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Kakacūpama Sutta and Mistress Vedehika

I'm not sure sure if this is opinion based or not but my question is. is it fair to judge Vedehika, poorly (and does the sutta really do this). It seems like she was pushed to the breaking point (...
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Dealing with Contempt and Social Comparison

I have been experiencing greater calm lately, yet at some moments I seem to judge others, as in public places or in general. I understand this as contempt, though I don't really believe it; I don't ...
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Would the Buddha Shelter us from being offended?

Would the Buddha shelter one from being offended by people? If so, how would he shelter one? If not, then why not?
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Dealing with Anger and Criticism

I noticed I sometimes feel anger when someone treats me unjustly, or criticizes me or one of my works. I know Buddhism advises waiting, or not acting upon anger. However, every time someone irritates ...
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metta, anxiety, and anger

I have been practicing mindful breathing for about one or two sittings a day, and done a few retreats. I have a big problem with metta, even directed at myself. after trying to practice metta I often ...
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Ways of Controlling Anger

What are some techniques that the Lord Buddha have stated to control anger? I can recall a few (listed below) but I not really sure if they are exactly correct. changing the object of your attention ...
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Hatred arising after a friend tried to make my fiancé cheat on me

Yesterday one of my fiancé's friends had a heart attack at 25 due to alcoholism. She stayed with him all night. When he was discharged she was sleeping at his house because she was too tired to drive ...
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Correct meditation Technique

I am subject to thoughts containing anger, hatred, resentment etc. which causes me lower back pain. I am using medicines but useless because the relief is temporary. I am a meditator but I watch ...
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Hosting people who are making me feel angry

I have been hosting people in my home recently, and I felt uncomfortable because they were being a little lazy for the common chores and sometimes even greedy when we had to pay for goods (eg. food, ...
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Is it helpful, how is it possible, to deal with anger by 'accepting' it with equanimity?

I'm new to Buddhism and I had just started to put some of the teachings into practice. But I'm having great difficulty dealing with my anger. I have always been rather intense in my emotions. I get ...
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Love versus Hatred

I think Hatred and Love comes together. Sometimes people hate each other due to misunderstandings. But when the misunderstandings vanished they start to regret and Love each other. Other way ...
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What does Buddhism say about how to manage other people's anger?

What does Buddhism say about how to manage other people's anger? Does Buddhism suggest any specific attitude when we are facing angry people, especially when they are unable to control their anger and/...
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Reference request: no rest for those with ill will

I am looking for a text that I recall having seen in which the Buddha says something like: There is no rest for those who are obsessed with thoughts such as 'he has wronged/harmed me' and similar. It ...
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Reference request: blame as the source of anger?

I am looking for a textual reference. I cannot recall the exact details but I will try my best; if anyone knows what I am referring to and can point me to the text, it would be much appreciated. The ...
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What is correct punishment for children?

If you see advising doesn't work with a child, are there acceptable punishments mentioned in Buddhism? I know that Buddhism does not accept physical punishment, so I am asking about any other form of ...
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(Radical) pacifism and governmental force (army, police, etc.)

Reading some comments on this subsite I ended up a couple of days ago reading this secular article on the topic of self defence in Buddhism and this question on the site here. Now, based on this I ...
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What is a wrathful Buddha?

In reading this answer to another question there were many references to "the peaceful and wrathful buddhas" in the quote from The Tibetan Book of the Dead. This is a tradition that I'm not very ...
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Dispelling anger

When anger swells up and rears its head I wish to be rid of it quickly. For a moment of anger is said to burn a mountain of merit. In my personal practice I have gotten quite adapt at controlling ...
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What are some ways to improve my practice?

I meditate for 30 minutes each day, focusing on the feeling of my breath moving through my throat. When I am not meditating, I try to mentally "say" whatever it is I am doing (e.g. if I am angry, I ...
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When did the Buddha get angry?

I wish to know the circumstances where/when Buddha ever got angry and acted upon that anger. Thanks for your time. Love.
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The arising of arrogance

I'd like to share a situation that happened to me and brought me a question about this arising of arrogance. I was driving and another driver got mad at me for a not-so-correct maneuver I did. At ...
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What is the relationship between patience and kindness?

I was just reading some of the commentarial literature in the Pali Canon and it occurred to me that there seems to be some kind of relationship between patience and kindness that I don't fully ...
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What is the Antidote for a Hateful Temperament?

What kind of practices can one do to neutralise a hateful temperament? Can i please have specific techniques.Thank you. Edit: By temperament i mean a character or habit.
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Buddhist view on letting the anger out. Any problems with that?

Many people claim they feel better, like a strong relief, after letting the anger out, so they scream at the open air or punch a sand sack. Of course I'm referring ONLY to cases where there is no ...
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Anger management - How to manage bad temper?

Is there any meditation techniques that we can used to manged Bad Temper. As I know it is possible to manage angers by observing it as "feeling angry.., feeling angry!". However the problem is with ...