dissolves, the ideas of compassion, happiness, sorrow, and basically everything that a "person" might ...
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Is the Buddhist path one of 'selfless offering' or 'inner kindness'?

Just expanding on this answer is the Buddhist path one of 'selfless offering of oneself and efforts' or of 'inner kindness' i.e. kindness to oneself. Or is it both or neither. I've come across both ...
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Dhamma makes one dispassionate then how can one be compassionate?

Namo Buddhaya. After practicing Dhamma one becomes dispassionate. However Buddha says one should cultivate and practice Compassion. So am I not killing my own profit of dispassion by compassion? My ...
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What is the view of Buddhism in correcting others' view in spite of their willingness to accept it?

I have these questions: If an enlightened mind sees that helping someone is beneficial to them, then would they do it even when the helped doesn't proactively ask? If they are hated by the helped, ...
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Are the physicists suffering?

Physicists are scientist who study the reality and draw conclusions about it scientifically. After studying what Buddha said it appears to me that Physicists are trapped in a wrong world. They believe ...
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Recurring Lack of Compassion

I am trying generally to follow the Mahayana path, with a union of emptiness and compassion. However, I experience clear problems with compassion. These manifest as : 1) general detachment from people ...
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How is one supposed to be compassionate and 100% free of suffering while others are suffering?

How is this possible besides if one simply doesn't mind if others are suffering? But if one truly doesn't mind whether others are suffering or not isn't that a lack of compassion? Is one supposed to ...
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Trust and Compassion

How can I trust someone who lies, manipulates and hurts people? I know a person who manipulates people and I know I can not trust him but recently, the mother of that person has health problems, and ...
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Can someone help me to find suttas on Self compassion

QN: I'm looking for Buddha's teachings on self compassion. (Especially for lay practitioners.) There are few verses which can be found in Dhammapada: He, who by good deeds covers the evil he has done,...