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Questions tagged [attachment]

'Attachment' is a Buddhist concept which is sometimes also translated as 'clinging' or 'grasping'. The Sanskrit and Pali word is *Upādāna*, and the Tibetan is *len.pa (lenpa)*.

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Is it possible to eliminate all attachments?

Attachment is clearly something that we have all experienced, from a baby who is attached to their mom to an adult who is attached to their family. It is clear that attachment leads to suffering, so ...
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Fame in Buddhism

What is craving for fame in Buddhism? I am aware that fame pertains to the eight worldly concerns and is detrimental. However I wonder: what is fame-seeking in Buddhism? I ask this because when I ...
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Difference Between Belief and Valuing

Just as in Buddhism one's views and self are questions of importance for well being, I noticed my difficulties relating to spirituality relate precisely to those two topics. On the one hand, I don't ...
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Can you reconcile (professional) ambition with buddhism?

I have been a practicioner of mindfulness and vipassana for a few years. I have felt that buddhism is at odds with striving towards professional success and ambition. Ambition and professional success ...
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Is the existence of life & teaching Dhamma a form of attachment?

I read the following comment on the internet (reference): By existing you are attached to this reality. If I die then I won't exist according to Buddhism. Therefore I won't be attached to reality. ...
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How can I end my attachment to holidays?

Every day I look forward to the day when there will be a holiday. Holiday brings a sense of relief to me. However I know this is a false sense of relief as after every holiday there will be a working ...
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“..but don't become attached” Do we have control whether we attach or not?

Often I hear above mentioned phrase in regards to sex, music, entertainment and basically everything else that is or seems important. Now the question is: Do we really have control whether we get ...
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Are monks allowed to have prescriptions? What did the Buddha say of medicine?

Are Buddhist monks allowed to have prescriptions, or would that be considered an attachment? Did the Buddha say anything of medicine?
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How to reconcile non-attachment in a Type-A, North American culture where work is life?

I've been meditating on-and-off for years. However, the non-attachment preached by the Buddha conflicts with the environment around me. I'm in a large urban center in North America. Achievement is ...
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In what situations can letting go of attachments be painful?

From what I understand of the Buddhist path, letting go of attachments shouldn't be painful. Are there times when letting go will be painful and if there is, why are those times different than the ...
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What to do after becoming free from suffering and attachments?

Suppose I'm free from suffering, free from attachments, untouched by pain and pleasure, with absolute, constant calm and peace of mind; feeling profound compassion towards all beings (from an ant, to ...
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Can Buddha be insulted by disrespect?

I found a video about Leshan Giant Buddha and was watching it with my family. In that video some workers were cleaning the statue's head while walking on it (it is a giant statue) - and my family ...
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How to lose identification with my body and physical appearance

Ever since I was a child I was very look concious. I took pride from my looks and took shame from them as well. I'm at a point where my sense of worth is mainly derived from such an unstable, ...
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Questions on Attachment, Entertainment and Pleasure

Forgive me if I write many questions in a single post, but these all deal with the thematic of attachment. I hope to quit my addictions to pleasures, in major part social media, by gaining insight ...
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How to have a relationship

Every intimate relationship I have ever had has ended in a lot of pain and grief. The last one lasted for 17 years but eventually broke down. That was a year ago and the pain is still very raw at ...
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Being at peace with mental phenomena

In an answer to Non-attachment as object of meditation, there was an interesting idea that the essence of many advanced practices is to be at peace with whatever happens in your phenomenal field - ...
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Non-attachment as object of meditation

Is there text (e.g. suttas, and/or articles by modern authors) which describes "non-attachment" as an object of meditation? Specifically, how is "non-attachment" an "object"? I'm asking partly ...
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How far is attachment allowed?

My dog has run away and I am sad. To be honest I was probably not taking care of him the best as one possibly could. We both excelled or declined based on my success, but I tried to allow him his own ...
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Attachment and the three poisons

Is there any dependence between these? My understanding is that ignorance is the main cause for samsara (the first of the 12 links of dependent origination). Ignorance meaning not recognizing our true ...
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Do Buddhists need affection, physical touch or intimacy?

I am interested in learning about Buddhism, and there are a lot of questions. I wonder (since it seems to me Buddhists are quite independent, and they don't attach that much to people or things) what ...
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How can I remove my desire for a relationship/girlfriend?

For at least half of my life I've had an extremely strong desire to be in a relationship/have a girlfriend and though I've tried, I've been unsuccessful and this has brought me tremendous suffering to ...
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Is smoking tobacco acceptable in any school of Buddhism?

Is smoking tobacco acceptable in any school of Buddhism? I think it shouldn't be considered acceptable: because of the fifth precept because of the first precept (smoking is physically harmful, so ...
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Is it helpful to stay single if I am not going to become a monk?

In most Buddhist traditions, monks are expected to follow an austere life without being married or involved with another person, but what about lay people who are not going to become monks? ...
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What did the Buddha mean by 'development of the body'?

When that pleasant feeling had arisen in him, it didn't invade his mind and remain because of his development of the body. from MN 36 Maha-Saccaka Sutta translated by Thanissaro. Pleasant feeling (...
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Why do the Noble Truths talk about 'craving', instead of about 'attachment'?

Further to these comments, why do the Noble Truths talk about 'craving', specifically, instead of about 'attachment'? Wouldn't they make as much sense, or even make more sense, if they identified ...
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Attachment to practice itself

Is it wholesome to set expectations for one's own practice (e.g. to have a mind free of all Five Hindrances, or to have all Seven Factors of Awakening present)? To firmly commit to the path of ...
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How to make sense of the Heart Sutra

I am very interested in the concept of emptiness and freeing myself of all attachments. Naturally I gravitated towards the heart sutra, the chant in particular is very moving. However I am completely ...
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Is it okay to seek financial gains as a layman?

I work in a highly competitive market, and often people around me only talk about money or finances or the global economy day in and day out. A few of my friends/interns were attracted to Buddhism ...
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Is detachment all about not giving damn to peoples/things?

Detachment, Everything is lust and mirage What is the real purpose of life/birth? Aren't we suppose to love, care ?
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What does Buddhism say about success?

I grew up in a western country raised in a western atmosphere with a western mentality. I'm talking things like the pyramid of needs and how apparently self-gratification and personal success are the ...
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How to develop compassion while avoiding attachment?

The Buddha stressed compassion in his teachings. It seems that the more one tries to be compassionate towards people, a natural tendency of attachment develops. For example, it seems that if I try to ...
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Attachment to body and bodily sensations

Right from the birth we are so attached to our body.Unwanted sensations easily disrupt the peace of our mind.Why is the mind so attached to the body and how to overcome such attachments ?
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Does buddhism allow for families?

I have studied Buddhism for a few years now, on and off, and this one question has been bugging me for a long time. Please correct me if I am wrong, however, the way that I understand it is that ...
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Is Buddhism “opposed” to striving, or working towards a goal that you really want

I've found that it is pleasant and exciting to work towards a goal, for example: wanting to run a 21km race, imagining the crowds, imagining the personal accomplishment. This requires a certain amount ...
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Love versus Hatred

I think Hatred and Love comes together. Sometimes people hate each other due to misunderstandings. But when the misunderstandings vanished they start to regret and Love each other. Other way ...
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Sallatha Sutta and modern psychology

The Sallatha Sutta, famous for the idea of two arrows, has the following passages that are less often discussed. I am particularly interested in interpretations of the highlighted words and how they ...
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Relationships : What is Love?

Recently i was wondering about Love and these thoughts came to my mind, i want to know if they are correct or not. As to Buddhism all sorts of love is "Attachment". And the is no such thing called a ...
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Confused about partner's practices. Need advice

My partner has an active interest in Buddhism and I have been confused about his state of mind for two years. Kindly help us out. The past two years have been a depression time for my family and ...
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Detachment : What are we really parting from?

I was thinking about detachment today and this thought occurred in my mind... We like what we see,hear,touch,smell,taste & think. This liking turns into attachment over time and this is the ...
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Is it possible to achieve universal detachment? How?

I have, for some time, tried to detach from things in my life so I can find true happiness without needing anything. Although I have had some success detaching from some things, like the need to be ...
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Is all attachment equal in nature?

In the general view of "attachment" in Buddhism, is the quality of attachment considered to be the same across all possible types of attachments? Or are there different qualities or degrees of ...
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What is attachment as per Buddhism?

Is attachment some kind of love? Parental love, a smile that comes when we get a glance of a toddler, when we spent money on good for our beloved one's then that time what is it? As per my perception ...
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Is Physical Attraction or Appreciation of the Human Form Considered Attachment?

Naturally as humans we feel many forms of attraction to other humans, but I am curious to know: Is attraction (or more so, a mere appreciation of the human form) considered a form of desire and, by ...
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Did the Buddha say anything about attachment to meditation?

I was unable to meditate today and this left me feeling frustrated, disappointed and anxious about my practice. This type of emotional reaction seems equivalent to what occurs when one is prevented ...
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Explaining non-attachment to the very attached

I've been told by someone close to me that my meditation and desire to let go are very threatening to her. She sees sense desires, ego and attachments as very natural and wholesome, and my way of life ...
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Attachment to other people and beings?

How does one live a life with multiple relationships (family, girlfriends, friends, pets, etc) while not being attached to them(being aware it will end eventually and therefore do not dwell in Dukkha ...
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Respect, attachment to position and aversion to disrespect. (In Buddhism)

One thing that is very easy to see in Buddhism is how respect is important. Respect for books, statues of Buddha and monks. At the same time we learn that attachment and aversion are bad things. ...
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What's the aim of avoiding attachment?

I've recently started to research Buddhism, and one of the first area's I've been looking into is that of attachment. I found this quote - "Seeing through the delusion of separation means we no ...
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Isnt the desire for giving up the desires, a desire?

It looks like a loop. We know desires cause us suffering, however the desire to abandon desire looks like a desire too, right? I'm sure there is a trick, something to explain why it is different, so.....
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How to keep balance in the thin line between non attachment to reputation and “not caring about anything”

One of the main problems I had to deal with, when I started to meditate and study the Dhamma, was the consequence of giving up attachment to reputation and pride. Of course this is an extremelly ...